“I Regret Having Children” – Various Mothers Interviewed (via NY Post)
(Link): “I Regret Having Children” – Various Mothers Interviewed (via NY Post) by G. Wilson
….Here, a handful of women who have shared how they wish they could turn back time and do it all differently.
“I regret having my daughter.
“She is now 12 and it is easier as they get older, but sometimes I look at her and wish she had never been born. I was/am a single mother and right from the start the moment the midwife gave her to me I didn’t feel this instant love that people talk of, all I felt was the huge weight of regret.
“Being a single mother with a baby that hardly slept and screamed all the time was awful, I was constantly exhausted, but I never told anyone about how I really felt for fear of being judged, I couldn’t give her to my parents for a night or two because of their drinking.
“It was no better when she was a toddler the terrible two’s were a nightmare not until she turned three did I start to get a break and she finally went into a routine and finally started to sleep at night.
…Ready to walk
“I have 10 month old twins, and I hate my life.
“My husband is in the Army, so away a lot. I hate the monotony and the constant CONSTANT crying and battles for attention. I’ve hated it since they were born.
“Since having them I’ve become increasingly bitter, depressed and angry. I want to start over but my husband will not sacrifice his career and won’t have full custody.
“I do not want to be a single mum as this would just increase in the intensity.
“I’m not keen on adoption as I’m in the UK so they would just be taken into the care system and I wouldn’t know if they were okay, open adoptions are not legal here.
“Does anyone have any other options or advice? Starting to feel like my only option is to suck it up or hand them over to social services.”
(Link): Are Marriage and Family A Woman’s Highest Calling? by Marcia Wolf – and other links that address the Christian fallacy that a woman’s most godly or only proper role is as wife and mother
(Link): Parenthood Does Not Make People More Loving Mature Godly Ethical Caring or Responsible (One Stop Thread)
(Link): Family as “The” Backbone of Society? – It’s Not In The Bible
(Link): Why all the articles about being Child Free? On Being Childfree or Childless – as a Conservative / Right Wing / Christian
(Link): Motherhood Is Not A Woman’s Most Important Job by J. Wright
(Link): Sorry, but being a mother is not the most important job in the world by Catherine Deveny
(Link): Cultural Discrimination Against Childless and Childfree Women – and link to an editorial by a Childless Woman
(Link): Your Church’s Mother’s Day Carnation is Not Worth Any Woman’s Broken Heart – A Critique of ‘When Mother’s Day Feels Like a Minefield’ by L. L. Fields
(Link): Do You Rate Your Family Too High? (Christians Who Idolize the Family) (article)
(Link): Sexism, Protecting Women, Family Values, and Christians Placing Biological Family Above Everyone Else
(Link): More married women are not having children, U.S. study finds – this will throw a monkey wrench into conservative Christian plans
(Link): “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site
(Link): How Christians Have Failed on Teaching Maturity and Morality Vis A Vis Marriage / Parenthood – Used as Markers of Maturity Or Assumed to be Sanctifiers – Also: More Hypocrisy – Christians Teach You Need A Spouse to Be Purified, But Also Teach God Won’t Send You a Spouse Until You Become Purified