Eight Pieces of Christian Dating Advice that are Keeping Me Single. by Nina Borum – from Stuff Christians Like.net

Eight Pieces of Christian Dating Advice that are Keeping Me Single. – from Stuff Christians Like.net

(Link):  Eight 8 pieces of Christian dating advice that is keeping me single. by Nina Borum

Excerpts:

….but I have taken all the advice below and find that I am still single.

4. God’s timing is perfect.

Is it? According to abcnews.com women lose 90% of their eggs by age 30.
Chop Chop Jesus. Chop Chop.

5. Focus on your marriage to Jesus. He is your true husband.

Right. But there are some things that Jesus doesn’t do like take out the trash, rub my feet and you know the whole sex thing. Is it wrong that I am disappointed that there is apparently no sex in heaven? I digress.

8. Singleness/Celibacy is a gift from God.

Does this gift have a return policy? It doesn’t fit me very well and I don’t recall putting it on my Christmas list.
— end excerpts —

A few of the comments at the bottom of that page (there, were, unfortunately, a lot of trolls and idiots on their page in the comments, but these comments were okay)

ROSE SAYS / SEPTEMBER 20, 2014 AT 8:53 AM

I became single again when my husband died. The grass had not yet sprouted on his grave when questioning commenced regarding my relationship status.

It caught me off guard, I was confused and did not know how to respond.

I felt like I was under attack. I was in uncharted waters and realized I had better have some responses at the ready to defend myself.

An unusual position to be in, defending my own self, defending my personhood. My eyes are now open to singles and their struggles, because I am now one of them. How would I respond to well meaning but clueless advisors?

First of all, the advisors need some serious help, so I propose a new Helpful Advice for Singles list.

At the top of the list: Do not ask: “Are you seeing anyone?” instead ask “How would you like to come over on Friday night? John is inviting a couple of single friends from his work, we are going to get some takeout food, put the kids to bed and then hang out and watch a movie?”

The method of communicating this list to our advisors is another dilemma. Often I am caught off guard by the abrupt nature of these encounters.

Like basketball, we need a good defense but we need to score some points too! I thought about having a stack of printed Helpful Advice To Singles in my purse to hand out but this seems a bit awkward and over the top. And I was never good at handing out tracts.

post by STEPHANIE C. SAYS OCTOBER 14, 2014 AT 2:32 PM

I am a 50 year old never married christian VIRGIN. I am attactive-have 30 years with a major corporation and am having a hard time finding a mate.

I dated a guy at church for two months and broke up because he was being verbally abusive.

I read it is good to do charity work and websites such as meetup.com to meet the opposite sex and I am going to try those. I was in a paid christian dating site for four years and only ran into scam artists.

DAN FROM GEORGIA SAYS / FEBRUARY 2, 2014 AT 12:54 AM

Absolute. Worst. Advice. I. Was. Ever. Given:

“Just wait. Wait on God. Wait. Wait.”

Funny. just about everybody around me was getting married in the 20s and I was told to wait. Wait. Wait on God. Just wait. Wait. Wait.

Mike Dean Says

Thanks much for the post!! I enjoyed reading the list and laughed quite a bit
Being 53 when I married, I can relate to most of the items, especially the one relating to being content (as in, “If I’m content being single, why would I want to be married?”)
I do observe, in my single years, that “becoming the right person doesn’t happen while being alone”


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