Millennial Explains Why She’s Still A Virgin at 27 Years Old: “It’s Partly Circumstance, It’s Partly Choice’

Millennial Explains Why She’s Still A Virgin at 27 Years Old: “It’s Partly Circumstance, It’s Partly Choice’

(Link):  Millennial Explains Why She’s Still A Virgin at 27 Years Old: “It’s Partly Circumstance, It’s Partly Choice’

Some of my comments about that article:

I don’t agree with all the views of the woman named Kenney who is quoted in this. Kenney wrongly assumes that being a virgin, or choosing to be one due to religious reasons or what have you, makes you repressed, or she assumes you have been brain-washed by the patriarchy.

The article makes a point that people who read about her story on social media were “divided” about it.

If people are touchy about virginity and celibacy it’s because most of the culture is extremely sexualized, puts far too much weight on sex, assumes that having sex is necessary to be “normal” or to be mature. Further, any and all forms of sexual acts have been normalized by broader culture now to the point that anyone who chooses not to partake in the hedonistic sexual free-for-all is thought to be a weirdo, loser, or wet blanket.

I’m expect to support and respect the behavior of people who have kinky sex, homosexual sex, promiscuous sex, etc and what all, but all the people who demand me expect that refuse to respect adult virginity or adult celibacy.

Millennial Explains Why She’s Still A Virgin at 27 Years Old: “It’s Partly Circumstance, It’s Partly Choice’

Excerpts:

“I think it’s partly circumstance and partly choice,” she told hosts Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield.

“I think when it comes to losing your virginity there are two camps of thought, when one wants it to mean something and wait for the right person, and obviously some people don’t care.

“I guess I was in the first category, I wasn’t looking for the man I was going to marry, but I wanted something that wasn’t going to be a one night stand, a connection more than sex. I guess I just never found the right person.”

Riley revealed she was in a relationship for five weeks and that sex “was on the cards”, but things fizzled out before an opportunity arose as it transpired that the man in question still had feelings for his ex girlfriend.

She went on to explain that her decision has nothing to do with a lack of confidence, doubts regarding her sexuality or a lack of interest in sex, as some have suspected.

“The main misconception that people have if you’re a virgin is that you’re completely disinterested in sex altogether which is not the case,” she added.

Appearing alongside Riley on the show was relationship expert and psychologist Emma Kenney, who argued that sex should not be perceived as a power exchange, as the virginal narrative of being “pure” may sometimes suggest.

…“You seem very level-headed about it [your sexuality],” Kenney concurred [to Riley].

“This isn’t a thing about you wishing to be a virgin, this is actually just about you finding a guy you want to have sex with.

“I think that’s a very different situation than when we talk about the power play that can be involved in a woman feeling that virginity makes her ‘pure’, it doesn’t make you pure, it just means you haven’t had sex.”

…Riley’s appearance divided users on social media, with some questioning the need for her to provide an explanation for being a virgin aged 27.

“Why should she have to explain what she does with her virginity?” asked one person on Twitter.

“Her business. Her virginity,” added another.

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