Actor Supposedly Too Self-Absorbed to Get or Keep a Girlfriend
I’m not sure if this is true or not – it comes via a celebrity site.
While some women can be very self-absorbed, I think this is more of a male tendency, because it is culturally supported.
Most of us American women are taught while still in childhood that it is selfish for us to get our own needs met, that we should only cater to the needs of those around us, and we should be really nurturing and supportive to those around us. Boys do not usually get this same sort of conditioning.
So, these boys grow into men who are accustomed to females catering to them and listening to them chatter away about themselves endlessly.
Most women are not happy with this, by the way.
We women grow to resent and loathe giving men un-reciprocated emotional support more and more the older we get.
A lot of our culture and god knows gender complementarian Christian churches advocate this view that women exist merely to serve, cheer on, and encourage men.
So, a lot of you men just assume a woman should be there for you, listen to you talk about yourself and your problems for hours on end, and offer words of support.
My ex fiance’ was certainly like this – he was very self absorbed and dominated all of our phone and in-person conversations, and never asked about me or how I was doing.
My ex expressed NO interest in me or my life, but he would sure expect me to sit and listen to him gab about him and his hobbies, job, etc, all the time. It was so very annoying.
I grind my teeth just thinking about all the times I sat there for an hour or longer listening to him go on and on about himself in phone calls or over dinner dates.
If you are a man who is dating around and you’re puzzled as to why you cannot get a girlfriend, it may just be because you are too self-absorbed and don’t show an interest in the women you are with.
You may be spending too much time talking about yourself and you don’t ask the woman you’re with about her thoughts or about her life.
This actor they are discussing (who a lot of women find very sexy) played “Superman” in a few movies:
Playing Superman has clearly gone to the Brit actor’s head, pals say.
May 3, 2017, by R. Sanchez
Playing Superman has gone to Henry Cavill ’s head: The Brit actor is so full of himself, sources say, he’s having trouble finding a girlfriend.
Single since splitting last May from 20-year-old student Tara King —
whom he once praised for being there “when I need looking after” —
Henry “spends every date talking about himself,” an insider says.
“That might be OK at first to a girl who’s starstruck, but it gets old, fast.”
While Henry’s friends are getting hitched, “he’s looking for a relationship out of the 1950s,” says the insider.
“He has no interest in the woman’s life — he insists on being the center of attention.”
Not so super!
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