Feminist Author: Stay-At-Home Moms Breed ‘Worse, More Sexist’ Men By Samantha Ibrahim
From what I recall reading years ago, there is a grain of truth of some of what this feminist woman wrote – I have read studies that men who have daughters tend to be less sexist than men who don’t, and that men brought up with sisters where all household chores were equally divided (the boys weren’t let off the hook for domestic chores) grow up to have more egalitarian gender attitudes than men who grow up in families where they see their parents expect or force the female children to take on more domestic duties.
I’ve also read studies saying that never-married women are happier than married women. There are studies saying people who are parents are not as happy as childless couples. (Some of these studies are linked to below under “Related Posts.”)
Having said that: while I do believe that too many conservatives (I myself am a conservative) have turned marriage and parenthood into idols, and that they do cling to some sexist stereotypes, I do not have an issue with women who knowingly walk into marriage and motherhood.
That is, I do not think that feminists should shame women who want to marry and have children any more than I think that it’s acceptable for conservatives or Christians to pressure women into thinking their only life goal should be marriage and motherhood.
(Link): Feminist author: Stay-at-home moms breed ‘worse, more sexist’ men
By Samantha Ibrahim
April 13, 2022
Controversial feminist author Jill Filipovic is preaching the “overwhelmingly negative consequences” of stay-at-home moms — and social media watchdogs are coming for her.
Filipovic, 38, detailed her stance that these mothers create “worse, more sexist” men — and women who are “psychologically and emotionally worse off” — in a now-viral (Link): Twitter thread published on Tuesday.
Expanding on her latest Substack essay — “It’s a bad idea to pay women to stay home” — the Brooklyn-based writer-lawyer tweeted her thoughts on the subject in response to a recent New York Times guest column espousing the merits of paying parents to stay home.
“The problem with paying people to stay home with kids, though, is that (1) we’re overwhelmingly not talking about ‘people,’ we’re talking about mothers; and (2) pushing women out of work comes with overwhelmingly negative consequences,” begins the thread by the outspoken author of the 2020 book “OK, Boomer, Let’s Talk: How My Generation Got Left Behind.”
Filipovic noted that families that are set up in a more traditional sense — a k a, per her thread, the “carer/earner nuclear family model” — is a historical oddity “that is tremendously isolating and often financially devastating for the carer (almost always a woman).”
“It also reinforces the gendered division of labor, which ripples out to all women,” she continued. She then recommended a “robust social welfare state” instead of “paying mothers a small stipend.’”
“More mothers at home makes for worse, more sexist men who see women as mommies. Men with stay-at-home wives are more sexist than men with working wives,” the lawyer said, declaring her views on gender relations to the Twitter-verse. “[Men] don’t assess women’s workplace contributions [fairly]; and they are less likely to hire and promote women.”
Filipovic claimed that “stay-at-home mothers are psychologically and emotionally worse off than working mothers by just about every measure.” She alleged that these moms suffer from anger, depression and anxiety.
She also suggested “a better model” is to have a paid parental leave policy that “heavily incentivizes men to take significant time off of work, too.”
…Some commenters on the social media platform agreed with the author’s point of view — while many others dove into hardcore defenses of a woman’s right to choose stay-at-home motherhood over a career.
“Why not just let women choose? Not everyone wants to sit in a windowless cubicle all day. Some women love the freedom and fresh air. Not everyone is wired for the rat-race,” contended one social media commenter.
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(Link): ‘It’s a break from the kids’: Why parents cheat more than childless couples
(Link): American Romance Standards Are Changing as People Have Less Sex and Marriage Rates Drop
(Link): The Nuclear Family Was A Mistake – by David Brooks – and Related Links
(Link): If the Family Is Central, Christ Is Not
(Link): Unmarried and Childless Women Are the Happiest, Happiness Expert Claims
(Link): The Way We Never Were: American Families And The Nostalgia Trap by Stephanie Coontz (Author)
(Link): Widows Have Better Well Being Than Married Couples says new study
(Link): Fewer Americans See Their Romantic Partners As a Source of Life’s Meaning
(Link): Why We Thought Marriage Made Us Healthier, and Why We Were Wrong by Bella DePaulo
(Link): False Christian Teaching: “Only A Few Are Called to Singleness and Celibacy”
(Link): Fewer Americans Think Marriage is Needed To Create Strong Families, New Poll Suggest
(Link): Really, It’s Okay To Be Single – In order to protect marriage, we should be careful not to denigrate singleness – by Peter Chin
(Link): Four in 10 Adults Between the Ages of 25 and 54 are Single, Up From 29% in 1990
Link): Stop putting pressure on women to have kids before they’re 30 by A Chandler
(Link): A Woman’s Fertility is Her Own Business, not Everyone Else’s by L. Bates
(Link): 270 Reasons Women Choose Not To Have Children
(Link): Childless and happy: The new tribe of women?
(Link): Why You Shouldn’t Love Your Kids More Than Your Partner By B. Luscombe
(Link): Bethke: “Christians Do Not Need To Get Married To Live A Full And Flourishing Existence”
(Link): Craigslist confessional: I’m in my 40s, never married, and a virgin—but I’m happy by Abigail
(Link): Seven Reasons Not To Get Married, According to Science
(Link): Dear Prudence: Help! I’m Glad My Awful Husband Is Dead.
(Link): Society Has It Wrong: Married People Shouldn’t Get Benefits That Single People do Not by V. Larson
(Link): Single Adults – Why They Stay and Why They Stray From Church – Book Excerpts
(Link): Is Singleness A Sin? by Camerin Courtney
(Link): Are Single Women – and specifically Never Married Women – More Likely To Be Victims of Abuse? Rebuttals to this view (advanced by W B Wilcox)
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