Is It Just Me, Or Is Making Friends in Middle Age Hard for Everyone? (Letter to Ask Amy)

Is It Just Me, Or Is Making Friends in Middle Age Hard for Everyone? (Letter to Ask Amy)

I’ve had the same difficulty, so lady, it’s NOT just you.

(Link):  Is It Just Me, Or Is Making Friends in Middle Age Hard for Everyone? (Letter to Ask Amy)

June 2017


I am a 50-year-old self-employed professional, and I have no friends. I know lots of people and have plenty of acquaintances.

I moved back to the Midwest about five years ago after getting divorced. I remarried recently and my husband is my best and pretty much my only friend. We met online.

I know I need more than this, but I have not been able to connect to anyone socially here for much more than an occasional cup of coffee.

I don’t have children of my own. My stepdaughters are in college so there are no playdates, no kids to car pool to activities — or the usual things women do to meet and connect with others.

Being self-employed, I don’t have the typical office crowd to socialize with after work.

I have tried to connect to other women via the Chamber of Commerce groups, but it seems I end up meeting people who just want to sell me stuff and don’t really want to form a friendship.

I go to yoga classes and I go to the gym, but it seems that nobody really sticks around afterward to socialize. I tried to start a book club in my neighborhood but the only two people who joined have now moved.

I have been involved in volunteer organizations, which gives me something to do outside of work, but I have yet to meet people I really click with.

I used to have a diverse group of friends when I lived in another state and I had plenty of friends in college, so I know I’m not completely socially inept.

How else can I connect to people? Is it just me, or is making friends in middle age this hard for everyone?

50 and Lonely


It is not just you; making friends in middle age means walking a long and occasionally lonely road.

You may find some satisfaction (and you’ll definitely broaden your options) using the same technology that brought you and your husband together, by trying some “meetups” through

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