Men Aren’t Entitled to Sex: Crybaby Guy Throws Racist Fit at Woman Who Politely Refuses to Hook up by R K Bussel
It sure does seem that a lot of guys think they are owed sex.
A lot of Christian men not only feel that they are entitled sex (once married), but both before and after marriage, they feel entitled to everything from women: they expect to have their egos stroked all the time, for instance.
Do you Christian men who arrogantly expect women to uplift you and tell you how great you are, ever consider encouraging women in your lives, whether they are single or married?
Women sometimes need or want some external validation, yet whiny men (including Christian ones) seldom consider giving any to women. They rudely assume God put women here only to meet men’s needs. Nope: it goes both ways.
Women have needs too. Women have days or phases in their lives when they get tired, discouraged, worn down and could use a kind word or a helping hand.
Even if he buys her dinner, even if she asks him out, even if she flirts—there’s no excuse for this behavior
…That he turned on a dime to insult her should tell us that he only saw her as an object he wanted available for his pleasure, whether to stroke his ego or stroke other body parts. The moment she rejects him, even though she doesn’t say a single negative thing toward him, he interprets that as pretty much the worst thing a woman could do to him. Her not wanting sex automatically means, in his mind, she’s basically an evil bitch who’s wasted his time.
Another obvious statement: her not wanting to have sex with him doesn’t automatically mean she didn’t like him, or didn’t have a good date. Maybe she did, maybe she didn’t, but by treating sex as the one and only arbiter of success, he turned what could have been a fun night into a nightmare.
And that’s exactly the problem: sex shouldn’t be a “goal” to “achieve,” but this guy framed it that way. For him, it’s the expected reward after he did his duties as a date. That’s as depressing a statement on modern dating as you’re likely to see.
At first, I just assumed this guy was sexist scum and hoped that he’d be doomed to a lifetime of women rejecting him. But after reading Hanif Abdurraqib’s essay (Link): “Dear 14-Year-Old Boy, You Are Not Entitled to Sex,” I actually feel sorry for this guy for having to move through the world with such a bitter mindset.
Abdurraqib writes about his sex education classes in school, where “loss of virginity will be talked about as an inevitability; something that will surely happen sooner rather than later. There will be talk about sex, what to do or not to do, how to put on a condom. You will be shown a new and exciting world, almost as if you are being given a brochure about a thrilling vacation that is just on the horizon. It is almost like sex (with a woman, of course) is your birthright. Something that you are entitled to simply by existing as a boy or a man in America.”
….This is precisely the problem; to the racist ranter, sex isn’t about connecting with another person, or even seemingly about satisfying a physical urge, which he could easily accommodate via masturbation. It’s about the proper order of how things “should” be done, about what he’s “owed” based on how much money he spent, and sex as a reward for simply existing.
….I think we can safely assume that with so much anger lurking just under the surface that it spills out the moment a random woman doesn’t want to sleep with him, he isn’t a very happy person, and he’s not going to become one no matter how many women he beds. Thankfully, he’s in the minority, according to the (Link): 2015 Singles in America survey of over 5,500 singles in the United States, which found that only six percent of men expect sex on the first date.