Woman Realizes Having Open Relationship Bothers Her / Married Couple Confront Each Other About Their Other Sexual Partners via Cosmo Magazine
I do have some problems with how conservatives (including conservative Christians not just secular social conservatives) deal with the topic of sex (hey, about 65% of my blog posts are about that topic). However, your liberals can be problematic in this area as well.
Liberals like to believe sex has no consequences, not physical nor emotional.
However, at the same time, they scream on their blogs against abstinence-only public school sex education and yell that women should receive tax-payer funded birth control, abortion should be legally and widely available, and so on.
Liberals tend to downplay the possible physical ramifications of sex, especially for women, when speaking or writing for women (ie, sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy), to teach women that being trampy is not shameful but is feminist and empowering. I find that liberals sometimes speak out of both sides of their mouth on this topic.
Secular feminists also like to tell women (especially the younger, naive ones) that they won’t have any emotional fall-out from having sex.
I’ve known women (in person) and read of too many testimonies by women online and in magazines to know that is not always so.
Plenty of people do have issues accepting that their partner has a sexual history or has cheated on them with another person.
Here is another example or two of this being the case (I have not watched the video on the page with the video.)
I will also link to a page I saw recently by a woman who said she was initially fine and accepting of her poly-whatever boyfriend but after so many months of dating the guy, knowing he was emotionally growing attached to the other women he was dating and having sex with disturbed her.
- Another day, another (Link): video (Link): delving deep into a couple’s (Link): sore spots and personal lives for the sake of
going viralgetting to know each other on a whole new level. This one features Eilin and Andrew, a polyamorous couple who’ve been married four years.
- Their relationship wasn’t always so loosely structured. One of the most awkward parts of the video has Andrew detail what he likes about having sex with other people and how he knows Eilin, who just recently began exploring her bisexuality, still sometimes has not come to terms with their open relationship.
- They discuss the structure of their relationship a lot, with Andrew admitting later this is the first “practically monogamous” relationship he’s been in and that every day he is “just focusing on not paying attention to certain instincts that I have.”
- Other uncomfortable questions that get answered: “Who sacrifices more in our relationship?” and, “What are you hesitant to tell me?” both of which are asked by Eilin and answered by Andrew. By the time the last question hits (“Who loves who more in this relationship?”), you will want to never watch one of these videos again while rewinding to make sure you’ve caught every detail.
And there you have it. In spite of some people pushing this idea that open relationships and poly-whatever relationships or past sexual history are NOT A BIG DEAL, people should just GET OVER IT – this stuff can and sometimes does impact people and relationships negatively.