A Valentine for the Single Christian by K L Bishop

A Valentine for the Single Christian by K L Bishop

She says a lot of things in her post I’ve been saying on my blog for years. So if you appreciate some of the points I’ve been making on my blog, you should probably dig this.

(Link): A Valentine for the Single Christian by K L Bishop

Excerpts:

…. It seems that being single in the church is a difficult situation these days. Many churches have made marriage and family somewhat of an idol. There have probably been millions of sermons delivered on dating, courting, marriage, waiting for marriage, etc.

But it is not often that our pastors preach to the adult singles in the pews, or encourage people to embrace their singleness.

…I know many singles may sincerely and truly hope and pray to find someone to share their lives with. That’s not wrong! What is wrong is when the church makes us feel like we are less than if we don’t achieve that goal. What is wrong is when the church places that goal above the goal of simply living in God’s will.

….Our identities are not found in being husbands, wives, mothers, fathers, or even sons, and daughters. Our identities are found in Christ…

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