Dear Abby: I Gave Up Dating, and 30 Years Later, I’m Lonely
This post has been edited to add even more reader comments from other sites that published this Abby letter. Virtually nobody is sympathetic with this guy.
I was genuinely feeling empathy and sympathy for this dude, right up until this phrase in his letter to Dear Abby:
“I’m not attracted to women my age, and I don’t see younger women being attracted to an overweight old guy…”
Die alone, ageist rat bastard!
You’re in your 70s, by your own admission, you’re dumpy- or tubby- looking and don’t have a great income, but you pine after some 20, 30, or 40 or 50 year old hottie? (And I bet this sexist pig jerk expects any chick he dates to not only be younger but very thin, too.)
Oh get bent, ten times over!
And I really (Link): hate May December relationships in the first place.
I’m not even in my 70s yet, but bite me, you creep! You should be dating women your own age.
I’m in my 40s (and I stay in shape), and hell no, the majority of women don’t want to date a much-older guy, and the ones that do are generally after the dude’s money.
(Link, Chicago Sun Times): Dear Abby: I Gave Up Dating, and 30 Years Later, I’m Lonely | (Link, Yahoo news): Dear Abby | (Link): on STL Today
I am a 70-year-old male former teacher and social worker. I stopped dating 30 years ago because the only women I had loved had all dumped me. I felt I was only a temporary convenience to them.
Since then, I haven’t been romantically involved with anyone so I would not be dumped again.
However, I am lonely for female companionship and afraid I’ll die without ever having had another girlfriend.
I’m not attracted to women my age, and I don’t see younger women being attracted to an overweight old guy who isn’t even scraping by on Social Security. Dating services don’t screen their members. Is there a solution for this problem?
—[signed] HOPELESS IN MISSOURI
I’m sorry women in your age range don’t qualify, because it would be easier for you if they did.
To be appreciated for the person you are, you will have to meet through mutual friends, church or an activity you enjoy — something that will allow women to see the strengths you have.
However, if that doesn’t open some doors and some hearts, because you’re looking for unconditional love, consider adopting a puppy.
Also check out the reader comments on (Link): this page.
comment by Lofty Bike
70, overweight, not interested in media and without a relationship for 30 years, missing “equal rights” becoming more and more reality. And this prince is not interested in a woman his own age, he wants a trophy girlfriend.
comment by Donna Roberts
LW sounds like my BIL who is no prize himself but wants no part of women his age (55), only hot 20-somethings. He hasn’t been on a date for years. Hopefully young women will see him how he really is and not be flattered by the attention of an older, skeevy man. So far, so good.
comment by Crazy Beautiful Marble (reply to Donna Roberts)
comment by Lorna
Thirty years ago, you got dumped by women who were out of your league. Now you still don’t know what league you’re in. Here’s a hint: it’s not the “younger, good looking woman” league. Most of us have to “settle” for someone who’s at our level, and that’s not settling at all. It’s called reality.
(Link): Love Couldn’t Save Me From Loneliness By M. Puniewska