I usually cover my fellow right wingers on this site, how they and conservative (and liberal) Christians assume sexual self control is impossible (among other topics); how the idea of anyone remaining celibate is a foreign idea to them, or one which they mock.
Here is an example from a secular, liberal site whose author seems to assume all or most young people will have pre-marital sex (I don’t really care to focus on all the other points this pro-abortion page makes):
Granted, the author does not specify how many, or what percentage of, young people “will always have sex [outside of marriage],” but considering his wording and attitude, it appears to me as though he’s assuming, or arguing that all or most are doing so, which is incorrect, or perhaps to an extent.
Even if 60% of teens are having sex, that means 40% are not. If the figure is 30% are having sex, that leaves 70% who are not.
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If the figure is 90% of teens are having sex, that leaves 10% who are not -I’m thinking of those ten percent who feel all alone; 90 may be a greater number than 10, but when you’re one of the ten, it may be of comfort to know there are nine others like you out there.
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I am over 40 years of age, and due to holding traditional values, ((Link): among other reasons – and for one other reason I mention (Link): in this post – but for the most part, I shall not detail my reasons in this post), I am still a virgin.
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I was waiting until marriage to have sex, but I broke things off with my fiance, so I have never married (and hence, not had sexual intercourse). If I am a virgin now (and I am), I was most obviously not having sex while a teen or a college student.
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Not everyone is having sex, for one reason or another. It’s therefore a little unfair or misleading for liberals (and sometimes conservatives and Christians) to keep perpetuating this myth in their blog posts, Tweets, magazine articles and where ever else, that all, or most, are having sex.
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Furthermore, various authors of whatever political or religious persuasion, need to stop treating adults who are voluntarily celibate or who are virgins as freaks or failures, or stop portraying them in that manner.
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Maybe if celibacy were as equally esteemed and defended as voraciously as pre-martial sex is by Christians, atheists, liberals and conservatives, more people (including the young or adult singles) would opt to for-go sex, and even go public about the fact that they are abstaining.
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Someone replied to Raw Story’s Tweet containing a link about this abortion story, and they asked in their Tweet, “Why are people punishing women for having sex,” or something similar.
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I do think a case can be made that various cultures have placed more burdens on women for their sexuality and sexual behavior than they have men, which is a sexist and horrible double standard, but concerning consensual sex, it is still up to each woman to decide when, how, or if to have sex with a man.
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If a woman chooses to have sex and chooses not to use birth control, or chooses to have sex in an area where she does not have access to birth control, that is still her personal responsibility. I am hard pressed to think of any subject in life where responsibility is removed from one’s personal choice, whether it regards sexual behavior or something else.
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If a woman has consensual sex with a man and gets pregnant and decides to use a coat hanger to abort the child she is carrying, that is on her. Unless someone – boyfriend or parent – forces her to perform an abortion on herself, she is under no obligation to attempt an abortion at home with a coat hanger or whatever other method.
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Do pro-choice / liberal sites such as Raw Story care about incidents of single women who become pregnant, do not want an abortion, but are driven to an abortion clinic against their will by parents or boyfriends? Because that has happened a time or two.
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Here are a few articles about that:
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Excerpt:
- As (Link): reported previously at Live Action:
- When Ayanna Byer changed her mind, telling Planned Parenthood’s abortionist that she no longer wanted an abortion, (Link): one was performed on her anyway. This occurred at a Colorado Springs clinic, and (Link): PPRM is being sued.
- Not only did Planned Parenthood force Ms. Byer to have an abortion against her will, but the doctor also botched the abortion. This created a life-threatening infection in Ms. Byer which was treated at an emergency room – with no timely information provided by Planned Parenthood’s abortionist. Planned Parenthood had (Link): abandoned its patient.
- [They have a few more stories of other women who had to undergo forced abortions]
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- October 2015
- By Atika Shubert and Bharati Naik, CNN
- After abducting hundreds of young women and girls from their homes in Iraq’s Sinjar province last August, ISIS fighters rounded the captives up in “slave markets” where they were picked out to be used for sex.
At any rate, there you have it. A liberal site not seemingly even allowing for the possibility that some young people are choosing to remain celibate.
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We can speculate all day about other causes as to why these men killed, or tried to kill people: perhaps they were mentally ill, or what have you – but these young men are living in cultures that make it appear as though having sex is the norm, that having sex is some kind of passage into adulthood, and are in cultures that do not affirm, tolerate, or celebrate being celibate or a virgin.
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And, this disrespect against celibacy by wider culture played a role of some significance, according to these angry young men, in why they chose to become violent towards others.
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I just saw a blog post a couple of months ago with an interview with a book author who wrote a book about sex. She has a chapter or two in her book about how Americans greatly over-estimate how many people are having sex and how often the ones who are active are having it. I cannot recall her name or the book title. I will try to find it if I can.
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I may have mentioned her in an older blog post on my blog. But she really refutes this notion in her book that everyone and their brother is having sex like dogs in heat in the United States.
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The idea that nobody in our culture is refraining from sex is a false one, and it can be discouraging for people who are practicing celibacy, and here you have a liberal site perpetuating some of these ideas.
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