Nine Questions To Ask On A First Date, According To Divorce Lawyers by B. Wong
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Avoid a bad end by asking the right questions at the start.
Few people have a keener eye for relationship red flags thandivorce attorneys. They’ve seen firsthand how quickly personality quirks can turn into major annoyances and the problems that can lead to calling it quits.
That also makes them surprisingly good at giving dating advice.
Below, family law attorneys from across the country share nine pointed questions to ask on a first date if you want to avoid getting into a relationship with someone you’ll eventually divorce.
1. “When was the last time you talked to your siblings or parents?”
“I would find a way to ask your date about how close they are to their family. I see many divorces caused by one person being so close to their family that they prioritize them over the marriage and have poor boundaries:
Once you are married, your marriage has to be protected and prioritized over the relationship you have with your family of origin. On the flip side, bad family relationships can be a sign of personality disorders and an inability to sustain relationships in a long term way.”
― Carla Schiff Donnelly, a divorce attorney in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
3. “Are you married?”
“Seriously, ask this. Separated or married means not yet divorced. Your date should be divorced.”
― Randall Kessler, a divorce attorney in Atlanta, Georgia
8. “How did your last relationship end?”
“I would ask them how their last relationship ended. If their explanation is all about how it was the other person’s fault, that would indicate a red flag. Look for someone who is willing to take some ownership of the relationship’s failure. It shows their humility, honesty and ability for personal growth.” ― Carla Schiff Donnelly