Women, Stop Listening to Sexist Relationship ‘Experts’ by D. L. D’Oyley
If you are not already aware, Steve Harvey, whom this author discusses, is a Christian. He is sometimes a guest speaker on Christian network TBN.
(Link): Women, Stop Listening to Sexist Relationship ‘Experts’ (page 1) (Link to Page 2) by D. L. D’Oyley
- Feb 2016
- She Matters: If they’re men who hold shoddy views about sex and women, it follows that their advice to women will also be shoddy.
- …It’s a common theme among men, including many so-called relationship experts. And that’s a huge problem.
- It should be obvious why that’s an issue, but in case it isn’t: You have men who hold screwed-up views about sex and women telling women how to be better women to land a man.
- If the perspective with which they view women is shoddy, then it follows that their advice to women will also be shoddy.
Take, for instance, best-selling author Steve Harvey, who, despite the backlash he receives, does hit the mark sometimes. (Link): But when he misses? Honey! Harvey’s misogynistic gaffes were enough to inspire a popular YouTube compilation, “(Link): [S–t] Steve Harvey Says,” which has been viewed nearly 3 million times.
- Among the highlights? Harvey on why men cheat: “Because women allow them to” and because “women cheat with them.”
- So, let me get this straight: A man cheating isn’t a man’s fault, and it’s no reflection on his moral compass or self-control and his lack of honesty or respect for his mate? He cheats because he’s absolutely not accountable and a woman allowed him?
Now, I’m confused because Harvey’s always talking about men being leaders (also sexist). If he’s a leader, then how is cheating “being allowed” by a woman? If a woman has the power to allow or not, isn’t she the actual leader? If so, give her the credit.
- ….What’s as bad as the bad advice from male experts is that relationship advice is rarely, if ever, aimed at men. Anytime a woman merely suggests to men that there are better ways to be a man, she’s swiftly and loudly told that a woman can’t tell a man how to be a man because women fundamentally don’t understand men. This is accepted as a universal truth.
(Link): Why Do Churches Treat Singleness Like a Problem? via Relevant Magazine