Mom Left Husband of 14 Years for ‘Soul Mate’ – Only to Be Rejected

Mom Left Husband of 14 Years for ‘Soul Mate’ – Only to Be Rejected

One thing I’ve never understood about secular and Christian conservatives who are too unrealistic about marriage (and the nuclear family) is how they can continue to view marriage (or parenthood, the nuclear family) through such rose-colored glasses, when we all know people who married and/or had children, but marriage or parenthood left them miserable.

Maybe the person they married turned out to be emotionally or physically abusive, or marriage turned out to be unfulfilling. Maybe their spouse committed adultery on numerous occasions.

Let the story below show once again that the Christian, pro-Nuclear family narrative that “marriage makes people more godly, loving, ethical and mature” is a bunch of hooey.

Marriage didn’t make the woman below, who dumped her long time husband for a hottie she met earlier, more “mature” or less selfish or more ethical.

Whatever the specifics, marriage and parenthood sometimes turn out to be horrible or disappointing.

(A reminder: I am not opposed to marriage, parenthood, or the nuclear family – I’m only opposed to a culture, Christian or secular, that pressure or shame people into having kids, getting married, and treats people who do not marry or have kids, for whatever reason, like failures, weirdos, or garbage.)

(Link): Mom left husband of 14 years for ‘soul mate’ — only to be rejected

by Andrew Court
May 9, 2022

It takes two souls to tango.

A mom of two has been mocked on social media after revealing she left her longtime husband for a man she believed to be her “soul mate” — only for him to promptly reject her.

Amanda Trenfield has been described by critics as a “self-destructive sociopath” for writing about the emotional saga in her new book, “When A Soulmate Says No.”

An excerpt from the tome, published in the Sydney Morning Herald last week, sparked ridicule from readers who claimed the rejection was karma for the fact she had blown up her own marriage.

“She ruined her life for nothing! One of the biggest losses we’ve ever seen,” one reader quipped with glee.

In the extract, Trenfield describes an electric encounter with her so-called soul mate, which occurred while she was at a dinner party with her husband.

“As I settled into my seat, I looked up and immediately lost my breath,” Trenfield wrote. “When our eyes met there was an instant familiarity that ran deeper than water-cooler chat. These eyes had locked before. Twelve years earlier. His name was Jason. I hadn’t forgotten.”

Trenfield did not explain the circumstances under which she previously met Jason, but said that she felt an immediate attraction and soon struck up a conversation with him.

…Less than a month later, Trenfield ended her 14-year-marriage with her husband, despite not having had any further communication with Jason since the night of the dinner party.

…In spite of her memoir’s title, the passage printed in the Australian newspaper ended on a cliffhanger — and left out the part where Trenfield gets rejected by Jason.

The piece quickly went viral on Twitter, with many seeming to enjoy the prospect of Trenfield’s heartbreak.

“Of course [the soul mate] said no! She ghosted her husband after one night! I’d be afraid of dating someone with no object permanence, too,” one theorized.

“Lady your kids will read this one day and will know that you blew up the family because you got too horny on shiraz,” another sniped, telling Trenfield she should not have published such a shameless account.

…Trenfield has not publicly responded to the controversy the excerpt had caused.

She reportedly now works as a “life coach” and does not appear to have reconciled with her ex-husband.


Related:

(Link): Authors at The Federalist Keep Bashing Singleness in the Service of Promoting Marriage – Which Is Not Okay

(Link): Mom Dumped in Son’s Hockey Bag Allegedly Had Affair With Handyman Accused of Killing Her: Police 

(Link): My Marriage Broke Down Around Age 30 — And So Did Most of My Friends’ Relationships by E. Woods

(Link):  What Divorce Lawyers Really Think About The Concept Of Soulmates by K. Borresen 

(Link): Why Happy People Cheat – A good marriage is no guarantee against infidelity by E. Perel

(Link): Cha-Ching: Our World of Failed Relationships Gives Birth to the ‘Divorce Registry’ by Alex Parker

(Link): Woman Wildly Happy She Got Divorced (Dear Abby Column) 

(Link):  More Couples Enjoying Open Relationships Because They’re ‘Bored With Each Other’

(Link): People Who Get Divorced Are More Likely To Die Early Than Those …  Who Never Got Married In the First Place, Study Shows

(Link): I Married Young. I Was Widowed Young. I Never Want A Long-Term Partner Again by R. Woolf

(Link): I Want to Divorce My Unbelievably Selfish Husband, Advice by S. L. Brown

(Link):  30 Mothers Who Regret Giving Birth Share Why

(Link):  The Two Reasons Parents Regret Having Kids

(Link): The Selfish, Lazy Husband Who Kept Blowing Off His Stressed Wife to Go on World War 2 Reenactments – Male Entitlement in Relationships: Why Women Divorce Men – and Churches and Culture Support This Male Entitlement

(Link): First Comes Love. Then Comes Sterilization. by Suzy Weiss

(Link):  Nine Signs He’s Not The Marrying Type, According To Marriage Counselors 

(Link):  Continue Being a Butthole Wife: Death is Not a Justification for Husbands To Be Entitled, Selfish, or Abusive Buttholes

(Link):  Why Don’t Some Men Realize A Relationship Is Over Until It’s Too Late? by N. Reilly

(Link): Meet the People Who Won’t Have Sex Until They’re Sterilized

(Link): “I Regret Having Children” – Various Mothers Interviewed (via NY Post)

(Link):  Parents Who Regret Having Children Speak Honestly About Why It Was A Huge Mistake

(Link): “I Regret Having Children” – Various Mothers Interviewed (via NY Post)

(Link):  Motherhood Is Not A Woman’s Most Important Job by J. Wright

(Link):  Are Marriage and Family A Woman’s Highest Calling? by Marcia Wolf – and other links that address the Christian fallacy that a woman’s most godly or only proper role is as wife and mother

(Link): Women Are Having Fewer Babies Because They Have More Choices by Jill Filipovic

(Link):  Fellow Conservatives Politicizing Mother’s Day, Unfortunately, and Mocking Those Who Find the Holiday Painful

(Link): Sorry, but being a mother is not the most important job in the world by Catherine Deveny

(Link): Is The Church Failing Childless Women? by Diane Paddison

(Link): I’m a Dominatrix and Most of My Clients Are Married – Women Would Be Horrified if They Knew What Their Husbands Are Doing by K. Bond

(Link): Baptist missionary and husband murders wife on Valentine’s Day so he could be with his mistress – Tell me again why Christian women should only date or marry Christians when garbage like this keeps happening?

(Link): Pastor charged in wife’s murder was headed to Europe to marry boyfriend, prosecutor says – Single Xtian Ladies: Kick that Be Equally Yoked Teaching to the Curb! Also: Marriage and Parenthood do not make people more godly or mature or loving or ethical

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