Pop Singer Billie Eilish Calls Porn A ‘Disgrace’ To Women, Says It ‘Destroyed’ Her Brain

Pop Singer Billie Eilish Calls Porn A ‘Disgrace’ To Women, Says It ‘Destroyed’ Her Brain

(Link):  Billie Eilish says watching porn from age 11 ‘really destroyed my brain’

Excerpts:

Grammy-winning singer Billie Eilish has spoken about an addiction to watching pornography, starting at age 11, and how it gave her nightmares and messed her up when she started dating.

Eilish, who turns 20 on Saturday, was speaking on “The Howard Stern Show” on Sirius XM radio on Monday.

“I think porn is a disgrace. I used to watch a lot of porn, to be honest. I started watching porn when I was, like, 11,” the “Bad Guy” singer said, saying it helped her feel as if she were cool and “one of the guys.”

“I think it really destroyed my brain and I feel incredibly devastated that I was exposed to so much porn,” she added, saying she suffered nightmares because some of the content she watched was so violent and abusive.

Eilish, who was homeschooled in Los Angeles and has seven Grammy Awards, is known for her often dark lyrics.

(Link):  Billie Eilish Talked About How The First Few Times She Had Sex Were Negatively Impacted From Watching Porn At A Young Age

(Link): Billie Eilish Calls Porn A ‘Disgrace’ To Women, Says It ‘Destroyed’ Her Brain

Dec 14, 2021
By Madeline Osburn

The 19-year-old Grammy award-winning singer Billie Eilish said pornography warped her views of sex and relationships after she began watching it when she was just 11 years old. “It destroyed my brain,” she said on “The Howard Stern Show” on Monday.

Eilish said being exposed to such violent and abusive “BDSM” porn at such a young age not only led to night terrors and sleep paralysis but also to issues of abuse and violence when she had sex.

“The first few times I had sex, I was not saying no to things that were not good. It was because I thought that’s what I was supposed to be attracted to,” she said.

Eilish went on to say that as a woman she thinks porn is a “disgrace,” and it makes her angry that porn is so widely loved and accepted.

“The way that vaginas look in porn is f-cking crazy,” she said. “No vaginas look like that. Women’s bodies don’t look like that,” she said. “We don’t come like that. We don’t f-cking enjoy things — what it looks like people are enjoying.”

Eilish’s confession to Stern comes on the heels of a corporate media (Link): realization that Gen Z women are rejecting the ideas of unrestrained sexual liberation, or “sex positivity,” that third-wave feminism pushed so hard to sell as a net good for women.

Even New York Times feminists such as Michelle Goldberg have recently (Link – NY Times): admitted that the sexual revolution did not deliver the freedom it promised women.

“Somehow, as sex positivity went mainstream and fused with a culture shaped by pornography… Sex-positive feminism became a cause of some of the same suffering it was meant to remedy,” she wrote.
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As a conservative who doesn’t fully agree with all of feminism, I have to say that portions of the following editorial go a little over-board blaming 1960s era and beyond feminism – a lot of conservative, Christian men who claim to follow and believe in male headship commit sexual sins, including porn viewing (and much worse).

So let’s not put all or most blame of today’s sexual sins at the feet of all of feminism. That would be inaccurate.

(Link): Generation XXX: Billie Eilish is right about how porn warps kids

Excerpts:

By Barbara Kay
Dec 16, 2021

…It’s bad enough kids are watching any porn at all. It’s the element of sadism that does the most damage to young girls. Studies show that 48 percent of 11- to 16-year-olds have seen porn online (more boys than girls), and many of them begin to believe that the sadomasochistic practices they see — notably choking of the women by the men — are sexual norms.

Professor Gail Dines, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality,” has spent 30 years studying the subject. She says: “All these practices sound extreme, but these are what an 11-year-old boy sees when he first puts ‘porn’ into Google. We know strangulation is among the most popular acts seen in porn.”

Young men assume this is normal; young women feel compelled to go along. As Eilish told Stern, “The first few times I had sex, I was not saying no to things that were not good. It was because I thought that’s what I was supposed to be attracted to.”

Debby Herbenick, an Indiana University professor with a specialty in sexuality, for example, was the lead author of a July 2021 probability survey of undergraduates, titled “Prevalence and characteristics of choking/strangulation during sex.” The study states that “26.5% of women, [and] 6.6% of men . . . reported having been choked during their most recent sexual event.”

This is not a uniquely American problem. A 2015 study of girls at the Universities of Bristol and Central Lancashire, conducted with participants from England but also Norway, Italy, Bulgaria and Cyprus, one of the biggest ever undertaken in Europe, found that four in 10 teenage girls have experienced sexual coercion, including rape.

Around one in five (22 percent) also said they had suffered physical violence or intimidation from boyfriends, including, slapping, punching, strangling and being beaten with an object.

…In her 2007 book “Unprotected,” psychiatrist Miriam Grossman chronicles her tenure as a counselor at a university, with its parade of sad female students made miserable by the loveless, commitment-free sex they were encouraged to regard as empowering.
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Regarding this portion of the above editorial, I have to disagree:

“Didn’t know how to say no.” There’s a world of social history in those six words. Before the sexual revolution, girls knew how to say no and did say no and were respected for saying no.
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I can’t agree. Even in conservative Christian circles, girls are taught to lack boundaries. Christian gender complementarians heavily promote codependent behaviors (such as lacking boundaries and not saying “no” to men, whether in sexual situations or platonic) as being a virtue.

I was brought up under such views, so I know what of I speak. My traditional values, Christian mother and the Baptist churches she raised me in, taught me that ever saying “No” to others would be wrong and selfish of me.

I was scolded on those rare occasions my mother over-heard me assert or defend myself from rude people.

In evangelical world, and in some Baptist churches, married women are taught they can never say no to sex if their husband wants to have sex…

So it’s not only “feminists” who have made a detrimental impact on women here and there, but conservatives and Christians as well.


Related:

(Link):  Interview with the Authors of The Great Sex Rescue (book discusses erroneous, sexist Christian views about women and how this hinders sex – among other issues)

(Link): Consider The Source: Christians Who Give Singles Dating Advice Also Regularly Coach Wives to Stay in Abusive Marriages

(Link): Girl, 16, Has To Wear Colostomy Bag for Life After Rough Group Sex ‘Copying Porn Scenes’ Left Her With Horror Injuries by D. White

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