Platonic Marriages Are A Thing (And They Are Not New) by K. Zapata
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…While there are various types of relationships and forms of marriage out there, one type has garnered a lot of attention as of late: the platonic marriage. Why? Because it seems the next generation is seeing the benefit of loving and being. Of finding friendship, companionship, and meaning.
“Today some people are taking their friendships a giant step further,” a recent article on the New York Times explains. “They are platonically marrying each other, vowing to never leave each other’s side for better or for worse.”
“Couples in this type of arrangement often find compatibility and understand each other well, while also agreeing to the guidelines [of marriage] without being blinded by romantic feelings,” the article goes on. “Many of these relationships… begin because the couple wants their family life separate from their romantic lives, as they don’t find their romantic lives to be stable.”
… What is a platonic marriage?
Like platonic love, a platonic marriage is a relationship between two people that is friendship-based, i.e. platonic marriages can be between a man and a woman, two women, two men, or any other mutually agreed upon coupling. They are not sexual in nature. Rather, platonic marriages are aromantic, and rooted in companionship, faith, and trust.
“A platonic marriage is simply defined as a marriage that is non-sexual,” Kathy Nickerson — a marriage and couples counselor — writes.
Can any marriage be — or become — platonic?
The short answer is yes: Any marriage can be or become platonic. However, both parties must agree to this arrangement in order for it to work.
… When did the concept of the platonic marriage begin?
While the origins of the platonic marriage are not well-documented, the concept has been around for some time. In the 15th century, Florentine scholar Marsilio Ficino spoke of amor platonicus, or platonic love. “Plato believed that love should transcend the physical realm and be more spiritual in nature,” Amias explains. “The Catholic Church also embraced this idea, and the Josephite marriage is a Catholic version of the platonic marriage.”
… Why would two people who aren’t romantically involved want to get married, i.e. what are the benefits of platonic marriage?
Marriage comes with a lot of benefits. From love and companionship to family and financial security, there are numerous reasons why individuals may want to enter into a platonic marriage. “There are many benefits to a platonic marriage beyond the tax break,” Amias says.
“Platonic marriage provides a context for family that is intentional and committed,” she continues. “These marriages tend to have less jealousy and an enhanced sense of the kinds of connection that are often lost in ‘traditional’ marriages….