America’s Lost Boys by S. D. James (Why Men Are Not Marrying)
I don’t know how much of this I agree with, but it does pertain to topics I blog about frequently, so here it is.
I keep seeing conservative Christian men blame feminism for delayed marriage among men, and at least one Christian sociologist blamed Christian women for declining marriage rates, because he feels that single Christian women are unwilling to marry Christian male porn addicts – he argues they should marry porn addicts anyway (for real; see this post).
Yet another article I (Link): linked to previously blamed porn addiction – that men are getting their kicks from nude women online, so they don’t feel the need to date real life women.
This article is citing immaturity for why so many men are not marrying (the single men supposedly want to play video games all day long).
An older article on my site that I linked to (Link): blamed the poor economy.
(Link): America’s Lost Boys by S. D. James (Why Men Are Not Marrying)
Excerpts:
Where have America’s young men gone? According to Erik Hurst, an economist from the University of Chicago, they haven’t gone anywhere—they’re just plugged in.
In a (Link): recent interview, Hurst says that his research indicates that young men with less than a four-year degree (according to virtually all data, that’s an increasing number) are spending their days unemployed and unmarried, but not un-amused.
“The hours that they are not working have been replaced almost one-for-one with leisure time,” Hurst reports. “Seventy-five percent of this new leisure time falls into one category: video games. The average low-skilled, unemployed man in this group plays video games an average of twelve, and sometimes upwards of thirty hours per week.”
Hurst goes on: “These individuals are living with parents or relatives, and happiness surveys actually indicate that they [are] quite content compared to their peers, making it hard to argue that some sort of constraint, [such as that] they are miserable because they can’t find a job, is causing them to play video games.”
In other words, the time these young men spend on Xbox and Playstation does not offer them relief from the stress of joblessness and existential inertia. On the contrary, for them it’s part of Living the Dream.
…Young men, significantly more so than young women, are stuck in life. Research released in May from the Pew Center documented a historic demographic shift: American men aged 18-30 are now statistically more likely to be living with their parents than with a romantic partner.
This trend is significant, for one simple reason: Twenty- and thirtysomething men who are living at home, working part-time or not at all, are unlikely to be preparing for marriage. Hurst’s research says that these men are single, unoccupied, and fine with that—because their happiness doesn’t depend on whether they are growing up and living life.
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Related Posts:
(Link): Why A Quarter of Millennials Will Never Get Married (from TIME magazine)
(Link): Why Are So Many Professional Millennial Women Unable To Find Dateable Men?
(Link): More Americans Than Ever Have Never Married: (2014) Survey
(Link): Woman’s First Marriage at Age 40+
(Link): First Time Marriage for Man and Woman Both Over Age 40
(Link): No, Christians and Churches Do Not Idolize Virginity and Sexual Purity
(Link): The American Economy, Not Feminism, Is What’s ‘Ruining’ Masculinity
(Link): Stop Telling Women Their Most Valuable Asset Is Their Youth
(Link): Aged Out of Church by M Van Loon (For Christians over the Age of 35 – 40)
(Link): College Women, Don’t Listen to Marriage Concern Trolls
(Link): More Americans Than Ever Have Never Married: (2014) Survey
(Link): Stop Telling Women Their Most Valuable Asset Is Their Youth
(Link): Aged Out of Church by M Van Loon (For Christians over the Age of 35 – 40)
(Link): College Women, Don’t Listen to Marriage Concern Trolls
(Link): Man / Husband Shortage in Hong Kong – just like in American Christian circles
(Link): China’s Brutal One-Child Policy Ruins Men’s Marriage Prospects, Resulting in Human Trafficking
(Link): Following the Usual Advice Won’t Get You Dates or Married – Even Celebrities Have A Hard Time
(Link): Depressing Testimony: “I Was A Stripper but Jesus Sent Me A Great Christian Husband”
(Link): Does God Require Singles to Be Perfect Before He Will Send Them a Spouse
(Link): Lies The Church Tells Single Women (by Sue Bohlin)
(Link): Sick of Being Single / I Am So Sick and Tired of Being Single Alone Unmarried Lonely
(Link): Is Interfaith Marriage Always Wrong, Given that the Bible Teaches Us Not to Be ‘Unequally Yoked’?
(Link): Forget About Being ‘Equally Yoked’ – Article: ‘My Abusive ‘Christian’ Marriage’
(Link): The Nauseating Push by Evangelicals for Early Marriage
(Link): The Single American Woman via NY Magazine
(Link): Creepy: ‘Barna: [Christian] Women Value Family Over Faith’
(Link): Pew for One: How Is the Church Responding to Growing Number of Singles? by S. Hamaker
(Link): Our Bodies Were Not Made for Sex by T. Swann
(Link): Please Stop Shaming Me for Being Single by J. Vadnal
(Link): A Response by Colon to Regnerus Re: Misguided Early Marriage Propaganda
(Link): Christian Preacher Admits He Won’t Preach About Sexuality For Fear It May Offend Sexual Sinners
(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society? – It’s Not In The Bible
(Link): The Christian and Non Christian Phenomenon of Virgin Shaming and Celibate Shaming
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