Machine Learning Identifies the Most Important Predictors of Infidelity by Ross Pomeroy

Machine Learning Identifies the Most Important Predictors of Infidelity by Ross Pomeroy

Well, then. So much for that Christian promise that marriage equates to regular and hot sex.

(Link): Machine Learning Identifies the Most Important Predictors of Infidelity by Ross Pomeroy

Sept 30, 2021

Researchers have used a machine learning approach to identify factors that predict someone’s likelihood to cheat in a relationship. Their findings were published late August to the Journal of Sex Research.

Authors Laura M. Vowels, Matthew J. Vowels, and Kristen P. Mark ran an algorithm through in-depth survey data from 891 participants gathered in 2014.

The anonymous questionnaire asked about sexual satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, sexual behaviors, romantic and sexual desires, a range of demographic information, as well as whether or not the participant had had sex with someone other than their partner during their most recent or current relationship. About a third of survey takers admitted to this kind of infidelity – 43.4% of men and 25.7% of women.

So what factors predicted cheating?

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Russian ‘Sex Coach’ Was Repeatedly Stabbed in the Head by Her ‘Jealous’ Husband

Russian ‘Sex Coach’ Was Repeatedly Stabbed in the Head by Her ‘Jealous’ Husband

As I was saying on Twitter, the older I get, and I continue to see such news stories as the one in this post, the happier I feel to be single and celibate.

I cannot believe as I grew up that the evangelical / Baptist / Protestant culture brainwashed everyone to think that being single is “second best” and being chaste over the age of 25 was “impossible” or somehow “not worth it.”

I see so many people who, as teens or adults, are not happy from having sex outside of marriage, or they get married, and they have a sexless marriage, or their spouse abuses them.

You’re ultimately not going to find healing and hope in another person (i.e., a spouse).

This news story should be another sign to Christians who keep peddling false notions about singleness, dating, sex, and marriage that sexual purity is not for singles only.

You have married people out there who think it’s acceptable to work as “sex coaches,” or open their own “only fans” accounts, or to “wife swap” (see links under “Related” below for examples).

Churches need to remind MARRIED people that sexual purity is for them as well. It’s not single adults that are falling into sexual temptations left and right, it’s married couples who are.

I don’t approve of this married woman’s “sex coach” occupation, but no, I sure don’t defend the husband stabbing her to death over it, or for whatever reasons he had.

Note that these are two married people who had a couple of children together. The pro-marriage and pro-have-children Christians and conservatives are wrong to teach (as they do) that getting married and having children will always (or even usually) make people more godly, loving, mature and ethical.

I have many more examples on my blog here that demonstrate that marriage and/or parenthood do NOT make people more ethical, responsible, godly, loving, mature, etc.

(Link): Russian ‘sex coach’ was repeatedly stabbed in the head by her ‘jealous’ husband

Excerpts:

by Will Stewart
Sept 22, 2021

A Russian ‘psychologist and sex coach’ was repeatedly stabbed in the head by her husband who then threw her body from a 130ft-high building.

Rustam Mursalov, 24, confessed to killing his wife Alexandra Mursalova, 25, out of ‘jealousy’, according to reports.

Mursalova, who had two children with personal trainer Mursalov, worked with wealthy clients in St Petersburg.

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Christian MLB Star Ben Zobrist Claims Wife Had an Affair With Their Pastor and Marriage Counselor

Christian MLB Star Ben Zobrist Claims Wife Had an Affair With Their Pastor and Marriage Counselor

Assuming this guy is telling the truth, this one, lone headline manages to summarize about three or four the usual ten or so topics I regularly blog about!

Where do I even start with this one?

Okay. Many Christians – the ones who are obsessed with promoting marriage, parenthood, and The Nuclear Family – often like to claim that marriage (or being a parent) makes a person more godly, mature, loving, responsible, or ethical.
Clearly, this is false, because I have a shit load of news stories on this blog of married people (and parents) who are law breakers, selfish, or perverts.

Let’s see, what other garbage do pro-family values Christians and secular conservatives frequently teach that this story shows to be false that I’ve been covering here for literally years now?

Let’s see, oh yes:
Marriage supposedly makes Christian adults impervious to sexual sin… if Christians just get married, they will have great, regular, hot sex (with their spouse) and never have an affair on their spouse, or molest children, or use porn. All of that is false.

Other falsehoods: single (unmarried) adult women are sexual harlots and temptresses, so married men should stay away from them per the “Billy Graham Rule” (or “Mike Pence Rule”).
Well, the woman in this story is MARRIED. She is not widowed, divorced, or never-married (single), but a married chick who allegedly screwed around on her husband.

The male headship rule – Christian complementarians, and some secular sexist men in our nation – like to assume that men are specially or uniquely qualified to lead women, to lead on the job, to lead in politics.
But yet gain, we see via this news story that men commit sexual sin, some men lack self control and mores, and there is nothing special about maleness that causes men to be more virtuous or better than women.

Complementarians teach that only men “need” or “want” sex, but obviously, unless the married lady in this story was having affairs to meet emotional needs, she clearly enjoys boning men.
Women do enjoy sex, too, not just men, but this flies in the face of the sexist assumptions of many people in American culture both inside and out of the church.

And there’s just something ironic about the fact that allegedly, one of the men she had an affair with was a marriage counselor!
This is like the news story about the (Link): marriage counselor who murdered the woman he was going to marry, because she asked him to sign a pre-nup agreement.

There is nothing about marriage that makes people more worthy, ethical, happier, more godly or whatever else, than people who are single, widowed, or divorced.

(Link): Former MLB Star Ben Zobrist Accuses Pastor of Affair With His Wife and Defrauding Charity

(Link):  Retired MLB Star Accuses Pastor of Extramarital Affair with His Wife and Defrauding His Charity: Lawsuit 

Retired baseball player Ben Zobrist – the 2016 World Series MVP who led the Chicago Cubs to the franchise’s first championship in 108 years – is accusing pastor Byron Yawn of having an extramarital affair with his wife Julianna and of defrauding his charity.

In a lawsuit filed in Tennessee on May 6, Zobrist, 40, claims Yawn “usurped the ministerial-counselor role, violated and betrayed the confidence entrusted to him by [Zobrist], breached his fiduciary duty owed to [Zobrist] and deceitfully used his access as counselor to engage in an inappropriate sexual relationship with [Zobrist]’s wife,” according to NBC News, the Peoria Journal Star, and the Chicago Tribune, which obtained the lawsuit documents.

(Link): Ex-Cubs star Ben Zobrist claims wife Julianna had affair with their pastor, lawsuit says

(Link): Christian MLB Star Ben Zobrist Claims Wife Had an Affair With Their Pastor and Marriage Counselor

Excerpts:

By Jeannie Ortega Law
June 22, 2021

A recent court filing on behalf of outspoken Christian and former MLB player Ben Zobrist alleges that his wife, pop singer Julianna Zobrist, had an affair with the couple’s former Tennessee pastor, who also served as their marriage counselor.

Zobrist, who played in the MLB from 2006 to 2019, is now suing the former minister for damages, claiming he defrauded his charitable foundation.

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North Carolina Adultery Law Remains On Books After Repeal Effort Fails

North Carolina Adultery Law Remains On Books After Repeal Effort Fails

(Link): North Carolina Adultery Law Remains On Books After Repeal Effort Fails

North Carolina is one of only a handful of states that have similar laws

by Brie Stimson

North Carolina lawmakers killed a bill this week that would have repealed a more-than-a-century-old law that allows people to sue their spouse’s lover for “alienation of affection,” according to reports.

State Rep. Wesley Harris, a Democrat who sponsored the bill, contended the law was both “archaic and antiquated.”

“This was started in the 1700s in Great Britain when women were still treated as property of their husbands,” he said, according to WRAL-TV in Raleigh.

Jere Royall, director of community impact and counsel for the North Carolina Family Policy Council, disagreed.

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The Associated Press Re-Defines the Word ‘Mistress’ Out of Woke Concerns

The Associated Press Re-Defines the Word ‘Mistress’ Out of Woke Concerns

I realize that American  culture has long held double standards regarding sexual behavior, that men are allowed to be slutty, which only enhances their reputations among some, but if a woman is slutty, she gets referring to as a great big whore.

So yes, I am sympathetic to a point with the AP’s rationale behind this – but – I don’t fully support it.

Rather than holding men equally accountable for reprehensible behavior, “woke” moves like this one just seem to be watering down the same egregious behavior when committed by women. I myself don’t approve or EITHER biological sex committing adultery.

(Link): AP defends redefinition of ‘mistress’ following online ridicule, admits ‘alternative terms fall short’

(Link): The word ‘mistress’ is CANCELED: AP Stylebook bans use of the term because it ‘implies the woman is solely responsible for the affair’

(Link):  ‘Mistress’ becomes woke brigade’s latest target

The Associated Press Stylebook, which has traditionally set standards for language usage within the media landscape, mystified Twitter users Tuesday when it tweeted a reality-bending, wrist-slapping admonishment.

“Don’t use the term mistress for a woman who is in a long-term sexual relationship with, and is financially supported by, a man who is married to someone else. Instead, use an alternative like companion, friend or lover on first reference and provide additional details later,” the tweet read.

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Jealous Wife Stabs Husband After Mistaking Explicit, Younger Photos of Herself for Another Woman

Jealous Wife Stabs Husband After Mistaking Explicit, Younger Photos of Herself for Another Woman

(Link): Jealous wife stabs her husband multiple times after finding pictures of him having sex with ‘another woman’ – without realizing images were of HER taken years earlier

A jealous wife has been arrested in Mexico after she reportedly stabbed her husband in a blind rage when she found old photos on his cell phone of him having sex with ‘another’ woman – failing to realize the images were actually of her.

(Link): Jealous wife ‘stabs husband after mistaking explicit snaps of herself for another woman’

‘Leonora R’ was arrested after allegedly stabbing her husband during a row about explicit sex photos she’d found and failed to recognise her younger self

A jealous wife allegedly stabbed her husband after finding photos of him in bed with a ‘younger woman’, not realising it was actually her.

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A Married Florida Man Used A Dating App, Cops Say. They Think He Met His Murderer

A Married Florida Man Used A Dating App, Cops Say. They Think He Met His Murderer

(Link): A Married Florida Man Used A Dating App, Cops Say. They Think He Met His Murderer

Six days after Daytona Beach area man Bobby Scott was last seen, the Volusia County Sheriff’s Office arrested DeLand man Michael Harris Saturday night for Scott’s murder.

Harris, 20, remains in Volusia County jail without bond on a charge of second-degree murder with a deadly weapon.

VCSO said they still haven’t found the 63-year-old Scott’s body. What they did find on Tuesday, they say, was Scott’s vehicle with Harris in DeLand. Investigators say Harris claimed Scott loaned him the vehicle (VCSO didn’t specify whether it was a car, truck or SUV), but he hadn’t seen Scott since then.

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Wife Wakes Up and Stabs Husband After Dreaming He Cheated, Police Say

Wife Wakes Up and Stabs Husband After Dreaming He Cheated, Police Say

(Link): This Mississippi lady had a dream that her husband cheated on her. So she got up, got a knife from the kitchen, and shanked him while he slept! 😳 

(Link): Wife Wakes Up and Stabs Husband After Dreaming He Cheated, Police Say

by T. Kenney
Dec 31, 2020

A woman attacked her sleeping husband with a knife after dreaming he had been unfaithful, Mississippi authorities say.

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Survey Finds Cheaters Want Covid-19 Vaccine So They Can Have ‘Responsible’ Affairs

Survey Finds Cheaters Want Covid-19 Vaccine So They Can Have ‘Responsible’ Affairs

I’m assuming that at least some of these people mentioned below are married (edit: yes, they are, just finished reading the articles).

If so, I never, ever want marriage-idolating weenies such as Al Mohler or Brad Wilcox (of “National Marriage Project”) ever, ever again releasing their insulting editorials or slanted studies that convey, that, in their view, that marriage makes adults “better,” or more mature, godly, or ethical.

(Link): Cheaters want COVID-19 vaccine so they can have ‘responsible’ affairs, survey says

(Link): Survey Finds Cheaters Want Covid-19 Vaccine So They Can Have ‘Responsible’ Affair

by C. Moore

Some cheaters are looking forward to the coronavirus vaccine.

That’s what a new survey from the affair-arrangement dating site Ashley Madison is suggesting, which says four out of 10 cheaters would like to receive a COVID-19 vaccine so they can “responsibly continue having in-person affairs.”

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Hillsong Church Rife with ‘Inappropriate’ Sex, Members Claimed

Hillsong Church Rife with ‘Inappropriate’ Sex, Members Claimed

As someone who is not totally opposed to the idea of churches setting up social functions so that single adults may meet other single people (in the quest to get married), I’ve never promoted, nor do I defend, any church that actually devolves into a seedy sex racket, where members are going about willy nilly sleeping with each other, and I sure do not approve of sexual harassment.

But I don’t want to see Christians or churches out there pointing to garbage like this news story at Hillsong (Link): to excuse NOT LIFTING A FINGER  to help single adults get married – at least the ones who’d like and appreciate the help.

But what is reported here is not acceptable – and it makes you really question that “be equally yoked” rule so many Christians cram down the throats of singles: if so many of the (usually MARRIED) Christian men at these churches are sexual predators, why do some Christians tell single Christian women that the best, safest place to “husband hunt” is at their local church?

(Link): Hillsong church was a ‘breeding ground’ for inappropriate sex and leaders ‘sent nudes to female volunteers while sleeping around’, claim whistleblowers after disgraced leader’s multiple affairs were exposed

(Link): Hillsong Church Rife with ‘Inappropriate’ Sex, Members Claimed

by Mara Siegler and O. Coleman
December 17, 2020

Hillsong staffers used the church like a seedy dating service, “sleeping around” with volunteers and asking them to send nude pictures — according to a group of volunteers who allegedly complained about the situation. Continue reading “Hillsong Church Rife with ‘Inappropriate’ Sex, Members Claimed”

Hillsong’s Carl Lentz, Megachurch Pastor Who Ministered Justin Bieber, Fired and Admits Cheating on Wife

Hillsong’s Carl Lentz, Megachurch Pastor Who Ministered Justin Bieber, Fired and Admits Cheating on Wife

Many Christians claim that marriage will keep a person from sexually sinning. Many Christians claim that marriage will make a person more godly, mature, responsible, and ethical and that it is necessary to foster those qualities in a person.

But did being married, and being a parent, keep this guy from cheating on his wife? No. No it did not.

(Link): ‘He told me he wasn’t married’: Designer reveals Justin Bieber’s disgraced pastor Carl Lentz posed as an unmarried sports agent, says it was ‘love not just sex’ and they only broke up last week

(Link): Muslim woman claims she was in a relationship with Carl Lentz, unaware he was a pastor

(Link): Hillsong’s Carl Lentz, megachurch pastor who ministered Justin Bieber, fired and admits cheating on wife

Nob 6, 2020

BY LEANNE ITALIE / AP

Carl Lentz, the celebrity magnet of a pastor who brought the global megachurch Hillsong from Australia to the United States, has been fired, acknowledging on Instagram that he cheated on his wife.

The leader of HillsongNYC, who once ministered to Justin Bieber and a bevy of other celebrities and sports stars, wrote: “When you lead out of an empty place, you make choices that have real consequences. I was unfaithful in my marriage, the most important relationship in my life and held accountable for that.”

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Accusations That Jerry Falwell Jr. and His Wife Becki Are Kinky Perverts Who Sexually Abused College Aged Men

Accusations That Jerry Falwell Jr. and His Wife Becki Are Kinky Perverts Who Sexually Abused College Aged Men

I’ve not had a lot of time to write blog posts the last few months. These news stories that the Falwells were sexual deviants and sexual abusers who hit on young men started popping up a few weeks ago.

I finally have a little time now to blog about it.

The first guy who talked about this in the news says he was working as a pool cleaner, and that the wife had sex with him while the husband, Falwell Jr. watched. He says this ‘relationship’ went on for a few years.

A few days later, another news story broke where a different guy says that when he was in his twenties that Becki Falwell began grooming him for sexual abuse.

He says he was in Becki’s son’s college-aged rock band, and that every time he would go over to the Falwell property to practice music, that Becki would “hit” on him.

It ended with Becki performing oral sex on him unexpectedly as he was in bed, staying over at the Falwell property over night after a band practice.

The guy says the sexual abuse troubled him for years after.

It’s been noted in some reports that Liberty University – where Falwell Jr worked – has clauses stating that the school expects single adults (i.e., the students) to abstain from having sex outside of marriage.

But here we apparently (and allegedly) have married couple Becki and Jerry Falwell engaging in kinky sexual antics with third parties – talk about hypocrisy, expecting your students to live by one standard while you’re living by another.

You can read more about all this at the links below.

I know this gets repetitive at my blog, but here it is again:
Christians continue to disrespect adult singles and mock or dismiss adults (such as myself) who remain celibate, but they are constantly “hyping” marriage as being preferable to singleness.

Many conservative and Christian groups are regularly marketing a message that a decline in marriage rates will ruin the nation, that marriage (and being a parent), is necessary to “fix” our culture.

The marriage-pushing Christians further state that single adults are not as mature, godly, or responsible as their married counterparts. Al Mohler went so far as to say in one of his blog posts or podcasts that childless adults are not fully human.

In my years of running this blog, and prior, I’ve seen too many news stories published of married Christian pastors who are pedophiles or who are committing adultery to believe that marriage causes a person to behave in an ethical manner.

I am more than fed up with the evangelical, Baptist, Protestant Christian propaganda, the steady drumbeat, that married people are somehow “better” than singles, and that singleness is not as good as marriage. I’m not seeing the proof of that.

I do not want to see yet ANOTHER “marriage is better for society and for adults than remaining single is” from Al Mohler or Brad Wilcox, or any of these other marriage-pushing, anti-singles bigots, especially not in light of these news stories that come out every few months about yet ANOTHER well-known Christian personality who has been discovered to be engaged in sexual misbehavior.

It’s strange that this news story has gone quiet the last week or so. Not even the usual spiritual abuse blogs are discussing this – it’s as though they’ve all moved on or forgotten.

Both Jerry Jr. and Becki sound like disgusting, perverted deviants. I don’t have respect for either one.

(Link): Pool Boy: Jerry Falwell Jr. ‘Watched’ Me Have Sex With His Wife

(Link):  Becki Falwell denies sex with the pool boy in front of husband — but wishes Christians would be forgiving

(Link):  ‘I hope he tells the full truth’: The other young man who ‘had a personal relationship with Becki Falwell’ and sued the family over his stake in their gay-friendly hostel urges Giancarlo Granda to keep sharing details of affair

(Link):  Ex-LIBERTY student claims Falwell wife climbed into bed and performed oral sex on him…

A former Liberty University student who played in a band with Becki Falwell’s  son claims she performed oral sex on him when he was 22, in 2008

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