A Stanford psychologist just disproved the oldest love advice in the book

A Stanford psychologist just disproved the oldest love advice in the book

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Both science and intuition suggest that we choose our friends and romantic partners because we share things in common, such as age, educational level, race, religion, attitudes, and general intelligence.

But what role does personality play in attraction? Are conscientious people drawn to conscientious people? Extroverts to extroverts?

Until recently no one really knew, says Michal Kosinski, an assistant professor of organizational behavior at Stanford Graduate School of Business.

“Psychologists looked at this issue for many years, but the results were quite clear: Friends and partners are not similar in terms of personality,” he says. “This was surprising, because we know intuitively that people choose partners and friends who have similar personalities. It made us wonder if, perhaps, the researchers were doing something wrong.”

…Kosinski and three colleagues decided to approach personality assessment differently. They used big data gleaned from Facebook—

…If nothing else, Kosinski says the study raises doubts about the old saying that opposites attract. They might sometimes, but those cases are the exceptions, not the rule. “As it turns out,” he says, “the great majority of our interactions are with people who are a lot like us.”

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