Here’s What Dating Sites Are Like If You’re A Woman by Taylor Bolduc
Dating is hard.
Dating is really hard.
First you have to find someone with whom you share a mutual attraction, then you have to make sure that you want the same thing in terms of commitment.
But the hardest part is meeting someone. As a result, many have turned to online dating sites. In fact, a third of recently married couples met online. They’re also less likely to break up.
But online dating is different for men and women. As the saying goes: “Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.”
While it is true that straight women get more attention on dating sites than men, that doesn’t always mean it’s positive attention from safe potential partners. As an experiment I set up accounts on three of the more popular free dating websites, then spoke to some women about their experiences.
[Reviews of OK Cupid, Casual Kiss]
Plenty Of Fish
PlentyofFish is perhaps the most popular online dating sites out there, with an estimated 6 million pageviews a month and 76 million users (a little less than the entire population of Turkey). It’s no surprise that I received nearly twice as many messages on Plenty of Fish than OkCupid and Casual Kiss combined.
In total, I received 34 messages, all of which were very nice. I never replied to any of the messages, however there were a few men who messaged me twice despite that, in an attempt to get a response. 497 people said that they wanted to meet me on PoF’s Meet Me feature.
… Tips For Men On Dating Sites
First off, telling a woman about what you would like to do to her sexually without any prompting is not a compliment. It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means. Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). No one likes unwanted sexual advances.
[screen cap taken from man’s dating profile page where he complains about women]
Insulting other women, while looking for a woman, won’t help your chances of finding someone. That’s another turn-off.
…Safety Tips For Women (And Men Too)
Try to get to know someone before meeting them. Watch for any red flags, such as disregarding your boundaries and not respecting your feelings.
When going to meet someone in person, it helps to suggest you both bring along a friend. This may help relieve the anxiety of the other person, plus it’s a safeguard for you both in case something happens. Also, be sure to meet in a public place and to stay in a public place. If you’re going alone, be sure to tell a friend where you’re going and what you’ll be doing.
For a first meeting, be sure to stay sober.
Don’t send out money, especially overseas.
(Link): Online Dating Scammers
(Link): Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work