Over 30, Single and Very Content – via Relevant

Over 30, Single and Very Content

(Link):  Over 30, Single and Very Content

Excerpts:

It doesn’t just need to be a waiting period until marriage.
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I am over 30 and single. There, I said it! It was tough but phew, it’s out there, now you know. Excuse me whilst I go hide under a rock from shame or embarrassment or both

…You wait and remain optimistic and you pray regularly (verging on obsessively, might I add) for that spouse, someone who will be the other half of you but after realizing potential husband number 23 was also just playing you while doing the same to six other girls, you start to lose heart.
…How did this happen? You watch each of your friends get married and wonder what you did wrong. Is this punishment for something, am I not trying hard enough, am I simply not “enough”?
…Why is marriage the final goal, even in Christian circles? I spent my 20s expectant and waiting for that godly guy, yet all I seemed to meet were great guys who, in hindsight, were removed from my life with good reason. I couldn’t see that at the time.
…We’re all familiar with Paul’s singleness in the Bible and the power in this as well as the well-known verse of 1 Corinthians 7 on how it is good to remain single, yet we often choose to downplay this and unintentionally look down on those who are single.

…But then things changed. I looked around me and saw the relationships I had known and grown up with, as well as new ones around me, and instead of seeing the shiny exterior, the sheen fell off.

I saw the brutal realities of relationships. I saw relationships for what they really are: hard work and not always permanent.

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