Only Couples Allowed? The Need to Celebrate Singleness in the Church by P. Greer
A guy I follow on Twitter, and who follows me, named Andrew W. shared this link on his Twitter profile. I see in the comment box that my one-time stalker left a comment on that page.
(Link): Only Couples Allowed? The Need to Celebrate Singleness in the Church.
Excerpts (to see the full list, please click link above to visit the page):
…But I see a different story in Scripture. Jesus chose to remain single. Another bachelor, the apostle Paul said, “I wish that all of you were [single] as I am” (1 Corinthians 7:7).
Paul celebrated singleness and referred to it as a gift. At the very least, in today’s world, let’s not put so much pressure on singles or only view the world through the “you-have-to-be-married” lens.
To my married friends, here are several dos and don’ts on how to celebrate singleness:
Please don’t …
- Treat singles as if something’s wrong with them. In the Church, sometimes we make people feel something’s wrong if you don’t get married within 10 years after graduation. Reject the lie that being a Christian means you have kids and a spouse.
…Pretend you understand what it’s like to be single. Yes, you were single once. But being single for a few years doesn’t make you the expert today.
Please do …
- Celebrate milestones. “Adult” milestones—bridal showers, bachelor parties, and baby showers—exclude singles. Why not throw a single person a birthday party or celebrate their promotion at work? Or just find a way to make them feel special and valued?
(Link): Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin
(Link): 10 Things Never to Say to a Single Girl (article)
(Link): Unmarried / Single People Are Supposedly Bitter & Have Too Much Baggage – and that’s why you’re still single they say
(Link): Five Unhelpful Things Singles Are Tired Of Hearing by R. Duncan / Eight Things You Should Never Say To Your Single Friends by K. Wilkinson
(Link): Want To But Can’t – The One Christian Demographic Being Continually Ignored by Christians | Re: Marriage Not Happening for Hetero-sexual Christians Over the Age of 30
(Link): All Dating Advice is as Terrible As the People Who Give It by Oliver Burkeman
(Link): Another Obnoxious ‘Why You’re Not Married Yet‘ Article
(Link): A Long Time Single Responds to a ‘Why You’re Not Married’ Article
(Link): Singleness Is Not A Gift
(Link): ‘Why Are You Single’ Lists That Do Not Pathologize Singles by Bella DePaulo
(Link): Christians: Please Stop Telling Singles that Their Singleness is “For God’s Glory” / Owen Strachan’s “Being Single To Bring God Glory” Essay
(Link): Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please.
(Link): Article: 30 And Single? It’s Your Own Fault
(Link): Five Things Single Women Hate to Hear
(Link): Annoyances of Being a Christian Single
(Link): Seven Reasons Why It’s Hard To Be Single In The Church by Sarah The Barge
(Link): List of Christian Singlehood Annoyances, Part 1
(Link): List of Christian Singlehood Annoyances, Part 2
(Link): Topics Preachers Should or Shouldn’t Mention When Discussing Singlehood
(Link): Celibate Christian Woman Asks Christian Host (Pat Robertson) Why God Will Not Send Her a Husband
(Link): Stop Believing God Told You to Marry Your Spouse by G. Thomas
(Link): Depressing Testimony: “I Was A Stripper but Jesus Sent Me A Great Christian Husband”
(Link): Never Married 38 Year Old Christian Guy Wants to Know Why Churches Treat Him Like a Freak
(Link): “They Feel that Churches Don’t Offer Anything For Singles”
(Link): The Obligatory, “Oh, but if you’re single you can still benefit from my marriage sermon” line
(Link): Ministering to the Unmarried by Noel Cameron
(Link): The Stupid Advice We Give To Single Women Over 40 (from the Current Conscience Blog)
(Link): Being Single is Hard by E. Lindsay