Risky Business: The Dangers of Online Dating and How to Protect Yourself
- by D Falzone
- Apr 12, 2016
- …Lyne disappeared last Friday after leaving to meet a date, who police identified as John Robert Charlton, 37. Her ex-husband reported her missing on Saturday — and a dismembered body, including a severed head and foot tentatively identified as Lyne’s, were discovered Monday in a recycling bin in Seattle’s Central District.
- Friends said Lyne met Charlton a few months earlier through an as-yet-unnamed online dating site. Charlton reportedly has a lengthy rap sheet, including misdemeanor assaults — but it’s unlikely his dating profile mentioned that detail.
- So, how do you protect yourself when you try online dating?
- Bruce Anderson, director of Cyber Intelligence & Investigations, encourages cyber-daters to conduct a background check.
- “You should always do a background check on the person that you are dating,” Anderson told FoxNews.com. “You should consider hiring a [private investigator] to run a background check and criminal check on the person, as well as a deep dive (OSINT) Open Source Intelligence Search. If this person has been around or successful, there will be a lot of information on them.”
- A background check could be a wise move considering most dating websites do not conduct one. …
- …Still, clinical psychologist Dr. Chloe Carmichael said even Charlton’s criminal background was not enough to make an assertion he was a real threat — and that the public shouldn’t be quick to point the finger at online dating.
- “It’s easy to focus on the online dating aspect here, but really this could have happened to the victim if she had met Charlton at a bar or anywhere else,” Carmichael said. “They had apparently been dating for one or two months, so it’s not as if she broke the obvious safety rules like going somewhere alone with him on a first date. It’s unclear whether she knew about his criminal history of misdemeanor violence, but even if she did, it would not be reasonable to think that would be a tip-off that he’s a depraved killer.”
- …While it may be difficult to detect who is a dangerous threat, dating sites like Match.com, which has partnered with the National Cyber Security Alliance, offer a detailed list of online safety tips — but ultimately, it’s a matter of dater beware.
- Michael Kaiser, the executive director of the National Cyber Security Alliance, recommended: “The classic advice is to meet someone first in a public place. Don’t go on your own. Tell someone else where you’re going. Don’t agree to be picked up and don’t feel pressure to go anywhere else from that place, or do anything else with that date at that time so you can get a better sense of that person.”
(Link): Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work