Policy on Dissent on this Blog
Because I use this blog as a public journal or sorts, it’s an area for me to vent.
I am not here to engage or debate people who have an opposing view to mine, regardless of the topic.
I am a moderator at other forums and blogs, where dissent is permitted.
Because I spend time debating with people at other places on the internet, I have no desire to do so here. That is why I will rarely permit dissenting posts and views to be published on this blog.
If you are extremely polite and respectful in your post, should you disagree with me on some topic, I might permit it to be published. I have already allowed about 2 or 3 such posts to be published.
I am looking more to vent at this blog and maybe talk to like-minded individuals, than I am in arguing with people who disagree with me, or who are rude jerks who just want to call me names.
So no, I will probably not publish posts by people who disagree with me, or by people who are rude to me.
Related:
(Link): I Blog For Me, Myself, And I – Not For You. Not to get your approval.
Update. May 2015.
I’ve noticed it’s become quite the point of contention or amusement among other blog owners to make fun of other bloggers, or organizations, who don’t permit comments on their blogs, or to allow any dissent.
I understand where they are coming from, but I’d like to reiterate I participate at other forums and blogs, usually under other screen names (but sometimes under the “Christian Pundit” name), where I debate back and forth with other people who disagree with me, even on some of the topics I raise on this blog, and sometimes, these people yell at me and tell me they hate my guts.
I maintain this blog first and foremost for myself, to blow off steam of just think through things.
This is not a blog where I’m seeking to fuss and fight with other people – I want one place on the internet where I can just state my views without having to constantly defend them or argue.
I get enough of that on other sites, getting yelled at or having my views challenged.
I just want a small corner or two on the internet where I can pontificate without dealing with malcontents and trolls, and this is one blog that serves that purpose.
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DISCLAIMERS.
I am not necessarily in agreement with all opinions on all blogs sites, articles, or forums I link to.
I am not into global warming or environmentalism.
I am not left wing, liberal, progressive, or Democrat. Since my teen years, I have been right wing, conservative, and a Republican, but as I grow older, I am becoming disenchanted with aspects of the right wing (but still continue to disagree with the left wing on most topics).
I do not agree with or support abortion or homosexuality or legalization of homosexual marriage.
(Jan 30, 2014 update)
Please do not use my blog to sell merchandise or services.
I’ve had more and more people lately drop by, leaving really long comments about singleness and other issues this blog covers, but they end their remark by saying,
“And oh, hey, I sell gold watches! Check out my gold watches at SuperGreatWatches .com!!,” or, “My marriage was on the rocks until I got marital counseling from Dr-Jones-Groovy-Cool-School-of-Marriage-Counseling.net!”
One lady who did this seemed genuinely nice, so I let her post be published, and I allowed the link to her online store in her post to stay up, but I don’t appreciate people using my blog to sell widgets. I will either send such posts to the trash or edit out the store URLs/Links.
Christian Pundit 
Hi, I just discovered your blog and as a 60 year old celibate sometime Christian I have to say that I have been saying much the same thing for over THIRTY YEARS!!!! It is so sad that so few seem to be listening to us who have so much experience walking the walk but instead listen to those who are not walking the walk. As I like to say, just because I changed a diaper 50 years ago does not make me an expert on childcare and people would be right in pointing that out, yet people who have been married for years are authorities on how singles ought to live their lives! Bravo to you for speaking the truth.
As I read your various posts I found myself nodding in agreement over and over again. There was just one category you seem to have missed, and that is the “Pet Virgin.” This is where all the old biddies of the church fuss over you for being so strong and such a good example in this wicked world; yet when it comes to treating you with REAL respect or–God Forbid–introducing you to their unmarried sons who are your age, forget it. I have no desire to play that part any more.
Being new to your blog, I don’t know if you have written on the economic consequences of not marrying in a two-income economy. Had someone told me in my teens when I was being seduced by the abstinence cult (yes, it is a cult!) that by choosing this path I would be putting myself at risk for a lifetime of near-poverty, I might have thought more critically about what they were saying. I am not sorry I chose abstinence, but there are other choices I might have made to make myself more marketable in the job market. Because the people that talk so glowingly about the benefits of waiting for marriage are nowhere to be seen when you are alone, close to retirement age and barely getting by. There are many, many challenges we singles face as we get older–health care decisions being another.
So keep up the good work, and don’t mind the haters, because they don’t know what they are talking about.
@ trailerparkcatlady
Thanks so much for dropping by and leaving comments.
I’m sorry that you’re treated as a Pet, and that the women you know don’t lift a finger to set you up on dates with single men they might know.
I’ve not really been treated as the Pet Virgin per se, not in the manner you are discussing, but when I’ve discussed the topic of being celibate or a virgin past the age of 30 / 35 and older on other Christian sites (or seen others in our situation bring it up), I’ve received (or they’ve received) the most annoying, condescending comments…
I’ve seen married Christians tell these people that their virginity is for “God’s glory.” I did a post or two about that. I’m over 40 now and would rather be in a relationship having sex. I lost interest in bringing God glory years ago.
To tell older singles such as you and me who would like to be married that our celibate or single status is for God’s glory is such empty bunk. It doesn’t address the real emptiness and disappointment or anger you can feel at times, when you’re still single past 35 and had expected to be married.
I haven’t done many post on economics and singleness, no.
I might in the future make a post (assuming I have the time and don’t forget) raising your points, giving credit to you. There might be others out there that may benefit from what you’ve said.
I’m very sorry for how the people at the churches you’ve been to give lip service to your celibate status but don’t actually lift a finger to help you.
Most Christians are like that not only about the celibacy stuff but other things too – one other topic I discuss every so often on this blog is the passing of my mother several years ago.
After she died, and I turned to Christians for help (both family and non-family), they gave me platitudes (or shamed me or criticized me. Apparently, it was selfish of me to grieve my mother, I was supposed to get over her death INSTANTLY and not bother them with my feelings).
Absolutely none of them wanted to be there for me during the grief.
A lot of Christians like to offer up empty words, but many (most?) don’t want to get off their asses and actually help another person out, whether it’s about death in the family, or being single when you want to be married.
Had I known better when I was younger, I probably would’ve made better or different choices, as well.
My mother in particular brought me up to think I was going to be a “June Cleaver” type of stay at home mother and wife one day – I was brought up to be dependent on a husband. Well, I never married. (I was engaged to a guy once but I dumped him.)
Had I known way back when, I would’ve made different choices, certainly about career matters, and so on.
I’m sorry for what you’ve been through.
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By the way, I’ve been on a journey of faith. I was a devout Christian since youth, but I have been questioning the faith the last few years, which shows up in some of my posts of the last couple of years.
You may see me at times on this blog being critical of Christians, or the faith, or whatever Christianity-related.
Which is not to say I cheer on critics of Christianity or cheer on rude atheists (I sometimes post things critical about those groups as well).
I sometimes express anger on this blog, which may (or may not) include using the occasional cuss word.
My mother brought me up to believe it is wrong, un-Christian-like, or un-lady-like for me to ever show anger, so I have years of pent up anger.
I am tired of holding all the anger in so as not to offend Christians or because of stupid gender stereotypes.
I know a lot of Christians are uncomfortable with vulgar language, but I am tired of holding my anger in all the time.
I sometimes use this blog to blow off steam. That may turn off some Christians.
“I’ve seen married people tell these people that their virginity is for God’s glory . . . ” That is a perfect description of a Pet Virgin. (It’s a term I made up, which is why you’ve never heard of it before.) Pet Virgins are a kind of surrogate for those who are unwilling to live a sacrificial life of chastity and are lucky enough to escape that fate.
I thoroughly understand your need to vent and use language others might frown on. There is a time and place for such words, when used carefully. Believe me, I understand your frustration; I share it too. Some of the things people have said to me !!! Well, I am at the age where I am no longer willing to suffer fools gladly or at all and I feel I have earned the right to say my piece whether people like it or not.