This is What Online Dating is Like When You’re Not Gorgeous or Ugly, but Average by P. Braithwaite

This is what Online Dating is Like When You’re Not Gorgeous or Ugly, but Average by P. Braithwaite

(Link): This is what Online Dating is Like When You’re Not Gorgeous or Ugly, but Average by P. Braithwaite

Excerpts:

No one feels particularly special on a dating app. That’s what I want to tell her. My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. She is not alone.

Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed. Society tells them they’re beautiful and they’re mad at Tinder and OkCupid for not providing better prospects.

They’re also mad at me. I’m the average-looking sidekick, “the one who online dates,” and it’s my fault they aren’t having a better time.

…. As it turns out, my good-looking friends aren’t completely out of touch. (Link): “Classically attractive” women have more difficulty online dating. Given the competitive nature of the medium, some men assume if a woman is too attractive, she may be inundated with prospects. Thus, to hedge their bets, they may only approach women who aren’t considered unanimously pretty. This little factoid adds a layer of difficulty for some of my friends, but the unresponsiveness and awkwardness isn’t unique to beautiful people.

Almost anyone who has spent time online dating knows the disappointment is inherent in the process.

….Being overlooked is unpleasant, but this is where average looks are a gift: They free you from the notion that people should fall at your feet.


Related Posts:

(Link):  Is Dating Worth It? by A. Schwartz (Re “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” book by Weigel)

(Link):  Why “Netflix And Chill” Replaced Dinner and A Movie – Dating in 2016

(Link): Are We Dating Wrong? by J Smith

(Link):  Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please. 

(Link):  New study: Average American man is ugly and fat – And yes, men, you should panic because American women DO judge you based on your looks contrary to what Christian propaganda tells you

(Link):  Going Solo: More Women Embracing Single Life by S. Jackson, via DFP

(Link):  Single Woman Seeking Manwich by S. Moses

(Link):  Research: Being Single [or Fear of Being Single] is a Meaningful Predictor of Settling for Less in Relationships

(Link):   What Two Religions Tell Us About the Modern Dating Crisis (from TIME) (ie, Why Are Conservative Religious Women Not Marrying Even Though They Want to Be Married. Hint: It’s a Demographics Issue)

(Link):  Decent Secular Relationship Advice: How to Pick Your Life Partner

(Link): Following the Usual Advice Won’t Get You Dates or Married – Even Celebrities Have A Hard Time

(Link):  Depressing Testimony: “I Was A Stripper but Jesus Sent Me A Great Christian Husband”

(Link): Does God Require Singles to Be Perfect Before He Will Send Them a Spouse

(Link): Typical Incorrect Conservative Christian Assumption: If you want marriage bad enough, Mr. Right will magically appear

(Link): Want To But Can’t – The One Christian Demographic Being Continually Ignored by Christians Re: Marriage

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