❤ Valentine’s Day, the Church and Single Awareness Day? by J. Storment ❤
I don’t think I am actually going to make a Valentine’s Day post this year ON the day itself, or shortly before.
Valentine’s Day is this Sunday, so you can consider this here post this blog’s annual Valentine’s Day (Singles Awareness Day) post.
Unless I come across a really groovy, outstanding V-Day post between now and then, this is it, then I will consider logging in and making a new post – but I will be kind of busy later this week, so I don’t know if I will have time.
The following is a blog post that covers much of the same ground my own blog has addressed:
(Link): Valentines Day, the Church and Single Awareness Day? by J. Storment (on Jesus Creed blog)
So unfortunately this year Valentine’s Day falls on a Sunday.
I say unfortunately because in most of the churches I’ve seen in life make a really big deal about marriage and families and romance and kids and happily ever after, and rightfully so. Those are good gifts from God in many people’s lives.
But what is so unfortunate about Feb 14th falling on a Sunday this year, is that many (most) churches have gone beyond celebrating marriage and family.
For the past several decades we’ve all but idolized it.
… Stanley Hauerwas points out that when Christianity first was introduced to the pagan world it changed the way they viewed marriage because it de-idolized it. After all, there was no more radical act in that day than to live a life without producing heirs.
… If you were getting acquainted with the Jesus story for the first time, one of the most shocking parts about Jesus life would be the fact that Jesus is single, stays single, even fulfills God’s purposes as a single!
We forget what a scandal it was in 1st Century Judaism that Jesus was not married. As a Jewish man, (especially a rabbi) You had a duty to God, your ancestors, and to your family to marry and make babies. Later rabbis would even say: “Seven things are condemned in heaven, and the first of these is a man without a woman.”
Marriage was so taken for granted that Biblical Hebrew has no term for bachelor.
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❤ (Link): Instagram is Making Valentine’s Day Even Lonelier by Margaret Renkl
(Link): “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site
(Link): A Valentine for the Single Christian by K L Bishop
(Link): Single and Already Over Valentine’s Day? This Tweet Round Up Is For You by B. Wong
❤ (Link): Valentine’s Day: The Unromantic Origins of the Holiday by S. Barr
(Link): Want To But Can’t – The One Christian Demographic Being Continually Ignored by Christians Re: Marriage
(Link): False Christian Teaching: “Only A Few Are Called to Singleness and Celibacy”
(Link): Article: 30 And Single? It’s Your Own Fault by C. Courtney
(Link): Otherhood – An overlooked demographic – the Childless and Childfree Women and Singles Especially Women Who Had Hoped to Marry and Have Kids But Never Met Mr. Right (links)
(Link): Typical Incorrect Conservative Christian Assumption: If you want marriage bad enough, Mr. Right will magically appear
(Link): Husband-Hunting is the Worst Part of a Christian Upbringing – Christianity Made Me Obsessed with Finding a Husband – by B. Ramos
(Link): Leaving Christianity gave me the fairy-tale ending I always wanted / Divorce and pre-marital sex destroyed my relationship with Christianity by T. Sheehan
(Link): Single Adults – Why They Stay and Why They Stray From Church – Book Excerpts
(Link): Our Bodies Were Not Made for Sex by T. Swann
(Link): Unmarried / Single People Are Supposedly Bitter & Have Too Much Baggage – and that’s why you’re still single they say
(Link): Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer
(Link): What Two Religions Tell Us About the Modern Dating Crisis (from TIME) (ie, Why Are Conservative Religious Women Not Marrying Even Though They Want to Be Married. Hint: It’s a Demographics Issue)
❤ (Link): Men Care More About Valentine’s Day Than Women, Says (2019) Survey by Z. Gervis
❤ (Link): Some Lady Tells Singles Not To Feel Sad on Valentine’s Day
❤ (Link): Preacher Matthew Hagee Insults Singles on Valentine’s Day
❤ (Link): Happy Valentine’s Day to all the Unmarried People out there!
❤ (Link): Meet the Most Vitriolic Valentine’s Day Haters Around the World
❤ (Link): Insensitive Valentine Meme – you can’t feel sad about being single if your parents are still living
❤ (Link): Chinese Singles Buy Movie Tickets So Couples Can’t Sit Together on Valentine’s Day
❤ (Link): Guy So Depressed Over Being Single He Cut Off His Own Penis (article)
❤ (Link): Thirty Year Old Woman Kills Herself Due to Being Single and Childless – Churches contribute to this by either Ignoring adult singles or shaming them for being single and childless
(Link): Christian Patriarchalists and Gender Complementarians Sexualizing the Trinity and Insisting Sexual Activity is Necessary to Fully Know God (via Under Much Grace blog)
(Link): Adult Singles Do Not Need A Marital Partner to Be Whole or Complete
(Link): Moving past stereotypes about sexual desire to find wholeness in Christ By Kelli B. Trujillo
(Link): How Christians Have Failed on Teaching Maturity and Morality Vis A Vis Marriage / Parenthood – Used as Markers of Maturity Or Assumed to be Sanctifiers
(Link): The Netherworld of Singleness for Some Singles – You Want Marriage But Don’t Want to Be Disrespected or Ignored for Being Single While You’re Single
(Link): Widower to Advice Columnist Talks about Being Stereotyped by Married Couples or Ignored by Other Marrieds Since His Wife has Died
(Link): Never Married Christians Over Age 35 who are childless Are More Ignored Than Divorced or Infertile People or Single Parents
(Link): Instone-Brewer: Ancient Jews Expected All to Marry, Was Illegal to Remain Single in Ancient Rome
(Link): To Get Any Attention or Support from a Church These Days you Have To Be A Stripper, Prostitute, or Orphan
(Link): Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin
(Link): Christianity Should Be Able To Work Regardless of Culture, Childed or Marital Status / Article: Unlike in the 1950s, there is no ‘typical’ U.S. family today by B. Shulte
(Link): The Bible Does Not Teach Christians to “Focus On The Family” – The Idolization of Family by American Christians (article)
(Link): Ever Notice That Christians Don’t Care About or Value Singleness, Unless Jesus Christ’s Singleness and Celibacy is Doubted or Called Into Question by Scholars?
(Link): Have we made an idol of families? by A. Stirrup (copy)
(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Isn’t
(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family) (article)
(Link): Married People Who Find Themselves Single Again – Spouses With Dementia / Married People Who Are Lonely
(Link): Five Unhelpful Things Singles Are Tired Of Hearing by R. Duncan / Eight Things You Should Never Say To Your Single Friends by K. Wilkinson
(Link): According to Pastor – Jimmy Evans – It Takes One Man and Woman Married To Equal A Whole – so where does that leave Christian singles ?
(Link): Is The Church Failing Childless Women? by Diane Paddison
(Link): Lies The Church Tells Single Women (by Sue Bohlin)
(Link): Article: My Savior My Spouse? – Is God or Jesus Your Husband Isaiah 54:5
(Link): A Response to the Hemingway Editorial ‘Fecundophobia’ – conservatives and Christians continue to idolize children, marriage – which is unbiblical
(Link): “Because I was single I felt second class.”-by Chandin, former Mars Hill member & single, on Mars Hill church
(Link): Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles?
(Link): Why Singles Belong in Church Leadership by L. Ferguson
(Link): The Isolating Power of Family-Centered Language
(Link): 34 Year Old Single Woman Harassed by Relatives at Wedding Over Why She Is Not Married Yet Asks How To Get Them to STFU About Her Singleness
(Link): I’m Single, But I’m Still a Whole Person (article)
(Link): Are Single People the Lepers of Today’s Church? by Gina Dalfonzo
(Link): Are Christian Singles The New Second Class Christian? by Duke Taber
(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings
(Link): Salvation By Marriage Alone – The Over Emphasis Upon Marriage (and “family”) by Conservative Christians Evangelicals Southern Baptists
(Link): Misuse of Terms Such As “Traditional Families” by Christians – Re: Kirk Cameron, Homosexual Marriage, and the 2014 Grammys
(Link): Stop Telling Adult Singles and Adult Virgins That Their Virginity and Singleness is “For God’s Glory” – just stop it already
(Link): Southern Baptists Pushing Early Marriage, Baby Making – Iranians Pushing Mandatory Motherhood – When Christians Sound Like Muslims