Dear Advice Lady: ‘My Husband’s Been Having Filthy Online Sex While Wearing Women’s Panties And Now Someone Is Blackmailing Him’

Dear Advice Lady: ‘My Husband’s Been Having Filthy Online Sex While Wearing Women’s Panties And Now Someone Is Blackmailing Him’

I see stuff like this and think, “I’m kind of glad I never married.”

If this is what marriage is, NO THANK YOU.

As to all that conservative Christian garbage about how marriage is necessary to make people godly, sexually pure, and what not – this is clear proof that once again, no, it does not.

Marriage did not keep the guy in this letter from using porn sites, wearing women’s underwear while masturbating, and engaging in phone or e-mail sex with various women online.

(Link): DEAR DEIDRE My husband’s hooked on filthy online sex and wears lingerie to pleasure himself

DEAR DEIDRE:
MY husband has been blackmailed by a girl he was having online sex with and I only found out when I found a letter from the police saying their investigation was complete.

I am 32, he is 34.

We have been together for ten years and have two kids aged eight and six.

I confronted him and he told me the girl added him on Facebook and it quickly escalated to online sex and mutual masturbation talk.

Then she tried to blackmail him. He went to the police but didn’t tell anyone. I feel sorry for him but it feels like the final straw.

I’ve found lingerie in his bag that he said was his and I constantly find panties in his bag.

My husband is a security guard and usually works nights alone. He gets very bored and says it excites him to pleasure himself while wearing ladies’ underwear.

 I then discovered he had a revolting Twitter page showing girls doing the most disgusting things.

He was on dating sites too and I found his chats with another girl, telling her how beautiful she is, and she told him how hot he is.

He has pages and pages of porn on his phone, and now this.

From the outside people think we are the perfect couple. If only they knew the truth.

I get furious every time I find out something more but I’ve never asked him to leave as I don’t want to get questions from everyone.

He is not a weak man and I know he has always been obsessed with me. He cries and makes me feel really sorry for him. He is very good at emotional blackmail.

He acts the big man with his family and would be embarrassed if they knew the truth. I have asked him to give me some space but he texts and calls me in tears to make me feel sorry for him.
–(end letter)—

Part of the advice from the Advice Lady:

Don’t give into his blackmail and don’t even consider staying with him unless he commits to therapy to end his addiction and stop his cheating online once and for all. Only think about it when you can see real changes in his attitude and not because of what his family will think.

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