Doctor Reveals 19 Unhealthy Signs You Could Be Genuinely Addicted to Your Partner
It is often said that love conquers all and the throes of romance are a buzz that’s hard to beat, but could being in love actually be bad for you?
Experts say the way people’s brains work means you can become addicted to your partner in the same way you could be hooked on drugs or food.
If you are infatuated with your partner you could develop a dependency which has knock-on effects on your mental health, your job and your friends and family.
Dr. Femke Buisman-Pijlman, an addiction researcher at Australia’s University of Adelaide, and author and counsellor Margaret Paul, PhD, have come up with 19 signs that you could be unhealthily attached to your other half.
‘We can get addicted to people just as we can to alcohol or food,’ says Paul.
‘It’s a form of self-abandonment where you use another person to avoid responsibility for your feelings.’
In the list written for Cosmopolitan, Dr Buisman-Pjilman adds: ‘When you [first] fall in love, you can feel ecstatic like with initial drug or alcohol use.
‘When the thrill of new love subsides, you could be left with a psychological dependence where you think you need the other person.’
Here are the experts’ 19 signs you should be worried about your relationship:
You want to be with them so much it invades your own life
You annoy your friends by taking your partner everywhere, and spend time with them when you should be doing more important things.
Dr. Buisman-Pijlman says: ‘Addiction is not about really enjoying something, but being unable to stop something that gives some pleasures but many problems.’
You can’t be happy without them
Spending time with your partner should be a joy but you must be able to have fun when they’re not around, too.
If you don’t have other people or things in your life which make you happy you run the risk of becoming reliant.
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