Love Does Not Have to Be Romantic or Erotic: Maleficent Movie
Usually, secular culture (including Hollywood) and Christian culture prioritize romantic (or erotic) love.
Jesus Christ taught in the New Testament that his followers are supposed to place him at the center of their lives, with spiritual brothers and sisters taking priority, or at least equal to, their family of origin (read more about that (Link): here).
Christians, however, continue to prioritize biological family or spouse over spiritual family, which alienates the widows, the divorced, and other Christians who are single or who don’t have nuclear families.
Every once in awhile, I come across a movie or television show that “gets it,” which gets that sometimes, friends or friendship means more than “family,” or more than a spouse. Sometimes, you’ll end up alone if you don’t have friends.
Or, sometimes the message presented in entertainment is that family is what you make it – meaning, the friends you choose to associate with, not the family you’re born into.
I’m not opposed to marriage. Part of me would still like to marry eventually, but, I so tire of the culture making the message out to be that the only true, valid form of love is romantic love (i.e., dating or marriage).
I watched the movie “Maleficent” on cable television the other day, and was pleased to see that this story acknowledges that sometimes, “true love” does not come from a Prince Charming, but from one person caring about another one in a platonic way.
In the movie, some viewers may assume from the start that it will take a kiss from Prince Charming to awaken the sleeping princess (who had a sleeping curse placed on her), but as it turns out, the “true love’s kiss” comes from a female friend of the Princess.
Initially, the young man, the Prince, kisses the Princess, but his kiss does not awaken her.
(Maleficent was the individual who cast the spell on the Princess, but she later came to regret placing the curse on the young lady.)
I had wondered, about half way through the movie, why there was assumption that True Love’s Kiss had to come from a romantic interest (such as a “Prince Charming” character), rather than say a family member or a friend – such as Maleficent, or the father of the Princess.
Turns out, I was right – the kiss of a friend awoke the Princess, not a kiss by the potential romantic interest, the Prince.
It’s nice to see a Hollywood film advocating friendship love, rather than “eros” love, for a change.
Here is a clip from that movie, showing that True Love’s Kiss, which broke the spell, came from the friend, not the Prince:
(Link): Romantic Comedies: When Stalking Has a Happy Ending (from The Atlantic)
(Link): How the Sexual Revolution Ruined Friendship – Also: If Christians Truly Believed in Celibacy and Virginity, they would stop adhering to certain sexual and gender stereotypes that work against both
(Link): False Christian Teaching: “Only A Few Are Called to Singleness and Celibacy” or (also false): God’s gifting of singleness is rare – More Accurate: God calls only a few to marriage and God gifts only the rare with the gift of Marriage
(Link): “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site
(Link): Why Christians Need To Stress Spiritual Family Over the Nuclear Family – People with no flesh and blood relations including Muslims who Convert to Christianity – Also: First World, White, Rich People Problems
(Link): Christian ‘Married People’ Privilege – Most Marrieds Remain Amazingly Blinded to Christian Discrimination Against Singles Or Write Unmarrieds’ Concerns Off, As Though They Are Nothing Compared to Marriage/ Parenting.
(Link): How Christians Have Failed on Teaching Maturity and Morality Vis A Vis Marriage / Parenthood – Used as Markers of Maturity Or Assumed to be Sanctifiers – Also: More Hypocrisy – Christians Teach You Need A Spouse to Be Purified, But Also Teach God Won’t Send You a Spouse Until You Become Purified