This Headline Has My Fellow Conservatives In A Tizzy, but It Should Not: Just 18% of US households are ‘nuclear families’ with a married couple and children, down from 40% since 1970s and the lowest since 1959

This Headline Has My Fellow Conservatives In A Tizzy, but It Should Not: Just 18% of US households are ‘nuclear families’ with a married couple and children, down from 40% since 1970s and the lowest since 1959

Since I’ve been on this blog for years now, I periodically have seen news headlines and research mentioning that more and more people are either delaying marriage or choosing not to marry at all, while some singles would like to marry, but they have been unable to find a compatible partner.

And often, when other conservatives see such headlines, they either act worried, upset, or they start making all sorts of negative, unfounded assumptions about single adults.

Some of the conservatives publishing with that attitude (or comments) are Christians… how quickly they forget that Jesus of Nazareth was a life-long single, and the Bible says it’s better to stay single:

1 Corinthians 7:

Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. (v 8)

…But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this. (v 28)

If you’re a pro-marriage Christian (or secularist), that’s fine with me, but please stop promoting marriage at the expense of singleness, denigrating singleness in the process, or making “over promises” about marriage
– such as, if a person gets married, he or she will only ever experience happiness all the time – in light of the fact that sometimes marriages fall apart because one person is abusive or some kind of addict, it’s obvious that marriage does not fully “heal” or “fix” a person.

I think conservatives should just accept the fact that marriage has changed over the years – instead of always going on rants about this, or shaming singles for being single.

I will be surprised if this trend ever reverses in my lifetime, to get back to where a lot of people did get married, and married by the time they’re 30 years of age.

(Link): Just 18% of US households are ‘nuclear families’ with a married couple and children, down from 40% since 1970s and the lowest since 1959

Dec 4, 2021

By STEPHEN M. LEPORE

The number of homes in America with the traditional ‘nuclear family’ of a married couple with children is now the lowest it has been since 1959, according to Census data.

The Census Bureau’s count showed that 17.8 percent of the United States’ 130 million households featured married parents with children under the age of 18.

That’s only down from 18.6 percent from last year but down much more significantly from over 40 percent in 1970.

There are currently just 23.1 million American homes with those ‘nuclear families,’ which is the fewest since 1959.

The reasons given for the drop include the pandemic delaying marriage and a continued decline in birth rate.

The average age of a woman at her first marriage is now 28.6 years. In the 1950s and 60s, women typically married at 20.4 years old.

The average age for men to marry for the first time in 2021 was 30.4 years old.

America’s fertility rate dropped to 55.4 births per 1,000 in the second quarter of 2021, down from 58.5 in the same period of 2019.

Americans are also living alone at a higher rate than they used to.

The percentage of adults in the US living with a spouse was 50 percent, down from 52 percent 10 years ago.

Over 37 million adults lived alone in early 2021, up from 33 million in 2011.

As far back as 1960, 87 percent of adults lived with a spouse.

The percentage of adults who live with an unmarried partner went up from 7 to 8 percent in that period.

The percentage of adults living with an unmarried partner also increased, from 7% to 8%.

Historical numbers show adults trending away from marriage.

In 2021, 34 percent of those age 15 and older reported never having been married, up from 23 percent in 1950.

The statistics come from the 2021 Current Population Survey’s Annual Social and Economic Supplement (ASEC), which collects labor force data as well as data on a variety of characteristics of households, living arrangements, married and unmarried couples and children.

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^Bar Graph via Daily Mail Site


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