How To Say No At Work When You Don’t Have Kids by M. Savage
First saw this on B. DePaulo’s Twitter:
(Link): How To Say No At Work When You Don’t Have Kids by M. Savage
Despite a boom in flexible working, many singles say they’re still picking up the slack from colleagues with families. Career coaches are advising them to say no.
…“The assumption [by employers] is that you can drop everything or that you don’t have a care in the world [if you are single and do not have children],” says Chaka. “Actually, as a single, life is more expensive, you have to run all errands yourself and you don’t have someone to fall back on financially if things go wrong.”
During research for his book Going Solo, Eric Klinenberg, a professor of sociology at New York University interviewed hundreds of single people in Europe and America and discovered “there was widespread perception that singles became the workhorses in corporate offices”.
“I met countless workers who complained that their managers viewed them as always available for late night and weekend assignments, because they didn’t have children or spouses,” he says.
“In a few cases, I met women who said that they had been denied raises that they deserved, because their managers believed that they didn’t need the extra money as much as colleagues with children,” adds the author.
…So, what should single workers do if they feel they’re being singled out because of their personal life choices or situation, yet don’t want to jeopardise their careers and reputations?
…“You shouldn’t feel threatened or bad for having a work-life balance, regardless of whether you’ve got kids or no kids,” she [Janice Chaka, successful business coach] argues.
Her advice is to thoroughly research any business you’re interviewed by, to find out its culture and policies in advance. More practically, once in the job, she advocates not befriending work colleagues on social media. That way, they’re not given the opportunity to judge photos of the activities that were important to you on a night you needed to leave promptly or a time you wanted to take a day’s vacation.