Married Christian Man Says He’s Been in Sexless Marriage for Nineteen Years and Is Not Happy About It
At least I am assuming this guy who wrote in to the TV show is a Christian – I cannot fathom why a Non-Christian guy would even consider writing a host of a Christian TV show with a relationship question.
This question comes from a guy who signed his name as “Viewer,” and he e-mailed or snail mailed it to the hosts of “The 700 Club,” which is sometimes hosted by Wendy, Terry, Pat, or Gordon. Pat Robertson was the one who replied to this particular inquiry.
From the time I was a kid, I heard from various Christian sources (books, articles, sermons on TV, sermons in person at churches I attended) that if a person remained a virgin, that person could expect God to send them a great spouse, and that their married sex life would be regular and wonderful.
But then, as I got older, I started seeing the occasional married Christian person (sometimes women too, not just men – women have a libido, contrary to what conservative Christians teach!!) – complain that their marriage was sexless.
As to what this guy in this letter is saying – buddy, you do in fact have control. You do have self-control. So when this guy says in his letter that he “can’t control his mind,” that is a load of garbage. You can control your mind.
You can pretty much choose what you think about.
If you find your mind starting to gravitate on some topic or another (that you would rather not dwell upon), you can choose to think about something else. (I’m not saying it’s easy, but it can be done with some effort.)
Additionally, and depending on what this guy is wanting to get out of sex – if it’s just an orgasm – pal, you don’t technically need your wife for that, if you know what I mean. As I’ve said on this blog a time or two before, “Sex with another person is a Luxury not a Necessity.”
Here is a transcript of the guy’s letter. From an episode that first aired Tues, Feb 28, 2017:
[Dear Pat Robertson / 700 Club],
Nineteen years ago my wife decided that we were not going to have sex anymore. I’ve stopped bringing it up because it caused so many fights and division. I’m now 73 years old and keep hoping that someday the pain and longing will go away, but if anything, it just keeps getting worse, and I think about it all the time.
I have not physically committed adultery, but I can’t control my mind. Any suggestions?
The letter in question is the second or third one in this video (it should be embedding the Feb 28 show with Wendy as co-host, not a March episode with Terri as co-host):
(Link): Bring It On-Line: – February 28, 2017
For some reason, Word Press is embedding the wrong video… it should be displaying the FEB. 28, 2017 video below (edit: it appears to be embedding the correct video now. I hope it stays this way):
(Link): Getting Married Does Not Necessarily Guarantee Frequent Hot Satisfying Sexy Sex – Husband is Sexless for Eight Years (article)
(Link): Perverted Christian Married Couple Wants to “Wife Swap” (For Sex) With Other Christian Couple – Why Christians Need to Uphold Chastity / Celibacy For All People Even Married Couples Not Just Teens
(Link): Why Christians Need to Uphold Lifelong Celibacy as an Option for All Instead of Merely Pressuring All to Marry – vis a vis Sexless Marriages, Counselors Who Tell Marrieds that Having Affairs Can Help their Marriages
(Link): AARP post: How to Handle a Sexless Married Life – But Christians Promise You Great Hot Regular Married Sex
(Link): Married Woman Signing off as “Looking Ahead” Admits to Being in Sexless Marriage for TEN YEARS
(Link): More Married Couples Admit to Sexless Marriages (various articles) / Christians promise you great frequent sex if you wait until marriage, but the propaganda is not true
(Link): Wife Writes to Ask Amy About Her Sexless Marriage October 2013
(Link): Resident Christian Marriage Advice Writer at Christian Mag Admits Some Christian Marriages are Sexless
(Link): Her Marriage is Sexless While She Cares For Sick Elderly Father