Abusers Hide In Churches – Equally Yoked Does Not Help Single Christian Women Who’d Like to Marry
The “equally yoked” rule really makes no sense for single adult Christians, especially Christian women who’d like to marry, since (Link): so many self professing Christian men – even ones who read their Bibles daily or attend church weekly or work as pastors – are sexual deviants, wife abusers, or adulterers.
My parents taught me to seek out good mate material at local churches, because they felt the quality of people would be better at a church, as opposed to going to a bar to get dates with men.
However, I’ve seen far too many news stories of self professed Christian men who beat their wives, molest kids, or have been arrested for soliciting sex with animals, to think that Christian men are any more quality or safer than Non-Christian men. I also fail to see how churches are any safer to meet dates than a bar.
The whole post by Deborah Brunt is very good, but I only wanted to quote from part of it in my post:
(Link): Be wary of churches breaking the silence by Deborah Brunt
[How churches and typical Christian preachers deal with sexual abuse in their churches]
Pastor-Man offers simple solutions for sexual abuse.
He calls men to be pure. He makes no distinction between the temptation to sexual sin, which both genders face, and the lifestyle of strong deception, sexual domination and violence that male abusers deliberately adopt.
In fact, Pastor-Man preaches as if all men who attend church want to be godly and to overcome sin. Yet sexual predators are often drawn to church, where they seek to appear blameless, and to get away with evil.
Pastor-Man tells abused women to forgive. He thus promotes one scriptural concept as a cure-all. Yet in abusive situations, forgiveness wrongly applied can be deadly. Pastor-Man shames victims away from seeking justice. He omits other crucial biblical principles, including:
the call to be “wise as serpents” in regard to evil – to see past the fog abuse creates and the masks behind which abusers hide; to recognize both for what they are;
the principle of fleeing from those intent on harm.
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That’s right. Not all men who attend churches are good, godly men. Some are abusive, manipulative, or sexual deviants.
(Link): Pedophiles Seeking Christian Wives in Churches – Another Reason to be Leery of the “Equally Yoked” Idea and Reconsider Church as a Place to Meet Singles
(Link): Convicted Sex Offender on the Run for 20 Years Found Living New Life as Pastor in Alabama
(Link): To the Christians (especially married ones) Who Like to Instruct Single Christian Adults They Should Only Marry Other Christians, Listen Up (Re: Equally Yoked Rule)
(Link): Miserable in a Marriage to a Covert Narcissist – Content by Renee Swanson (This Content Can Help Single Adults Too) – Complementarians Push People to Stay in Toxic Marriages Like This One