Is the One True Love Biblical? On Hope, Choice and Responsibility by C. Woolgar

Is the One True Love Biblical? On Hope, Choice and Responsibility by C. Woolgar

(Link): Is the One True Love Biblical? On Hope, Choice and Responsibility

Excerpts:

July 2016

I was recently asked if the idea of ‘the One’ was biblical and I decided to blog about it as I think it’s essentially a question about how romance relates to hope.

...So: is the idea of ‘the One’ consistent with the Bible?

I’m going to say more no than yes.

It’s not that God never does bring ‘the One’ into a Christian’s life (he does), but specifically expecting that God will do this makes too many assumptions about life and how God works. And it encourages too many unhelpful behaviours.

Saying everyone has to have a ‘One’ implies there is no fullness of life without romance and sex

But it’s just not true.

Saying that a person hasn’t lived if they haven’t had romance is like saying an actor can’t act unless he can play a romantic lead.

…Neither sex nor romance nor marriage nor children is necessary for a person to count themselves blessed or a blessing to others.

There are numerous passages in the Bible which affirm people who are childless (Isaiah 54:1, for example). Plus, many of the stories about women who miraculously bore children are less about fertility than they are about hope for the future and social inclusion. It’s not a stretch to say these passages also affirm people who have never married.

It crushes hope to believe God’s plan must involve romance

Fullness of life (in both this life and the next) is one the hopes of the Christian faith. However, one of the curious things about hope is that when a person starts anchoring it in a specific idea – like the idea that their fullness of life (in this life) will include romance – it turns bitter. This can drive people to more and more extreme measures or even despair if their wish fails to materialise and their future collapses.

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