The One Thing You’re Doing Wrong in Dating, According to The Founder of An Elite Dating App
….According to a dating expert, there’s one main thing many of us are doing wrong in our quest to find love: writing a potential suitor off after just one date.
Thanks to romantic novels and rom-coms, lots of people expect to be swept off their feet or feel love at first sight on a first date. If they don’t, they don’t bother pursuing things with that person.
But this is largely unrealistic, and expecting there to be fireworks from the start is where many singletons are going wrong.
“That’s only in the movies,” David Vermeulen, founder of elite dating app The Inner Circle, told INSIDER. “Some people are really uncomfortable the first time they see somebody. You have to sell yourself in a way. Some people can do it really well, and some people can’t, but at the same time they’re obviously a nice person.
“You have to look through it and if you believe it could potentially work, I always say you should go for a second date and see how it goes.”
Vermeulen believes you should always give someone a second chance — unless the first date was completely awful.
That doesn’t mean you’ll never feel a sizzling spark upon meeting someone new, though.
“Of course you might feel fireworks if you’re really lucky,” Vermeulen says. “But it’s not always going to happen. You have to be really lucky. That’s how I see it.”
…He also believes it’s essential to put some thought into planning a first date.
“I tell everybody you have to put some effort into it,” Vermeulen says. “You have to think of somewhere nice instead of a Starbucks. You don’t have to go for a big dinner, but if you know this person works, for example, in Shoreditch [east London], don’t meet up near your place if you live in Notting Hill [west London].”
And when you’re there, be interesting and interested, but don’t judge your date too harshly.
“On a first date show interest in each other,” Vermeulen advises. “It doesn’t always work like in the movies, like love at first sight. Some people are a little bit nervous the first time so give them a second chance.”
True love could be just two dates away.