Supreme Court Nominee Kavanaugh and Virginity
So, Brett Kavanaugh is Trump’s nominee for Supreme Court Justice.
Apparently Democrats leaked the personal information of Dr. Christine Ford, who claims that when younger, Kavanaugh pushed her on to a bed, put his hand over her mouth, and was attempting to undress her.
It was either Ford or another woman who knew Kavanaugh when he was a teen or young 20-something who claims Kavanaugh exposed his genitals to her.
Kavanaugh was called before a Senate committee last week (great parody (Link): here)
Anyway – I was raised in the Christian faith, and partly due to that and Christian sexual ethics teachings – which stress that sex outside of marriage is sin – I’ve yet to have sex, I am still a virgin, as I’ve never married. I’m in my 40s.
One thing I’ve noticed is that not only does a large swath of secular culture mock sexually abstinent people, but so too does Christian culture and conservatives.
Your average liberal or feminist wants culture to respect any and all sexual actions and choices, yet, they will mock adults who are celibate or are virgins (I have examples of this on previous post on this blog).
Christians and conservatives frequently mock or warn about sexual promiscuity, they like to shame women who have children outside of wedlock., and yet, Christians and conservatives also are un-supportive or adults past the age of 29 who are sexually abstaining.
Yes, Christians and some conservatives will SAY that they respect adult virginity, but in truth, they do not. Some of them openly mock or ridicule anyone who is chaste and/or single past the age of 25, while some of their other attitudes of sex – such as a very “easy forgivism” attitude in regards to fornication or an assumption that every unmarried adult page age 18 is sexually active – belie and contradict their so-called respect for chastity.
So, one topic of several I’ve blogged about here regularly for the last few years have been virginity and celibacy.
I’d say many people in American culture would define or understand virginity, in the context of hetero relationships, to say that one “loses one’s virginity” if one engages in penis- in- the- vagina (or anus) physical contact.
(That’s pretty much my understanding of the word and concept, as well.)
Brett Kavanaugh was defending himself by saying that he was a virgin through high school and during part (or all?) or his college years.
Being a virgin does not prohibit or preclude a man from doing the things Kavanaugh was accused of, such as allegedly exposing his penis to one young lady, and pushing another woman down on a bed and attempting to remove her clothing without her consent.
A virgin can, in fact, expose him or herself and still technically remain a virgin.
A virgin can pin a woman down to a bed, cover her mouth, and paw at her clothing and still remain a virgin, if one understands “virgin” to mean “no penis in a vagina and/or anus” definition.
I notice that nobody in our culture values or respects virginity unless it can “come in handy” like in this very specific case where Kavanaugh is trying to depict himself as an innocent choir boy who was incapable of groping women or exposing himself, all because he never went “all the way.”
Some of the attitudes that secular society has against virginity, which the author, Creech, outlines below in his piece I have copied, are also the same in much of the Christian community, and among secular conservatives.
As I have noted elsewhere on my blog, in blog posts now a few years old, there are well-known Christians, some are pastors, some are book authors and bloggers, who also doubt that anyone can remain a virgin past the age of 18 or 29.
Many Christians and conservatives believe, to use one phrase I’ve seen them use in discussing this subject, that it takes a “Herculean effort” to remain a virgin past one’s twenties.
Yet other Christians assume, quite wrongly, that if someone is a virgin past the age of 18 (or 29), it must be because that person lacks a libido, and/or that God “gifted them with celibacy,” and that God also supernaturally empowers that person to resist having sexual relations – all of which is false.
God does not “gift” anyone with celibacy, or with a supernatural ability to resist sex. The reasons why a person is able to maintain celibacy comes down to self-control, choice, and personal conviction, and it’s something that everyone can accomplish, but most do not want to, because they are too selfish or lazy.
It’s easier for the Christian fornicators out there to assume that anyone who didn’t fornicate like they did must be especially exceptional in some regard, as in, God waved a magic wand and gave that person some super ability to resist sexual temptation, or God removed all sexual desire from the person.
(Link): Kavanaugh’s ‘Virgin Defense’
By Christian Post Columnist, Rev. Mark H. Creech
1 Oct 2018
In reference to the allegations of sexual assault against him, Judge Brett Kavanaugh said in an interview with Fox News’ Martha McCallum, “I did not have sexual intercourse or anything close to sexual intercourse in high school or many years thereafter.”
“So you are saying that through all these years in question that you were a virgin?” asked McCallum. “That’s correct,” said Kavanaugh.
Kavanaugh also referenced the same during his latest testimony before the Senate Judiciary Committee on Thursday, saying his abstinence from sex during those years was a matter of “faith, respect, and caution.”
Some now are calling this “The Virgin Defense” and find Kavanaugh’s claim highly suspect and worthy of ridicule.
I can speak from experience, and I do not say it boastfully. I do not doubt the Judge’s testimony.
Because of my early conversion to Christ, I was committed to obeying God’s commands against sexual immorality in my teens.
I did not have sex until my wedding night when I was 21 years old. What is more, I have never known any woman intimately except my wife of 39 years.
Today humanism and secularism have made light of God’s prohibition of sex outside of marriage.
The public schools have taught that we are just highly developed animals with passions that are unnatural to suppress.
The so-called experts in human sexuality urge the use of protection (condoms and other birth control measures), etc. because they argue it’s impossible to remain chaste. “Your libido is too strong,” they say.
Nonsense! It can be done. Living virtuously in this area of life is done by many. Moreover, no condom, diaphragm, intrauterine device, contraceptive implant or the pill, can protect the human soul from the heartbreak, guilt, emptiness, and inner turmoil that comes from living outside of God’s will.
Unfortunately, high school and college students are often laughed to scorn if they acknowledge a commitment to sexual purity.
Kavanaugh said that during his formative years he “was probably a little outwardly shy about my inexperience.” He “tried to hide that.” “At the same time,” he added, “I was inwardly proud of it.”
The pursuit of sexual purity is nothing for which to be reticent. Without this noble form of self-disciplne, youth are vulnerable to all sorts of physical and emotional maladies.
Without it, they won’t develop important aspects of intimacy, bonds of trust and security, which will serve them in marriage.
Without it, they could end up with an unwanted pregnancy, and aborting an unborn child is the destruction of a human life. Sex is one of the most powerful forces in the world.
Cohabitation is now typically viewed as morally acceptable because a couple is supposedly test-driving their prospects for marriage.
By God’s standards, it isn’t.
Moreover, statistics show that living together before matrimony is more likely to weaken the prospects of a successful marriage.
According to U.S. Attorney Legal Services, couples who don’t cohabitate have a 20% chance of divorcing within five years. But if the couple lived together beforehand, it jumps to 49%. Within 10 years of marriage a couple has a 33% chance of divorcing. If they lived together before marriage, that number jumps to an astounding 62%.
We can’t break God’s commandments and expect positive outcomes.
Let’s face it, even the church and religious leaders have set a terrible example for sexual purity.
Priests have molested young boys, pastors have had to step down after extramarital affairs came to light, and some churches have endorsed same-sex relationships and gay nuptials.
It’s an absolute shame when the church and its leaders are careless and irresponsible with the standards of God’s Word.
It should be added that Jesus interpreted the Seventh Commandment, which says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery,” by saying, “Whosoever looks upon a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already…” (Matthew 5:28). Carlyle Marney once said that many define sin as the sum total of acts which they themselves do not commit. So by Jesus’ standard, I believe most everyone has committed a sexual sin.
Nevertheless, though adultery or fornication of the spirit is a sin and shouldn’t be entertained, it’s not likely to break up your marriage, ruin your reputation, shatter your prospects for a bright future or saddle you with a sexually transmitted disease in the way acting on your passions would.
Jesus gave this lofty standard to help us understand that sexual immorality starts in the mind. It begins not with the act, but in the heart. So we need to watch that we don’t allow impure images and thoughts to take up residence within, lest we act upon them and experience profound negative consequences.
The Kavanaugh Hearings and the Clash Between #MeToo and #FalselyAccused
In John chapter 8, Jesus forgave the woman caught in the act of adultery, and then he commanded her, “Go, and sin no more” (Jn. 8:11).
Despite her sin, he loved and blessed her. The Lord had forgiven her, but her adultery had almost cost her everything – her life.
Jesus warned her not to do it again. Still, Jesus gave her more than forgiveness. He also embedded within his command to “sin no more” a promise for strength to avoid future sexual sin.
“You have no strength of your own, but Christ will come into your heart and give you supernatural strength and power to resist the fearful temptation of passion. For the sin of impurity, your conscience goads you – but Jesus Christ will save you. Confess your sins, receive him, and let him cleanse you and make you a new person.”
I believe Judge Kavanaugh’s “virgin defense.” I have no reason to doubt it because I have also known, as well as witnessed, the power of Christ to avoid sexual immorality.
I guess that editorial is okay so far as it goes, but I can tell you that if the author remained a virgin until marriage, it was due more to his personal choices than to the “power of Christ.”
(Link): Marcotte on Anyone Choosing To Be a Virgin Until Marriage: “It’s a Silly Idea” – What Progressive Christians, Conservative Christians, Non Christians, and Salon’s Amanda Marcotte Gets Wrong About Christian Views on Virginity