She’s Waiting Until Marriage to Have Sex. Here’s Her Response to Those ‘Inevitable Jerks’ Who Think Her Decision Is ‘Stupid’ – by E. Kahn
These days, society should be respecting persons who are virgins, whether due to their choice, or because they have not been able to find a suitable partner.
We’re living in a culture that expects us to salute and respect all sexual orientations and behavior, from asexuality to homosexuality, but the same people who expect us to embrace those sexual lifestyles or orientations mock or criticize virginity or celibacy. It’s hugely hypocritical.
I would note on my blog again that leftist secularists are not the only ones who disrespect virginity and celibacy: so do many right wingers and conservative Christians – I have several blog posts with examples of that and analysis.
The following appears on the right wing site The Blaze –
-They in turn got this story from these sites:
- (Link): Waiting To Have Sex Until I’m Married Does NOT Make Me A Naive Girl – Your Tango (by Estee Kahn)
- (Link): Waiting Until Marriage To Have Sex Doesn’t Make Me Naïve– Huffington Post
January 26, 2016
A young woman who described herself as a “religious Jew” who is waiting until she’s married to have sex has a message for all of the “inevitable jerks” who think that she’s “some lonely, naive little girl” who is “stupid for believing in waiting.”
In a blog post published on relationship website YourTango and on the Huffington Post, Estee Kahn said that she has never seen herself as being “extreme” when it comes to her religion or values, but that many people somehow see her decision to abstain from sex in that light.
Noting that Jews, among many other religious adherents, believe in waiting until marriage to have sex, she said that some people have a hard time understanding why she believes that sex should be reserved for matrimony.
“When I explain my decision to people, they accept it — and some even praise it,” Kahn wrote. “But then there’s those inevitable jerks who think I’m some lonely, naive little girl and that I’m stupid for believing in waiting. I even get this from Jewish men, too.”
From there, she delivered a message for those who might not understand her very personal decision to wait.
“So let me clear some things up: I don’t regret my decision at all. In fact, even if I wasn’t Jewish, I would probably still wait,” she wrote. “For me — and maybe it’s because I’m a romantic — sex is meant to be something you do with the one you love so you can become one.”
Predicting some of the responses she will likely receive from critics, Kahn provided a rebuttal to questions and statements like “But what if he can’t satisfy you in bed?” and “You need to know if your chemistry is good in bed before you marry him” — the rationale that many use when stating that sex with more than one partner isn’t all that bad, saying that she believes none of that is important.
Kahn said that she wants her future husband to be the only person with whom she sleeps.
“When we’re together, I won’t be comparing him to previous lovers because I won’t have any,” she wrote. “And while I’ve never had sex, I know that it’s hard to enjoy it if you don’t feel even a small level of attraction to the person (be it their looks or their personality). I will be attracted to my husband so I don’t think that will be an issue.”
Read her entire post (Link): here.
Kahn’s bold blog post comes at a time when abstinence is a theme that appears to be lacking — at least in pop culture, where sex is seemingly rampant in entertainment and other social venues.
From:
(Link): Waiting Until Marriage To Have Sex Doesn’t Make Me Naïve– Huffington Post
By Estee Kahn
…In Judaism, we believe in waiting until marriage. It’s not such an uncommon concept. People of all religions and even those who have no religion believe in waiting. There are even some celebrities who reportedly waited or are waiting for marriage including Carrie Underwood, Jordin Sparks, Julianne Hough, Hilary Duff, Tina Fey, Taylor Lautner and more.
When I explain my decision to people, they accept it — and some even praise it. But then there’s those inevitable jerks who think I’m some lonely, naive little girl and that I’m stupid for believing in waiting. I even get this from Jewish men, too.
So let me clear some things up: I don’t regret my decision at all. In fact, even if I wasn’t Jewish, I would probably still wait. For me — and maybe it’s because I’m a romantic — sex is meant to be something you do with the one you love so you can become one. Sappy answer, but it’s true.
Even those who have a one-night stand have sex because they want to feel that connection, even if the intention is for the connection to go no further.
Why would I want my first experience — the first time to feel that connection — to be with anyone other than the person I hope to spend the rest of my life with?
For all those who tell me “But what if he can’t satisfy you in bed?” and “You need to know if your chemistry is good in bed before you marry him,” you couldn’t be more wrong.
When I get married, he will be my first (and hopefully my last).
When we’re together, I won’t be comparing him to previous lovers because I won’t have any. And while I’ve never had sex, I know that it’s hard to enjoy it if you don’t feel even a small level of attraction to the person (be it their looks or their personality). I will be attracted to my husband so I don’t think that will be an issue.
Honestly, all of this shouldn’t matter; in the end, this is my belief and you telling me how wrong it is just makes me realize how right it is. Nothing you say will make me change my beliefs. The only man I will kiss and sleep with will be my husband — and I cannot wait to find him.
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(Link): I’m a 30-Year-Old Female Virgin – Should I Tell The Guys I Date? (Advice Column)
(Link): Supreme Court Overturns Roe Vs. Wade, Returns Abortion to the States (June 2022)
(Link): Stop Pretending Sex Never Hurts, By D.C. McAllister
(Link): The Myth of Safe Sex by D. Foley
(Link): Virgin Shaming: Hollywood’s Attack on Purity (by B. Bowen)
(Link): Why are young feminists so clueless about sex? by M. Wente
(Link): Woman Says She Refuses to Hook-up with Men ‘For Fun’ – Says Most Men She’s Met Are Willing to Wait
(Link): The Contemporary Church Undervalues Celibacy / Virginity
(Link): When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments
(Link): Sex, Love & Celibacy by Christian Author Dan Navin
(Link): The Contemporary Church Undervalues Celibacy / Virginity
(Link): Living Myths About Virginity – article from The Atlantic
(Link): The Christian and Non Christian Phenomenon of Virgin Shaming and Celibate Shaming
(Link): Sometimes Fornication Can Impact Another Relationship Later – One Example
(Link): Gonorrhea Super Strain Becoming ‘Untreatable’ (in the UK; may be heading to the USA) – 2015 story
(Link): Our Bodies Were Not Made for Sex by T. Swann
(Link): The Contemporary Church Undervalues Celibacy / Virginity
(Link): Living Myths About Virginity – article from The Atlantic
(Link): The Christian and Non Christian Phenomenon of Virgin Shaming and Celibate Shaming
(Link): Inconsistency on Feminist Site – Choices Have Consequences
(Link): How Feminists Are Making Women Easier Rape Targets
(Link): On Miley Cyrus Being Sexual at 2013 VMAs – Hypocrisy of Secular Feminists
(Link): Why Comic Characters and Super Heroes Can’t Marry – Marriage Makes People Selfish
(Link): Anti Virginity Christian Blogger Tim Challies Now Writes: ’31 Days of Purity: My Identity’ – What?
(Link): Depressing Testimony: “I Was A Stripper but Jesus Sent Me A Great Christian Husband”
(Link): Hypocrisy From The ‘No Slut Shaming’ Crowd by C. Nance
(Link): Editorial about Celibacy by Ed Shaw
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