Why Millennials Are ‘Consciously’ Choosing To Remain Single
Before I get to the link to the news article about more young people choosing to stay single:
I’d just like to remind anyone out there that not all singles are single by choice. Some singles, like me, had expected and hoped to marry, but we’re still single due to circumstances.
I have to mention this because many conservatives and conservative Christians love to go into shaming mode and criticize adult singles for never marrying.
They especially like to insult, shame, and guilt trip Christian singles; they assume quite incorrectly that all adult singles intentionally chose to avoid marriage.
Many Southern Baptists, for example, like to incorrectly assume that all single females over age 30 chose career over marriage and shame us for being single. In fact, many of us had wanted to be married and did not place career over marriage.
I don’t have an issue with singles who do choose to remain single, however.
They should not be shamed for their choice.
I’m just saying I get sick and tired of Christians, such as Southern Baptist Al Mohler and Christians such as Bradford Wilcox and socialist Mark Regnerus seeing news items like the following, and wrongly assuming that ALL singles remain single by choice.
Al Mohler, other Christians, and secular, conservative think tanks shame and scold singles for not marrying, because they have this incorrect understanding of the Bible that the Bible says God prefers or wants all adults to marry, or, they wrongly believe that the Bible says that marriage “fixes” culture (the Bible does not teach anything like this, but actually says, per 1 Cor 7, that it is better to remain single).
Singles-shaming conservatives also love to write and publish and repeat bogus studies that claim things like being single is far worse than being married, singles die younger than married people, married people supposedly have better health than singles (they do not), and so on – Bella dePaulo debunks (Link): a lot of those claims on her blog.
October 10, 2018
By Christian Gollayan
Millennials are ditching relationships and embracing singledom, according to a new survey.
Tinder and consulting firm Morar HPI surveyed 1,000 singles between 18 to 25 years old and found that 72 percent “have made a conscious decision” to stay single.
“Solo status gives young adults a sense of adventure, independence and empowerment,” the dating app said. “An overwhelming majority of young adults agree that being single benefits them beyond their romantic lives.”
Their biggest reasons for going stag? About 39 percent of participants believe getting into a committed relationship would become boring. Meanwhile, 61 percent of single women and 46 percent of men worry about “settling for someone for the wrong reason.”
Young people instead are putting work and education over love with 45 percent of the participants choosing to remain single to focus on their careers and 41 percent putting their energy into studying or earning a degree.
But there is an upshot to millennials who are more deliberate about settling down. A study in September found that the US divorce rate dropped by 18 percent between 2008 and 2016 because younger couples are getting married later in life.
“We see people getting married at older ages, people getting married with college degrees already,” Philip Cohen, a professor at The University of Maryland and co-author of the study, told The Post. “They are less likely to be already divorced or have children when they get married, both of which are risk factors for divorce.”
(Link): “Who is my mother and who are my brothers?” – one of the most excellent Christian rebuttals I have seen against the Christian idolatry of marriage and natalism, and in support of adult singleness and celibacy – from CBE’s site