Jeannie Mai Says Church People Pray for Her to Want Babies: Stop Shaming Me

Jeannie Mai Says Church People Pray for Her to Want Babies: Stop Shaming Me

It is truly disgusting how deeply Christians and secular culture demand and expect all women to reproduce, even if the woman in question has absolutely no interest in having children.

I cannot BELIEVE how terribly OBNOXIOUS people are! It’s none of anyone’s business why or why not this woman has kids, or if she doesn’t want them and why not, and so on.

Breeding is not an imperative – in the New Testament (see 1 Cor 7), Paul states it is better NOT to be having sex! But Christians push and harass people who choose to stay single and childless, or who find themselves as such due to circumstance.

(Link): Jeannie Mai Says Church People Pray for Her to Want Babies: Stop Shaming Me

BY CHRISTINE THOMASOS , CHRISTIAN POST REPORTER

March 7, 2017

Jeannie Mai is speaking out against those who have shamed her for not wanting children, including people in her church who have laid hands on her and prayed for her desire to give birth.

Mai, the 38-year-old co-host of daytime talk show “The Real,” was emotional as she explained the frustration she felt when people expected her to announce her pregnancy with her husband, Freddy Harteis, of 10 years. While she is outspoken about her Christian faith on the show and social media, Mai expressed her issues with people at her church praying for her to want children.

“I’ve even had people like at church, which is why sometimes it throws me off from church, but they lay hands and they’ll pray for me that I’ll want that. [They] lay hands like ‘God you’re going to put that moment in Jeannie where she will be an amazing mother,” she recalled. “‘Let her know, let her feel that.'”

For some time, Jeannie Mai has been vocal about her desire not to have children. She explained why those prayers that may seem well intentioned made her uncomfortable.

“I’m the one that deserves to have that moment, not everybody else. Stop baby shaming people to make us feel like there’s something wrong with us if we don’t want children,” she said. “That is my time to decide, that is my conversation with God. I am not a wrong person or less of a woman because I haven’t yet had that feeling or may never have that feeling.”

Mai spoke about the matter after 63-year-old media tycoon Oprah Winfrey spoke up about not wanting to have children in the April issue of Good Housekeeping U.K.

“I didn’t want babies. I wouldn’t have been a good mom for babies,” Winfrey told Good Housekeeping U.K.”I don’t have the patience. I have the patience for puppies, but that’s a quick stage!”


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