‘Leftover’ Is A Term Used In Many Parts of Asia For Women Who Haven’t Married By Their Mid-20s
Good gravy, Chinese culture sounds just as bad as American evangelical and American conservative Christian culture: shaming and pressuring single women into getting married, then blaming them if they’re still single by age 30, 35, or older.
People should not put so much pressure on singles to marry, and shame them for being single, that it creates anxiety in them (see below) or (Link): causes some of them to commit suicide or to (Link): mutilate their bodies or to (Link): kill other people because they are single and a virgin (see also, see also)
Here’s the article about Chinese people shaming singles for being single:
Excerpts:
‘Leftover’ Is A Term Used In Many Parts of Asia For Women Who Haven’t Married By Their Mid-20s
(from) The Lily News
February 3, 2019
Adapted from a story by Liu Yang, Wang Yuan and The Washington Post’s Anna Fifield.
BEIJING — For many single Chinese women, questions regarding their unwed status and the pressures they face to get married are so intense that they are searching for ways to avoid their family’s badgering.
Some are asking their bosses for extra work on the Lunar New Year — China’s biggest holiday — which falls on Feb. 5 this year. Others are inventing boyfriends. Still, the pressure mounts. Hospitals are reporting a spike in young people seeking treatment for anxiety.
“I was so afraid last year that I didn’t go home. I don’t want to go home this year either, but there’s no way to avoid going back,” said Emily Liu, a 31-year-old who works at a state-owned enterprise and will return to her hometown of Dalian next month.
…‘Leftover women’
Women are considered “leftover” in many parts of Asia if they haven’t married by their mid-20s.
China’s economic gains over the past few decades and the creation of a huge middle class have led many women to pursue careers instead of getting married early. Or at all. This is contributing to a rapid decline in the number of births in China. Last year, there were 15.2 million live births in the country, an astonishing 2 million fewer than the previous year, according to official statistics released last week.
Concerned that this is creating a demographic time bomb as the population ages, the Chinese government abandoned its one-child policy several years ago in an effort to encourage bigger families.
Despite the fact that there are about 33 million more men than women in China, the result of a preference for boys exacerbated by the one-child policy, it is the women who are considered “leftover” rather than the men.
Just as the government campaign to nudge up the birthrate has yet to show much progress, the government — and parents — haven’t had much success in encouraging young women to get hitched early. The number of weddings in China has fallen for five years straight. There are 200 million single adults in China.
‘Dating leave’
Some companies are trying to encourage female workers to date and, maybe, tie the knot.
..She did wonder, however, who the women were supposed to be dating on their days off, because men weren’t being given time off, too. (China is socially conservative when it comes to same-sex relationships.)
… Family expectations
Many single women over the age of 25 dread the idea of returning home for the holiday and being hectored about being single and enduring relentless matchmaking efforts.
Some 85 percent of 26- to 30-year-old singletons say their parents have urged them to hurry up and get married, according to a survey last year by Zhenai.com, a popular dating site.
….A 35-year-old woman with a doctorate, identified only as Dong, was also trying to avoid her parents and their nagging. She’s not only a “leftover woman.” She also falls into the category of “three highs” — high level of education, high level of income and high age.
She’s sick of being “besieged” by relatives and other busybodies over the holiday, so she hoped to escape into her job, Dong told the Qianjiang Evening News in Hangzhou. She asked her boss to let her work over the Lunar New Year holiday.
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