HBO Max’s ‘Sex and the City’ Reboot Also Revives Outdated Marriage Tropes by M. Weldon

HBO Max’s ‘Sex and the City’ Reboot Also Revives Outdated Marriage Tropes by M. Weldon

(Link): HBO Max’s ‘Sex and the City’ Reboot Also Revives Outdated Marriage Tropes 

The televised pursuit of fictional and real-life dating partners is an outdated cultural obsession.


…There were many emotionally — and sexually — dangerous encounters over the original six seasons of “SATC” from 1998 to 2004; 10.6 million people tuned in for the finale, which was spun off into feature-length movies. But through all the adventures, and misadventures, the overall goal stayed mostly the same: find a male soul mate and settle down.

This mate hunt has always seemed like a strangely reductive life goal for confident women. But in 2021, it feels sorely outdated.

As my late mother always said, being “boy crazy” is not a compliment; she assigned the description to my friends who obsessed over securing the perfect homecoming and prom partners.

Decades later, Mom would have looked skeptically at an all-consuming chase for “Mr. Right,” even if that chase was fictional.

…Romance as a form of fantasy football remains a popular American pastime. And the televised pursuit of fictional and real-life dating partners is a cultural obsession.

…The Pew Research Center reports that 31 percent of U.S. adults are single or not in committed relationships. A plurality, 41 percent, are 18 to 29 years old, with 36 percent of those 65 and older reporting single status. Most of those older Americans are women, with 49 percent over 65, claiming they are alone.

…I am married once and divorced once, and I watch absurd reality TV dating shows to see what to avoid. First impressions are often misleading, and love at first site is a comforting but problematic fiction for most people.

The World Population Review reinforces my skepticism with data. In the U.S., 50 percent of all married couples divorce, the sixth-highest divorce rate in the world.

According to the same date, around 60 percent of all second marriages also end in divorce, as do 73 percent of all third marriages, undermining the old saying that the third time is the charm. …

..Advice on how to race to the altar has been plentiful since the fourth century B.C., when Socrates supposedly wrote something to the effect of “If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”


(Link):  Fewer Americans See Their Romantic Partners As a Source of Life’s Meaning

(Link): The Twinkly Christmas Rom Com Feeds Off the Disappointment of Women

(Link): NetFlix’s “Sexy Beast” Blind Dating Show

(Link): All Dating Advice is as Terrible As the People Who Give It by Oliver Burkeman 

(Link): Four in 10 Adults Between the Ages of 25 and 54 are Single, Up From 29% in 1990 (Dec 2021 article)

(Link): This Headline Has My Fellow Conservatives In A Tizzy, but It Should Not: Just 18% of US households are ‘nuclear families’ with a married couple and children, down from 40% since 1970s and the lowest since 1959

(Link):  Christians Advise Singles To Follow Certain Dating Advice But Then Shame, Criticize, or Punish Singles When That Advice Does Not Work

(Link):  Nearly 4 in 10 American Adults Live Without Spouse or Partner As Single Population Grows: Pew

(Link): 27 Eye-Opening Confessions About Relationships From People Who Have Been Single Their Entire Lives

(Link): Why We Thought Marriage Made Us Healthier, and Why We Were Wrong by Bella DePaulo 

(Link): Jesus Christ Removed the Stigma, Shame From Being Single and Childless – by David Instone Brewer

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