The One Question You Should Never Ask a Single Person at Christmas by J. Hocking
(Link): The one question you should never ask a single person at Christmas
by Jana Hocking
December 15, 2022
This time of year can put a shiver up the spine of most singletons.
Yes, it’s Christmastime, and oopsy daisy, you forgot to bag yourself a partner in time for dinner with the family.
You’re armoring up for the “Why haven’t you got yourself a partner yet?” question from annoying relatives with good hearts, and the idea of waking up by yourself instead of to a boisterous house full of children and a sexy husband can seem pretty darn crappy.
Except … it’s not.
You see, we focus so much on the traditional side of Christmas, we forget that this time of year as a singleton is actually ridiculously fun.
Don’t believe me? Let me point out a few reasons why you can thank the Lord he didn’t throw your soulmate into your direct path this year.
1. Sweet, sweet freedom
Unlike partnered-up couples who are arguing about who will be designated driver, and trying to figure out whose family gets Christmas and whose gets Boxing Day, you get the glorious gift of freedom to pick and choose to do whatever the heck you want for Christmas.
Perhaps it’s with family, perhaps it’s with friends, or you know what … maybe you want to treat yourself to a white Christmas overseas.
Get on that plane, girlfriend. You’re as free as a bird.
4. No arguments
Christmas can bring out the worst in all of us. It’s not all smooches under the mistletoe.
Instead of trying to simmer down the burning flames of rage directed at your partner because he bought you a vacuum cleaner instead of the diamond earrings you’ve been hinting at for the last month, you can stay blissed out knowing that while others are screaming at each other on the way to Mom’s house, you’re already on your third mimosa. Cheers.
…And for extra excitement, why not throw in a few witty comebacks to the inevitable “Why are you still single?” question. Here are some you are welcome to borrow:
– “Because I’m not quite sure if this rash is contagious.”
– “Why are you still married?”
– “I’ve devoted my life to cats.”
– “I’m not taking questions at this time, thank you.”
– “Why have one flavor when you can try them all?”
– “All my boyfriends are already married.”
Aw, look: coupled people cheat on each other over the holidays:
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(Link): A Thing Called “Singleism” (Podcast Episode) – Societal Discrimination Against Single Adults
(Link): Husband-Hunting is the Worst Part of a Christian Upbringing – Christianity Made Me Obsessed with Finding a Husband – by B. Ramos
(Link): Yes, There Is A Man Shortage and Other Reasons Why You Are Still Single (via NYP)
(Link): Another Obnoxious ‘Why You’re Not Married Yet‘ Article
(Link): Cathy The Single Woman Asks Pat Robertson Why God Has Not Replied to Her Prayers for Years to Send Her a Spouse
(Link): Pat Robertson Feigns Ignorance At Allegations He’s Been Insensitive Towards Older Single Christian Women Who Cannot Find Marriage Partners
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(Link): God’s Big Message at Christmas: You Are Not Alone, by Chris Field (Churches Need To Reach Out More to the Singles In Their Communities)
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(Link): The Stupid Advice We Give To Single Women Over 40 (from the Current Conscience Blog)
(Link): Post by Sarah Bessey Re: Churches Ignore Never Married Older and/or Childless Christian Women, Discriminate Against Them
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(Link): Bethke: “Christians Do Not Need To Get Married To Live A Full And Flourishing Existence”
(Link): The Nuclear Family Was A Mistake – by David Brooks – and Related Links
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