Virginity is a Sacred Choice, Not a Shameful Status by C. Martin / Giving Sex to a Man is Not A Relationship Lasting Guarantee Contra Comic Chelsea Handler

Virginity is a Sacred Choice, Not a Shameful Status by C. Martin / Giving Sex to a Man is Not A Guarantee for a Lasting Relationship – Contra Comic Chelsea Handler

The following blog post contains strong profanity in places and some frank sexual talk.
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Not that I object to this editorial per se, but it’s being carried by the same site (a pro-life site) that (Link): usually denigrates female virginity – because they put too high a premium on people pro-creating, and if a woman is remaining chaste, she is, in their opinion, in sin, or error or some sort, for not having sex and making babies, because supposedly, a woman’s only purpose in life is to make babies (even though the Bible no where teaches this concept).

But here is a guest editorial they are featuring where the author is defending a person’s right to sexually abstain, and it’ okay.

(Link): Virginity is a Sacred Choice, Not a Shameful Status by C. Martin

Excerpts:

  • by C. Martin
  • Our society is obsessed with talking about sex, regardless if you’re having it or not. Take for instance the recent March (Link): cover of People magazine, which featured the title, “Bachelor’s Sean & Catherine, Waiting for Our Wedding night.”
  • To make things a bit clearer, they added below the title, “No sex until ‘I do.’” The cover may intrigue those who scratch their heads, wondering in earnest why anyone would (gasp) wait to have sex.

  • I’m not a fan of The Bachelor. Twenty-plus girls making out with one guy who professes his love to multiple ladies isn’t my cup of tea.
  • Nevertheless, I think it’s interesting that America is so intrigued by Sean’s “born-again virgin” status. A “BAV” in Sean’s definition stands for someone who’s had sex in the past but no longer chooses to. A common and accepted word for that lifestyle choice is “celibate.”
  • …. Biderman may be partly right in his assumptions that we’re beyond the days where premarital sex has a social stigma.
  • However, his million-dollar bounty [regarding Tim Tebow’s virgins status] was never claimed [because nobody stepped forward to say they had sex with Tebow]. That proves there are still people in the world who value waiting for marriage.
  • … Some people believe that waiting ’til marriage is a joke. Comedian Chelsea Handler recently made (Link): news for the rude comments she made assuming Taylor Swift’s multiple break-ups were the result of her being a virgin who refuses to give it up.
  • Chelsea, who wrote the book My Horizontal Love Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands, has no problem sharing her sexcapades with the world, yet she thinks virginity is a laughing matter.
  • Abstaining from sex is a decision that should be respected. People who chose abstinence are making a brave choice. I’m a 31-year-old woman who’s proud to admit I’m a virgin who’s waiting for my wedding night to have sex. I wholeheartedly support abstinence education because I believe that it teaches people valuable lessons on self-worth, self-discipline, patience, commitment, loyalty, and responsibility.
  • — end article excerpt—

Regarding this part:

… Some people believe that waiting ’til marriage is a joke. Comedian Chelsea Handler recently made (Link): news for the rude comments she made assuming Taylor Swift’s multiple break-ups were the result of her being a virgin who refuses to give it up.

Chelsea, who wrote the book My Horizontal Love Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands, has no problem sharing her sexcapades with the world, yet she thinks virginity is a laughing matter.

— end article excerpt—

I think people like Chelsea Handler who mock virginity are maybe uncomfortable with the idea that some people, other women especially, do remain virgins until marriage.

The mere existence of adult virgins makes fornicating adults feel guilty over their fornication.

Left wingers in particular have a strange desire and need to have all their lifestyle choices validated, approved or, and celebrated by everyone.

Let me give a comparison to drive that first point home.

I happen to not only be a 40-something virgin, but I am a teetotaler as well. I do not drink alcohol.

I can’t begin to count the number of times since I was in my late teens or 20s and older, and I have been harassed into attending parties by family or friends (I am an extreme introvert who hates parties, crowds, being around people, and social functions) where alcohol is being served and the other party-goers are very uncomfortable with the fact I am the only one in the room not drinking.

I can feel the vibe off the drinkers that my just being there not drinking is making them feel ill at ease.

Understand: I do not care if others drink.

When I attend a party, I do NOT make a big production number out of the fact I am a teetotaler. I don’t sit around glaring in judgment in the people around me who are sipping beer. I don’t comment on alcohol either way.

I don’t  give anti-alcohol lectures to drinkers.

I actually try not to give away to the rest of the crowd I am a teetotaler, because people like me are made to feel uncomfortable in parties by drinkers for abstaining.

I don’t draw attention to my teetotaling when I am at social events, because I will get the questions and intrusive or judgmental comments from drinkers about my non-drinking.

So, I sit at parties quietly sipping on my iced tea or diet Coke, hoping the drinkers won’t notice I’m not indulging in alcohol.

Never-the-less, people at parties – those who are drinking beer or booze – always notice that I am the only person, or one of the few, who is abstaining from drink. They will inevitably hound me over my non-drinking, they will demand to know why I’m sipping tea instead of a beer. Some of them try to be polite about it, others are pushy about it.

It’s the others at the parties who make a big deal about my non-drinking, who ask me things like, “So, are you a recovering alcoholic?,” and so on.

Here’s a few reasons why I personally don’t drink:

  • Alcohol tastes like complete shit (even the sweet, mixed drinks for ladies tastes terrible) and contains empty calories. I have sampled beer and alcohol before due to other people’s non-stop badgering and don’t care for the taste.
  • Turning to alcohol when upset, angry, disappointed, or sad is an irresponsible cop-out, bad choice, and indicates lack of self-discipline.I prefer to deal with my anger or pain in life straight up and head on: crying about it, doing healthy things like jogging, bike riding, or other non-health damaging things, such as writing in a journal, blogging, etc.
  • I don’t want to be drunk: I like being in control of my body and thoughts at all times, and I don’t want liver damage.
  • I don’t want to be taken advantage of (raped or molested) by men at parties, bars, or clubs
  • Though I myself am not an alcoholic, alcoholism runs on one side of my family, and I don’t want to turn into one (alcoholism is supposed to be genetic, you can be more prone to it if you come from a family of drunks).
  • I don’t want to get behind a wheel drunk, crash my car into a tree, and kill myself –  or crash into someone else and kill them.

Most people in our culture drink alcohol or beer.

Drinkers cannot fathom the idea that someone can be a teen, or in their 20s or older, and abstain from alcohol.

Most drinkers tend to think and assume that ALL adults LOVE alcohol and drink, and they assume that all adults SHOULD love to drink.

I think deep down inside that people who drink (for the wrong reasons) know it’s wrong to drink for wrong reasons or to drink to excess.

Drinkers know in the backs of their minds that it’s morally wrong or a weakness to use alcohol for “liquid courage,” or because they cannot cope with life’s problems without getting drunk.

Therefore, it makes them uncomfortable if there is so much as one guy in the room drinking soda or water instead of beer or liquor – even if that teetotaler is NOT passing judgement on anyone else in the room, but just minding their own business -the conscience of the drinker is still pricked.

Drinkers feel less condemned if everyone around them is drinking it up, too. So, drinkers want to shame or pressure the non-drinkers into drinking as well.

If everyone is drinking, then drinking must be morally acceptable, right, it must mean it’s okay for you the drinker, to be drinking, yes?

It’s the same concept with these hypocritical, left wing, douche bag, secular feminist types (such as Chelsea Handler) who mock women (or men) who are sexually abstaining.

The fact that there are adult virgins or celibates makes the fornicators feel judged and condemned for their own sexual sins and choices, even if and when the celibates and virgins are NOT saying didley bupkiss squat against fornication.

Just knowing you exist, that you are an adult who is choosing to sexually abstain, is enough to make the consciences of some fornicators feel judged.

In Handler’s case, even a possibility that an adult over the age of 21 might be a virgin – such as singer Taylor Swift – is enough to get her worked up and in judgment mode.

Instead of fornicators dealing with their own shit and totally owning their own sexual choices and behavior, they, the fornicators, find it easier to shame or insult the adults who are not having sex – and the more famous ones do this in books, radio shows, on TV, and in interviews.

According to this article, Handler was suggesting in some book she wrote or interview she gave that Taylor Swift’s boyfriends kept breaking up with her because Swift must be a virgin; the boyfriends must have wanted sex, but Swift was not giving them any, which drove them away, supposedly.

Chelesea Handler can go take a long walk off a short pier on several fronts concerning that point:

  1. I take it that Handler would want other women to respect her sleeping around (according to that article, she had many one night stands, and she seems quite proud of those), but she refuses to respect another woman’s sexual choice that differs from hers (i.e., being a virgin or being celibate)?
  2.  Secondly, I’ve no idea if Taylor Swift is a virgin or not. Neither does Handler know for certain either way  (unless Swift has admitted publicly in interviews what her sexual status is, which I don’t think she has).So where does Handler get off jumping from one assumption to a far out conclusion  (Swift must be a virgin, therefore, men don’t want to stay in a committed relationship with her)?Also, do we know for a fact why each of Swift’s relationships came to an end? I don’t think we do – it’s quite possible Swift dumped one or more of her boyfriends, for who knows what reasons – which may not be sexual in nature.Why does Handler assume the men are dumping Swift, when perhaps it’s the other way around: Swift dumped the men? Or maybe it’s half and half: men did the dumping half the time, and the rest of the time, Swift did the dumping?
  3.  So much for being a feminist:Handler thinks it’s okay for a man to pressure a woman into having sex, or to break up with her, for simply not having sex with him?She’s basically saying a man can do whatever, however, and whenever he wants with a woman sexually; that a man is not being a prick and a dog for dumping a woman who chooses of her own accord that she will NOT let that man have sexual access to her body.Handler seems like those sexist jackasses who populate MRA forums: she thinks men are owed sex from women, apparently. She couldn’t be more wrong.

    Even if her theory were true: Swift is a virgin and her virginity drives boyfriends away: that speaks less of Swift and Swift’s choices and sexuality and more to the entitled, selfish, sexist, warped views of the boyfriends doing the dumping.

Regarding point 2 above. I have a family member who is, or was, for a good part of her life, highly promiscuous. This person knows I am celibate.

Let’s say this family member’s name I am referencing  is “Susan” (not her real name).

Years ago, “Susan” and I were having a conversation about sex and dating. She told me that having sex is not a guarantee to keep hold of a man.

Susan has had sex with a lot of men over her life  – outside of marriage – and she’s had them break up with her for one reason or another, but refusal to have sex on her part with these men was certainly not one of those reasons.

In some relationships Susan has been in, including a marriage or two, she was the one with the high libido and the man stopped wanting sex and stopped “putting out,” which Susan found very frustrating, but she did not break up with those men.

According to anecdotal information I have from Susan (my family member) and other women I have known, or whose stories I have read online or in women’s magazines, even if you are giving a man regular, hot, steamy sex -even kinky, gross sex (the sort women’s magazines say men insist upon or they will break up with you), he may still dump you anyway, or have affairs on you.

By the way, I did a blog post several months ago (you can (Link): read that post here) about a 20-something woman who, against her better judgment, let her new boyfriend perform anal sex on her: he dumped her shortly there-after.

The 20 something woman who wrote the article said she did not truly want to have anal sex with this selfish, perverted, dickwad boyfriend – she said allowing him to perform that act on her felt shameful and humiliating (many women also find that act physically painful), but she felt if she did not do what he wanted sexually, he would dump her.

So, she gave in and allowed him to perform anal sex on her … and he dumped her ANYWAY. This goes to show that the Chelsea Handlers of the world are filled with shit in regards to how relationships work.

Handler thinks being a virgin is a reason a man will dump you – actually, being a kinky whore between the sheets will cause some guys to dump a woman. (Being the kinky minx in the bedroom is certainly not a guarantee that the guy won’t dump the woman later.)

Quite frankly, I would not want to stay in a relationship with a man who makes demands like these: “Either perform this sex act on me that you find repulsive, or I will dump you.”

-My response: okay fine, adios, chump.

It’s not so much the sexual acts (or lack there of) you may do with or to a man, it’s the character of the man, how selfish that man is, and how much he respects the woman and her sexual boundaries, and/or how much he wants a long lasting relationship that is significant.

If you’re with a guy who really truly cares about you and your needs and feelings, he’s not going to dump you if you are a virgin, if you refuse to have anal sex with him, refuse to give him blow jobs, or whatever.

If a guy is going to dump you over any of that – he wants you to engage in sexual acts you don’t feel comfortable with – or you don’t want to perform any acts at all – he is a selfish, immature jerkhole, period, end. of. story.

The problem is with that guy, not with you or your sexual standards – at the very least, you have differing relationship goals, and you not wanting to give in to the man’s goals does not make you wrong, a prude, or horrible.

These selfish, deviant men who issue sexual ultimatums to women can hook up with the Chelsea Handlers of the world, since her type is more than willing to lower herself sexually in desperation to attract or keep a man – and apparently out of some perverted definition or understanding of “feminism,” where being “feminist” means being a sexual slave to men and what men want, where a man’s sexual urges and preferences are placed above a woman’s concerns. The rest of us have self esteem, dignity, and are willing to pass those losers up.

There are facets of Christian gender complementarianism and Christian patriarchy who believe it’s a wife’s DUTY to have sex with her spouse, even if she does not want to, is feeling sick, or is tired.

Christian preacher and all around sexist swine Mark Driscoll even at one time taught women in his congregation and via his You Tube preaching videos that the Bible says it’s commanded of them that they must perform oral sex on their husbands, though the Bible says no such thing.

Most women do not like giving blow jobs to men, and the ones who claim to like it are lying liars. But here you have a “Christian” pastor (Driscoll) at one time teaching wives they are pretty much obligated to do this very thing.

Yet other Christians – among the patriarchalists – deny there is such a thing as martial rape, even though the states recognize there is such a thing and there are laws against it.

When you see a left wing, secular feminist such as Chelsea Handler (at least I assume she is left wing) mocking an alleged virgin for losing boyfriends due to being a virgin, Handler is pretty much, inadvertently, siding with these far, far right wing, conservative Christians who also say a woman’s sexual choices should not be respected but should be dictated by men and what men want. Way to drop the ball on women’s equality, there, Handler.

Then of course, there are Asexuals, who I have (Link): blogged about before. According to some information I have read, some Asexuals say they do have a libido, but they are not sexually attracted to anyone, so they avoid dating or having relationships at all. I can only wonder, since Handler mocks deliberate celibates, if she would also ridicule Asexuals, too.

I am not a Taylor Swift expert. I haven’t read the Daily Mail article that chronicles Handler’s derision of Swift’s supposed virginity. You know, relationships are just plain difficult, even if both partners are having sex with each other.

I do not understand this juvenile mindset – what is Handler, in her 30s or 40s? – which thinks if two people are having regular sex, their relationship will last.

Guys in high school will sometimes threaten their teen-aged girlfriend: ‘have sex with me, or I will break up with you.’ This is an immature, selfish idea that Handler is actually promoting and propagating vis a vis her ridicule of Swift’s alleged virginity.

How many movie stars and rock stars are there who’ve had marriages – where I’d assume regular sex was taking place – who none- the- less divorced, and probably over non-sexual reasons?

I am thinking right now of a cooking show hosted by a very nice TV actress who was, years ago, married to a very famous guitarist in a rock band. They had a son together but later divorced. They obviously had sex at least once in their marriage, but having sex did not keep their marriage from falling apart (the actress later remarried some other guy). How did having regular sex work to keep that marriage together? It looks as though it did not.

I’ve had enough with the people in culture – and it’s usually liberal, secular feminists  who wear their slut status as though it’s a badge of honor, they dare culture to judge them for being just as slutty as some men are – but who then preen around mocking women who choose to be celibate.

I can’t follow the reasoning; they want to be respected for being slutty but they want to ridicule women who are not slutty for not being slutty. Celibate and Virgin Shaming is a-OK in their world view.

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Related Posts:

(Link):  Marcotte on Anyone Choosing To Be a Virgin Until Marriage: “It’s a Silly Idea” – What Progressive Christians, Conservative Christians, Non Christians, and Salon’s Amanda Marcotte Gets Wrong About Christian Views on Virginity

(Link): Can someone really be a ‘born-again virgin?’ by L. Borreli

(Link):  WashPost Columnist: ‘Ghostbusters’ Haters Are ‘Virgin Losers’ – (via NewsBusters Site); Both the Right and Left Wing Get Some things Wrong About This

(Link):  Mainstream Media Thinks Virginity is a Shameful Status, Not a Sacred Choice

(Link):   Some Atheists Are Just As Ignorant About Adult Singleness and Celibacy as Progressive Christians, Secular Feminists, and Protestant Evangelical or Conservative Christians

(Link): When Your Personal, Private Choices Enrage Others by Bella DePaulo

(Link):  Bitter, Frustrated 22 Year Old Male Virgin and Member of Men’s Rights / PUA Groups Kills Several Women Because He Couldn’t Get Dates – what an entitled sexist doof 

(Link):  Salon Author – a Liberal Feminist – Amanda Marcotte Thinks Media Shouldn’t Judge Women’s Sexuality But She Has Mocked Women Over Their Sexual Choices Before (To Remain Virgins)

(Link): Secular, Left Wing Feminist Writer Marcotte on Anyone Choosing To Be a Virgin Until Marriage: “It’s a Silly Idea” – What Progressive Christians, Conservative Christians, Non Christians, and Salon’s Amanda Marcotte Gets Wrong About Christian Views on Virginity

(Link):  Slut Shaming and Secular and Christian Culture – Dirty Water / Used Chewing Gum and the CDC’s Warnings – I guess the CDC is a bunch of slut shamers ?

(Link): The itchy truth about Tinder: 750,000 people on the dating app are infested with pubic lice, scientist warns

(Link):  Gonorrhea Super Strain Becoming ‘Untreatable’ (in the UK; may be heading to the USA) – 2015 story

(Link):  Article: Our Born-Again Virgin Bachelor – Secondary or Spiritual Virginity

(Link): Stop Pretending Sex Never Hurts, By D.C. McAllister

(Link):   Woman Says She Refuses to Hook-up with Men ‘For Fun’ – Says Most Men She’s Met Are Willing to Wait

(Link): Viral Virgin Brelyn Bowman Talks Purity Backlash From Christians, New Book ‘No Ring, No Ting’ (Interview) 

(Link): The Myth of Safe Sex by D. Foley

(Link): Celibate Shaming from an Anti- Slut Shaming Secular Feminist Site (Hypocrisy) Feminists Do Not Support All Choices

(Link): The Christian and Non Christian Phenomenon of Virgin Shaming and Celibate Shaming

(Link): No, Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity (they attack both concepts)

(Link):  When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments

 (Link): Churches Would Rather Hear From Ex Porn Stars Than Adult Celibates or Virgins – Church Invites Ex Porn Star to be Guest Speaker

(Link):  An Example of Mocking Adult Virginity Via Twitter (Virginity Used As Insult)

(Link): Celebrity Deems Herself A Born Again Virgin And Vows to Stay Celibate “For A Year” – Oh Puh-leaze

(Link):  True Love Waits . . . and Waits . . . and Waits – editorial about delayed marriage and related issues

(Link):   Woman Says She Refuses to Hook-up with Men ‘For Fun’ – Says Most Men She’s Met Are Willing to Wait

(Link):  On Tinder, Off Sex – One Woman’s Story About Secondary Abstinence 

(Link): Self Control – everyone has it, is capable of it, but most choose not to use it (New Study Says Conservatives Have Better Self Control Than Liberals)

(Link):  Sometimes Fornication Can Impact Another Relationship Later – One Example

(Link): Ramifications of Pre Martial Sex – Sky Diver Husband; Also: Stereotypes About All Men Wanting Sex Constantly and Being Visually Stimulated Disproven Again

(Link):  Some Atheists Are Just As Ignorant About Adult Singleness and Celibacy as Progressive Christians, Secular Feminists, and Protestant Evangelical or Conservative Christians

(Link):  I Shouldn’t Need An Excuse To Be A Virgin – (Secular Editorial Defends Virginity – More Rare Than a Unicorn Sighting)

(Link):  “Even more bizarrely, Christianity held up lifelong celibacy as an even more exalted state of life” (editorial by P. Gobry)

(Link):  An Example of Mocking Adult Virginity Via Twitter (Virginity Used As Insult)

(Link):  Our Bodies Were Not Made for Sex by T. Swann

(Link): The Contemporary Church Undervalues Celibacy / Virginity

(Link): Why Some People Become 30 Year Old Virgins (Article / Study)

(Link): Asexuality and Asexuals

(Link): Virginity Lost, Experience Gained (article with information from study about virginity)

(Link):  Douglas Wilson and Christian Response FAIL to Sexual Sin – No Body Can Resist Sex – supposedly – Re Celibacy

(Link):  Male Entitlement and Adult Virginity: Who has it worse, Male Vs. Female? (critique of post at other blog)

(Link):  On ‘Late’-In-Life Virginity Loss (from The Atlantic)

(Link):  Interviews With Various Adult Celibates

(Link):  Adult Singleness and Virginity Ridiculed by Preacher Mark Driscoll from 2000 – and anti Homosexual and Sexist Rhetoric ( Re Driscoll Rant known as Pussified Nation )

(Link):  When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments

(Link):  How About Using Celibates as Role Models For Celibacy? (Oddity: Christians Holding Up Non-Virgins [Fornicators] As Being Experts or Positive Examples on Sexual Purity)

(Link): Virgins and Celibates are Sexual – Not Asexual and Androgynous – You don’t have to have sex to possess sexuality

(Link): Mainstream Media Thinks Virginity is a Shameful Status, Not a Sacred Choice by K. Yoder

(Link): Christians Who Attack Virginity Celibacy and Sexual Purity – and specifically Southern Baptist Russell D. Moore and James M. Kushiner

(Link): So Long, Compulsory Sex! See Ya, Viagra! Asexuality is Here – by B. DePaulo

(Link): Christian Theologian Says ‘Love’ Is the New Cultural Apologetic Affirming Immoral Activities – Theology of Hurt Feelings – Why Christians Are Reluctant To Call Out Sexual Sin

(Link):  Typical Erroneous Teaching About Adult Celibacy Rears Its Head Again: To Paraphrase Speaker at Ethics and Public Policy Center: Lifelong Celibacy is “heroic ethical standard that is not expected of heteros, so it should not be expected of homosexuals”

(Link): Living Myths About Virginity – article from The Atlantic

(Link): Why So Much Fornication – Because Christians Have No Expectation of Sexual Purity

(Link): Where Are America’s Virgins? Discouraging the Virtuous by Julia Duin

(Link):  No Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity – Christians Attack and Criticize Virginity Sexual Purity Celibacy / Virginity Sexual Purity Not An Idol

(Link): Secular, Left Wing Feminist Writer Marcotte on Anyone Choosing To Be a Virgin Until Marriage: “It’s a Silly Idea” – What Progressive Christians, Conservative Christians, Non Christians, and Salon’s Amanda Marcotte Gets Wrong About Christian Views on Virginity

(Link): Christian Preacher Admits He Won’t Preach About Sexuality For Fear It May Offend Sexual Sinners

(Link): Christian TV Show Host Pat Robertson Disrespects Virginity – Says Pre-Marital Sex Is “Not A Bad Thing”

(Link): Pat Robertson: (basically): Pre Marital Sex is Okay (or to be totally expected) Because People are “Sexual Beings”

(Link):  I Shouldn’t Need An Excuse To Be A Virgin – (Secular Editorial Defends Virginity – More Rare Than a Unicorn Sighting)

(Link):  Preacher: ‘They Will Know We Are Christians By Our Hot SEX Lives’ – and once more, never-married celibate adults and their experiences, wisdom, and input are ignored

(Link):  The Decisive Marriage – Study Says Couples Who Don’t Have Pre-Marital Sex, or Not Much or Not Many Sexual Partners Pre-Marriage, Have Better Quality or Longer Lasting Marriages

(Link): Inconsistency on Feminist Site – Choices Have Consequences

(Link): Christian TV Host Pat Robertson says ‘Virginity Has Nothing To Do With Marriage’ and Says (Paraphrasing) ‘Virginity Was Fine For Mary But Not Applicable For Any Other Christians’

(Link): Anti Virginity Editorial by Christian Blogger Tim Challies – Do Hurt / Shame Feelings or Sexual Abuse Mean Christians Should Cease Supporting Virginity or Teaching About Sexual Purity

(Link): Slut Shaming and Virgin Shaming and Secular and Christian Culture – Dirty Water / Used Chewing Gum and the CDC’s Warnings – I guess the CDC is a bunch of slut shamers ?

(Link): Five Things We Wish We Could Tell the Girls on ‘The Bachelor’ by A. Shull and S. Saputo

(Link): The Christian and Non Christian Phenomenon of Virgin Shaming and Celibate Shaming

(Link): Please Owen Strachan, Tim Challies and Others: Stop Telling Adult Singles and Adult Virgins that their Singleness and Virginity is “For God’s Glory” – Just Stop 

(Link):  Anti Virginity Editorial by Christian Blogger Tim Challies – Do Hurt / Shame Feelings or Sexual Abuse Mean Christians Should Cease Supporting Virginity or Teaching About Sexual Purity

(Link):  Christians Want to Hold Adulterers Accountable but Give Adult Single Fornicators a Pass

(Link): Christians Who Attack Virginity Celibacy and Sexual Purity – and specifically Russell D. Moore and James M. Kushiner

(Link): Slut-Shaming Is Bad—But The Overreaction Against It Also Hurts Women by J. Doverspike

(Link): Pat Robertson [Christian TV show host] says ‘Virginity Has Nothing To Do With Marriage’ and Says (Paraphrasing) ‘Virginity Was Fine For Mary But Not Applicable For Any Other Christians’

(Link): I Notice It’s the Fornicators Who Want to Ignore or Downplay the Bible’s Teaching that People Are To Stay Virgins Until Marriage

(Link): Douglas Wilson and Christian Response FAIL to Sexual Sin – No Body Can Resist Sex – supposedly – Re Celibacy

(Link): A Grown-Up, Not Sexed-Up, View of Womanhood (article) – how Christian teachings on gender and singlehood contribute to raunch culture and fornication etc

(Link): How Christians Have Failed on Teaching Maturity and Morality Vis A Vis Marriage / Parenthood – Used as Markers of Maturity Or Assumed to be Sanctifiers – Also: More Hypocrisy – Christians Teach You Need A Spouse to Be Purified, But Also Teach God Won’t Send You a Spouse Until You Become Purified

(Link): Virgin Shaming: Hollywood’s Attack on Purity (by B. Bowen)

(Link): The Contemporary Church Undervalues Celibacy / Virginity

(Link): Why Some People Become 30 Year Old Virgins (Article / Study)

(Link):  Interviews With Various Adult Celibates

(Link):  How About Using Celibates as Role Models For Celibacy? (Oddity: Christians Holding Up Non-Virgins [Fornicators] As Being Experts or Positive Examples on Sexual Purity)

(Link): Virgins and Celibates are Sexual – Not Asexual and Androgynous – You don’t have to have sex to possess sexuality

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