Eugene, the 56 Year Old Man, Tells Christian Show Host He’s Tired of Being Single
On today’s “The 700 Club,” host Pat Robertson got a question from a guy who says he’s 56 year old and tired of being alone. (The guy is single and would like a girlfriend, or to marry.)
I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again – single adults of America (but especially women!) please (Link): stop asking Pat Robertson for relationship advice.
I’ve watched his “700 Club” show for many years, and Robertson always gives the same 3 to 4 answers to single adults who write him asking him why hasn’t God sent them a spouse, or how do they get a spouse?
And Pat Robertson always tells lovelorn single adults to “go fishing where the fish are,” (i.e, visit locales where you are sure to find single adults), and, he will tell you that “God puts the lonely in families,” which is a load of sh*t – no, God does not always put single adults who may be lonely “into families.”
For women who write in, especially if they are age 40 or older and single and want a spouse, Pat will insultingly tell them that they “sound desperate.” (Seriously; he has done this in the past, see the links below under “Related Posts” for links to examples of this atrocious behavior.)
(I’ve noticed that Robertson never tells the older single MEN who write in saying they are lonely and want a spouse that the MEN “sound desperate.” Robertson only tosses that sexist, insulting comment at single WOMEN.)
Pat Robertson also wrongly believes (and many Christians are like this as well, not just him), that (Link): if you want a spouse and pray for one, that God will of course send you one – which also a bunch of garbage.
So, here is what Eugene wrote in to Pat:
What do I have to do to find that special woman in my life? I’m tired of living alone in life. It’s been 56 years. Please help me, Pat. I read the Bible, but it never seems to help. I love all you guys and enjoy your show.
[Signed] Eugene
You can view / listen to Eugene’s question in this video on You Tube, and it’s around 44.25 into the video.
You can also listen to Pat Robertson’s unhelpful advice in that video to Eugene.
But… Eugene… should you read this, I have this to say to you:
Eugene, it’s my belief, after having been a devout Christian for years myself (I am a middle-aged, never-married woman who had wanted for years to be married),
and after having followed much Christian advice on how to get a spouse (and (Link): I followed that advice for years), I learned through first hand experience,
that prayer (and other Christian advice) in this area of life does not work (or it sure does not work for most people), and (Link): God doesn’t “send you” a spouse.
I’m not the only one; see other posts on my blog such as this one:
I spent many years, from childhood, praying and trusting in God for a spouse, and I later even tried dating web sites, attended singles classes in local churches, and I still never got married.
If you want to get married, Eugene, you will have to put time, energy and effort into it, which means doing things like (politely) approaching women you are interested in, when you see them at places like grocery stores
(but if the woman seems disinterested or spooked by your attempts at flirting, quickly back off and leave them be! – Women don’t like men who pursue them when they’re not interested).
Also ask your friends to set you up with any single women they know.
If you’re an extrovert who doesn’t mind bars and night clubs, start going to bars and approach women at such places and strike up a conversation with them.
Join sites such as meetup .com and start participating at events in your area that sound interesting to you.
Try dating sites.
Now, none of those are guarantees that you will meet any one great and get married, but if you stay on your present course, and keep doing what you are doing
(which is, I assume, going to a M- F job, then coming home, and plopping down in a recliner to watch TV all evening),
you’re not going to meet a woman to date and marry that way.
Sitting around passively hoping, praying, waiting, etc, for God to “send you” a spouse is not going to work. And I bet you anything that is the approach you’ve been trying – and maybe you’ve tried going to a local church, but that has not worked.
There are a lot of single adults out there in their 40s and older, many Christians, for whom the church’s conventional wisdom of how to get married (which boils down to “just pray about it, trust God, and he will send you a spouse”) did not work.
Here is the video from You Tube, and it should be cued to start at the letter from Eugene (edit: I managed to get it to cue a few seconds BEFORE the letter from Eugene, so be patient, or try to move the play-head ahead a few seconds later):
Related Posts:
(Link): Can We Stop Saying Singleness is God’s Will? by Anonymous via Sheila Wray Gregoire
(Link): Do You Need a Partner to Have a Happy Life? by D. LaBier
(Link): Pat Robertson’s Incredibly Insensitive Advice to Gail the Unmarried Woman
(Link): Christians Who Marry Non-Believers Must Be Ex-Communicated, Says John Piper
(Link): Prayer and The 700 Club – Some Observations and Suggestions
(Link): Pat Robertson Says 44 Year old Never Married Woman Who Wants Marriage is “Desperate”
(Link): Joanne The Widow Lady Wants to Know Why God Didn’t Answer Her Prayer to Keep her Husband With Her
(Link): Celibate Christian Woman Asks Christian Host (Pat Robertson) Why God Will Not Send Her a Husband
(Link): Woman on 700 Club Claims God Told Her To Marry Bearded Guy
(Link): All Dating Advice is as Terrible As the People Who Give It by Oliver Burkeman
(Link): Stop Believing God Told You to Marry Your Spouse by G. Thomas
(Link): How the Dating Scene Became Stacked Against Women
(Link): Stop Telling Your Single Friends to Try Dating Sites – Please.
(Link): Blaming the Christian for His or Her Own Problem or Unanswered Prayer / Christian Codependency
(Link): ‘Why Are You Single’ Lists That Do Not Pathologize Singles
(Link): Forget About Being ‘Equally Yoked’ – Article: ‘My Abusive ‘Christian’ Marriage’
(Link): Depressing Testimony: “I Was A Stripper but Jesus Sent Me A Great Christian Husband”
(Link): Thoughts Regarding ‘Crisis in the Christian Church: A Lack of Young, Single Men’ Essay by S. Green
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