Complementarians and Single Women via New Life Blog

Complementarians and Single Women via New Life Blog

(Link):  Complementarians and Single Women – New Life Blog

This is a topic I have blogged on time and again on my blog the past few years – that complementarianism is not truly applicable to never-married, divorced, or widowed or child-free or childless women, such as in this post:

(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings

Christian Gender Complementarianism remains fixated with married mothers. They do not give a whit about women who do not marry, who are not married, who may never marry (by choice or by circumstance), or who are not mothers.

Christian Gender Complementarianism is fixated on trying to find apparent Biblical justification to keep married women oppressed, to convince Christian women that their only or best or most “godly” option in life is to marry and have children, and they try to convince women that being equals to men in all aspects – including in marriage and employment – is evil propaganda of liberal, secular feminists.

Complementarianism is also reactionary – it’s a knee-jerk reaction against societal changes that some Christians find threatening; the Bible actually does not teach or support complementarianism.

In my experience, about any time I have ever visited a complementarian site or blog and looked at their coverage of topics, a search on “marriage” or “motherhood” will yield a billion pages of hits and results, while the words and topics of “single” or “singleness” will turn up maybe one or two articles at most.

And, further, the one or two singleness articles are usually written under the assumption that the unmarried person reading it will be married some day.

Such articles are basically telling women things like, “Learn and practice being submissive now while you are a teen and in your early 20s, so when you get married at age 25, you will already make a great wife!”

Such thinking does not take into consideration that women like me arrive at our mid-40s still single. I’ve never been married. Such “wife- in- training” articles (and aimed at singles) are presumptuous, insulting, and irrelevant to many women.

Here is a link to the blog post at New Life with an excerpt or two below it:

(Link):  Complementarians and Single Women


Here’s the question: “How can a Christian single woman enter into the mystery of Christ and the church if she never experiences marriage?

What is telling is that this question singles out single women; there is no similar question for single men. And, the male authors, who answer the forty-nine other questions, even have a woman give the answer to question 48 as though this is especially a woman’s concern. (The answer, in my opinion, is unhelpful and has nothing to do with Ephesians 5:32.)

The implication of question and answer 48 is that single virgin women, but not single virgin men, may have difficulty experiencing “the mystery of Christ and church.”

Is a single woman a lesser member of Christ’s church? Is she any less of a follower of Jesus than a single man or a married husband or wife? Is she less than a widowed or divorced person?

(( please click here to read the rest at New Life blog ))

Many Christians, but gender complementarians especially, place far too much emphasis and importance upon marriage and motherhood, something the Bible did not do. Please also see the links below under “Related Posts.”

Related Posts:

(Link):  Christian Patriarchalists and Gender Complementarians Sexualizing the Trinity and Insisting Sexual Activity is Necessary to Fully Know God (via Under Much Grace blog)

(Link): Statistics Show Single Adults Now Outnumber Married Adults in the United States (2014)

(Link): Single, Virgin Women Do Not Have Another Standard by Which to Be Saved, Contra Complementarian Group CBMW

(Link):  Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin

(Link): The Bible Does Not Teach Christians to “Focus On The Family” – The Idolization of Family by American Christians (article)

(Link):  Are Christian Singles The New Second Class Christian? by Duke Taber

(Link): Ever Notice That Christians Don’t Care About or Value Singleness, Unless Jesus Christ’s Singleness and Celibacy is Doubted or Called Into Question by Scholars?

(Link):  When Adult Virginity and Adult Celibacy Are Viewed As Inconvenient or As Impediments

(Link):  Salvation By Marriage Alone – The Over Emphasis Upon Marriage by Conservative Christians Evangelicals Southern Baptists

(Link):  “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site

(Link):   Are Marriage and Family A Woman’s Highest Calling? by Marcia Wolf – and other links that address the Christian fallacy that a woman’s most godly or only proper role is as wife and mother

(Link): The Irrelevancy To Single or Childless or Childfree Christian Women of Biblical Gender Complementarian Roles / Biblical Womanhood Teachings

(Link):  Why are Working Women Starting to Unplug from Their Churches? by Sandra Crawford Williamson (Also discusses never married adult women)

(Link): Please Stop Shaming Me for Being Single by J. Vadnal

(Link):  Are Single People the Lepers of Today’s Church? by Gina Dalfonzo

(Link):  Southern Baptist’s New Sexist “Biblical Woman” Site – Attitudes in Total Face Palm of a Site One Reason Among Many This Unmarried and Childless Woman Is Saying Toodle-Oo to Christianity

(Link):   Woman Book Author – Andrea Tantaros –  Suggests That Single Women Are Miserable And Can’t Get Husbands Because Feminism. My Critique of Her Article / Book

(Link):   Half of Americans Think Women Should Be Required by Law to Take Husband’s Name

(Link):   Alpha Females Part 4 – From Psychiatrists and Counselors: How and Why Being a Beta Female is Harmful and Damaging to Women

(Link): How Christians Have Failed on Teaching Maturity and Morality Vis A Vis Marriage / Parenthood – Used as Markers of Maturity Or Assumed to be Sanctifiers

(Link): Want To But Can’t – The One Christian Demographic Being Continually Ignored by Christians Re: Marriage

(Link):  Husband-Hunting is the Worst Part of a Christian Upbringing – Christianity Made Me Obsessed with Finding a Husband  by B Ramos

(Link): According to Pastor ( Jimmy Evans ) It Takes One Man and Woman Married To Equal A Whole – so where does that leave Christian singles ? / Too Much Sex Talk

(Lies): Lies The Church Tells Single Women (by Sue Bohlin)

(Link): The Nauseating Push by Evangelicals for Early Marriage

(Link): A Case Against Early Marriage by Ashley Moore (editorial)

(Link): Typical Incorrect Conservative Christian Assumption: If you want marriage bad enough, Mr. Right will magically appear

(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family) (article)

(Link):  Widower to Advice Columnist Talks about Being Stereotyped by Married Couples or Ignored by Other Marrieds Since His Wife has Died

(Link):  Christian Blogger About Divorce, Pastor Andrew Webb, Thinks All To Most Mid-Life Never – Married or Single – Again Adults Are Mal-Adjusted, Ugly Losers Who Have Too Much Baggage

(Link): Christians Who Attack Virginity Celibacy and Sexual Purity – and specifically Russell D. Moore and James M. Kushiner

(Link):  Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer


Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s