Dangerous Dating Trend Called Love Bombing
by Greg Evans
Malicious dating methods are not uncommon and it appears that ‘love bombing’ is the latest trend on the scene.
Previously we’ve had the likes of ghosting, benching and DTR where individuals manipulate anothers emotions for their own benefit.
Love bombing is a tactic that involves the immediate seduction of a new partner by showing them with affection.
According to the (Link): New York Post, this often occurs in whirlwind relationships, in which the overwhelming sensation of romance can push aside concerns and doubt.
This onslaught of periods of attention, known as ‘bombs’, leaves little room for the other person to question their partners intentions.
Some love bombers frequently declare their intentions to do things rather than ask questions. Whether they want to take you on holiday or outline how happy the next stage of the relationship will be, their target is to make you think they are indispensable and key to your future happiness.
[This behavior can be associated with narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies. Some examples, by psychiatrist Dale Archer]
…If there’s an abrupt shift in the type of attention, from affectionate and loving to controlling and angry, with the pursuing partner making unreasonable demands, that’s a red flag.
This is classic psychological conditioning at play here.
Just as the love bombing is the positive reinforcement (you do what I want, and I’ll shower you with love), the devaluation is the negative consequence (you did something wrong, so I’m punishing you)
…Firstly you should stop them and ask to slow things down. Being endlessly told that you are ‘perfect’ and that you are ‘soul mates’ can be nice but it is a distraction from an emerging and constructing dynamic.
Request that things cool down for a while as it is moving little too fast for your liking.
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