That Time My Friend Told Me Her Husband Didn’t Want Us Hanging Out Because I’m Not Married
By Theresa Ukpo
… Recently, I had to ask a friend why I hadn’t seen her in a while.
…. “My husband doesn’t want us spending time together. He thinks you may be a bad influence since you’re not married and all. You know we just have different priorities.”
I don’t know what insulted me more, the idea that her husband had said this or that she’d believed it enough to adhere to this insidious request. But come to think of it, this rhetoric isn’t at all uncommon.
…. I, for, one find this to be a ridiculously pervasive thought process. I understand the pedestal upon which marriage has been placed and the level of social elevation that it bestows upon its participants.
However, to fundamentally forgo basic human connections because you’re in a different life stage is backward thinking at best and relationship xenophobia at worst.
Single men and women are no more dangerous or unhappy than married couples.
We do not hold the key to the underworld or den of iniquity. We don’t lead married people astray and give them a false idea of what else is out there. If anything, your single friends round out your life and remind you that there is an existence outside of being coupled.
The notion that your single friends are unhappy and seek to lather your marriage in negativity by way of proximity is simply untrue.