Memes Against Marriage Pressure – A Group of Single Adults That Also Supports Celibacy
(Link): Memes Against Marriage Pressure
- By Christine Franciska
- BBC Indonesian Service
- Marriage is seen as inevitable in Indonesian culture, with friends and family often putting pressure on young people to find a partner and settle down.
- But one group of young people is fighting back, using social media to celebrate singlehood with laughter.
- Jakarta Lonely Council (or Dewan Kesepian Jakarta) – a play on the name of a well-known independent art body Jakarta Art Council – has become a kind of Facebook haven for single people.
- The group’s most popular posts are when they alter quotes from famous and prominent people to make memes related to single status, loneliness, and the feeling of longing for your ex.
- “The compulsion of dating on Saturday night is a bourgeois conspiracy,” says one post. Another declares 14 February as Single Pride Day with the phrase: “Single, but proud.”
- …‘Celibate for purpose’
- One of the founders said the page was created two years ago for fun, because the members love making memes and wanted to laugh themselves.
- “When we created the page, most of us were single. But now, one of us got married. How cruel is that?” said one of Jakarta Lonely Council’s initiator, who wanted to keep their identity anonymous.
- The creators, mostly young people, come from different professions; one is a researcher, a writer, and a lecturer. They use “celibate for purpose” in many posts, to emphasise that being alone or single is a choice and there is nothing wrong with it.
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