What It’s Really Like to Be a Guy Who Only Dates Much Older Women
I am largely opposed to “May December” relationships, as (Link): I’ve blogged on before.
One of the things I found interesting about this page is that it affirms something I said on a much older post of mine –
Often times, men ages 35 and older say they prefer dating much younger women (as in, 20 somethings) because 20 year old women supposedly have less baggage. As I explained in my last post, that is pure hog-wash. Younger women generally have MORE BAGGAGE than older women.
Older women have gained life experience, have gained self esteem over the years, know what they want, won’t permit themselves to be treated disrespectfully by men, won’t put up with crap – not from men, not from bosses, not from friends or whomever.
Most women over the age of 35 or 40 have worked through their “baggage,” whether by seeing a therapist, reading books by psychologists, or just living through pain. Younger women are not there yet.
Note how all three of these younger men say that they prefer dating older women, one reason of which, is because older women “lack drama,” which is another way of saying older women lack baggage.
(Link): What It’s Really Like to Be a Guy Who Only Dates Much Older Women by Lane Moore
WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST ABOUT DATING OLDER WOMEN?
Man A: I like how mature they can be when handling serious situations, but also how playful and youthful they are. My last girlfriend and I would sit down and listen to all my favorite music, and it was a real bonding experience I’d never had before. You don’t expect someone who is so much older to have so much in common with you or the desire to connect with you the way some older women do.
Man B: Older women have their life together. And with 15 years more experience, they’re more interesting to talk to.
Man C: There’s less drama with older women and they are much less likely to be dependent on you. A strong, independent woman is sexy.
IS THERE ANYTHING YOU DON’T LIKE ABOUT IT?
Man A: The social stigma can be tough, but I have brushed it aside. Society isn’t as used to seeing it as we’d like them to be.
Man B: Not in the slightest.
Man C: So far nothing I don’t like.
WHAT ARE THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCES IN SLEEPING WITH OR DATING OLDER WOMEN VERSUS WOMEN CLOSER TO YOUR AGE?
Man A: Older women are more open to letting you try new things. They aren’t objects, but in my experience, they certainly aim to please overall.
Man B: Older women know what they want, so I don’t have to guess. I just follow directions given, which puts much less pressure on me. Overall, she is definitely in control of the situation, which I find really sexy.
Man C: Nothing is really different about sleeping with older women. As far as dating goes, older women are zero drama. In many cases, they’ve already had their families, so neither of us are dependent on the other. She doesn’t get jealous and she’s not controlling.
HAVE YOU EVER DATED SOMEONE CLOSER TO YOUR OWN AGE? WHAT DIDN’T YOU LIKE ABOUT IT?
Man A: There wasn’t anything I didn’t like about it. I love dating in general, but I feel like older woman just have more to offer. They have experience that is more valuable than anything.
Man B: Yes, I didn’t like that most women my own age didn’t seem to be in control of the relationship or in bed.
Man C: I married a girl my age and dated a couple others who were around my age. They don’t really know what they want and are still finding their way.
(Link): Follow Up Part 2 – Reactions by Other Writers to Sexist, Condescending 50 Something Men Who Think They Are Final Arbiters of If Women Are Attractive Past Age of 40 (Re: Esquire Editorial by Junod)