Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage by Andrew J. Bauman and Taylor May

(Link): Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

Excerpts:

by Andrew J. Bauman

I am proud to be writing this article in partnership with Taylor May, a survivor of emotional and spiritual abuse. She has boldly shared her own story about what it was like to be married to someone who had a Pornographic Style of Relating, (PSR) and what it felt like to be used by him with her Church’s consent.

*Trigger warning for those who have suffered this type of betrayal trauma.


I’ve written about the pornographic style of relating here (PSR), but today we will hear from the perspective of a woman who has lived on the other side of this dynamic.

Many people have been talking about this with the release of this new book [Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas] and some of its disturbing implications.

How can we talk about what these women are experiencing, and what can we learn from them?

Taylor May has offered her story and her experience below. My hope is that this can begin to clear up the muddy waters of what it means to live a Christlike marriage in a deeply pornified world.


by Taylor May

I didn’t realize how a pornographic style of relating was so deeply embedded into my first marriage until I was firmly planted into my second marriage.

That’s when I began to see the impact my first husband’s issue with lust had on my new, much healthier relationship.

Let me tell you my story, and how I and countless other women feel when our significant others lust for other women, on-screen or off.

Those of us who grew up in the evangelical Church have been told that we are responsible for men’s lust issues. This lie has been perpetrated by the church for far too long.

Many men are leading our church conversations with 90% of pastors being men, and considering that nearly 50% of those pastors self-report having used pornography, it would make sense that they would try to gaslight women by minimizing the destructive nature of porn use.

One way they do this is by framing it as a women’s issue or a sex issue, rather than the objectification of women/sin issue–one that stems from the person doing the objectifying.

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Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses

Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses

(Link): Brother’s Future Wife Expects Woman To Babysit 40 Kids During Their Wedding, Goes Ballistic When She Refuses

Excerpts:

…“We don’t get along at all,” the author of this r/AITA post said about Emily, her future SIL.

It turns out, Emily asked her to babysit the guests’ babies at their ‘childfree’ wedding, the same wedding she initially didn’t allow the author to attend because she was too young.

“In Emily’s eyes, a child is anyone under twenty-one years old,” the author explained.

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Calif. Mom Accused of Throwing Secret Alcohol-Filled Parties for Teens and Watching Them Have Sex

Calif. Mom Accused of Throwing Secret Alcohol-Filled Parties for Teens and Watching Them Have Sex

There’s nothing about parenthood that makes a person more loving, godly, mature or ethical – as marriage-promoters such as “Focus On the Family” and Al Mohler and Brad Wilcox insist.

(Link): Calif. Mom Accused of Throwing Secret Alcohol-Filled Parties for Teens and Watching Them Have Sex

Shannon O’Connor, formerly of Los Gatos, has been charged with 39 criminal counts, including felony child abuse, sexual assault, and providing alcohol to minors for hosting the parties

By Dan Heching
October 12, 2021

The mother of a teenager is being accused of hosting alcohol-fueled sex parties for him and his friends and then “facilitating and watching” their sex acts, some of which were non-consensual.

Shannon Marie O’Connor, from Los Gatos, California, is charged with offenses including felony child abuse, sexual assault, and providing alcohol to minors for hosting the parties, which she attempted to keep secret, according to the criminal complaint filed with the Santa Clara County Superior Court

O’Connor, 47, allegedly encouraged sex acts among the teens –– who are in the age range of 14 and 16 years old like her son –– and sometimes watched as well.

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Enraged New Yorkers Tear Down Sexually Explicit ‘OK Cupid’ Subway Ads

Enraged New Yorkers Tear Down Sexually Explicit ‘OK Cupid’ Subway Ads

(Link): Fed-up straphanger tears down ‘gross’ dating-app ads in viral video

More like “Ok Stupid.”

A fed-up New Yorker tore down lurid subway advertisements for the dating app OK Cupid.

“All of this is gross. For kids to be looking at this, is that OK??” she said in viral videos posted to Twitter on Wednesday.

The woman walked up and down the D train car, ripping the ads down — while ranting about COVID-19 and communism — as silent, masked straphangers looked on.

It’s not clear just when the video was recorded. The colorful ads began to appear on subway trains over the summer.

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Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)

Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)

(Link):  Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)

Excerpts:

by Liucija Adomaite and Mindaugas Balčiauskas

When taken literally, the term “nice guy” refers to someone that anyone would like: a man who is gentle, compassionate, and agreeable.

But in popular dating culture, the same term can be used to describe an insecure man who expects his kindness to be rewarded with physical affection.

Women who have an experience being friends with “a nice guy” often tell about how they manage to use their friendship with an ulterior motive to progress it to a romantic and sexual relationship.

So when someone asked on r/AskReddit “Women of Reddit, what’s your cringy ‘nice guy’ story?” the question immediately resonated, amassing 11.4k comments with various such stories.

Scroll through the cringiest and creepiest down below, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below!

#3.

Some guy messaged me online and seemed nice enough. Asked if I’d like to meet up with him. I said sure.

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Couple Die of Covid, Leaving Behind Newborn and Five Children

Couple Die of Covid, Leaving Behind Newborn and Five Children

Such a sad story. Condolences to the family and friends of the couple.

For those of you who may visit this blog every so often – especially if you’re an unmarried adult who wanted to marry (and maybe have children too), but you find yourself single (and childless) into your 30s, 40s, or older, I think news stories like this one are eye opening.

Just because some people do marry (and have children) doesn’t mean it’s a happy life or a happy ending.

I have more news stories on my blog (see “Related Posts” below) of people who died shortly before or right after getting married! I have news stories of people who died in a car crash on their way to their own wedding and so on.

Here’s a couple who each died shortly within one another, not long after the wife gave birth.

I feel particularly bad for the children – to grow up with neither parent. 

And really, Christians who “hype” marriage (and parenthood) way too much, to the point they shame singles for being single and not having children – such as Al Mohler – need to stop doing so (as they sometimes do) by falsely painting this picture of “most to all of your problems in life will be solved if you just marry and have children.”

(Link): California couple die of Covid and leave behind 5 kids, including newborn daughter

September 13, 2021
by William Wong

Daniel Macias wanted to wait until he and his wife, Davy Macias, recovered from the coronavirus before naming their newborn daughter.

But about a week after giving birth, the mother died of Covid-19 complications. And nearly two weeks after she died, so did her husband.

Davy Macias was 37, and Daniel Macias was 39, Terri Serey, Davy Macias’ sister-in-law, told NBC News on Monday.

The couple, both of Yucaipa, California, left behind five children, ages 7, 5, 3, 2 and 3 weeks.

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The West Needs a Better System for Identifying Radical Islamists by Tawfik Hamid

The West Needs a Better System for Identifying Radical Islamists by Tawfik Hamid

The following piece was written by a Muslim who is a self-identifying ex-Islamic Jihadist.

(I conveyed some of the same sentiments as he does in his WSJ article in blog posts here years ago, and on my SoloLoner Twitter account, but the clowns 🤡 at progressive Christian Stephanie Drury’s “Stuff Christian Culture Likes” Facebook group ripped on me years ago for saying the same thing this Muslim guy does here):

(Link): The War on Terror Shifts to ‘Brainistan’  by Tawfik Hamid

Excerpts:

The West needs a better system for identifying radical Islamists and cutting out the religious underpinnings of jihad.

September 10, 2021

Twenty years ago, 19 of my fellow Arab Muslims carried out the worst foreign attack on American soil in history.

Slipping into the country legally and apparently without raising alarm bells among our intelligence and law-enforcement communities, these members of al Qaeda, a radical Islamist group bent on jihad, crashed two commercial airliners into New York’s World Trade Center towers and a third plane into the Pentagon.

They failed with a fourth aircraft because of the actions of courageous and selfless passengers. As a result, nearly 3,000 people were murdered that day, and many more have succumbed to related injuries in the ensuing years.

I mention all this not to recall the obvious, but to make the point that such immense harm to our nation could be effected by a small group of dedicated terrorists.

Yet now, in the name of protecting Afghan nationals who helped our military and intelligence services—and of providing the prospect of better lives to the hundreds of thousands who stream across our southern border this year—we have created conditions favorable to another, perhaps much deadlier terror attack on the U.S.

Sad but true: In the 20 years since 9/11, we have continuously worked to fight only the symptoms of what transpired that horrible day.

[The author goes on to list steps that the U.S. government did to combat Islamic terrorism in the aftermath of 9/11]

Yet here we are, on Sept. 11, 2021, still vulnerable to the same sort of act that transpired 20 years ago despite our enormous expenditure of treasure and precious blood. I guarantee you, among those who are entering our shores and crossing our borders are men hell-bent on dwarfing 9/11 and declaring another victorious jihad.

How do I know this? I was once one of them.

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Taliban Responds to Tony Blinkin and Woke Leftists: “Women Can’t be Ministers – They Should Give Birth”

Taliban Responds to Tony Blinkin and Woke Leftists: “Women Can’t be Ministers – They Should Give Birth”

With yet another example of how some Muslims don’t respect or care about American, leftist, woke, “Intersectionalism” and identity politics –
I present to you a news headline that sounds like something that could’ve also come out of an American, Christian Gender Complementarian podcast, blog post, or tweet by Doug Wilson, John Piper, Al Mohler, or whatever other complementarian:

(Link): Women can’t be ministers, they should give birth: Taliban spokesperson

(Link):  ‘A woman can’t be a minister – they should give birth’: Taliban dismiss the idea of female ministers as they ‘prepare to hold government inauguration on 9/11 to TROLL the US’

by David Averre
September 10, 2021

A Taliban spokesman declared on Thursday that women will never take up a ministerial position in government because it’s a burden that they ‘cannot carry’ and they should instead ‘give birth’.

In an interview with Afghan outlet TOLO News, spokesman Sayed Zekrullah Hashimi declared that the Taliban ‘do not consider women to be half of the society’ and that allowing a woman to become a government minister would be to ‘put something on her neck that she cannot carry.’

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The Two Reasons Parents Regret Having Kids by G. Cornwall

The Two Reasons Parents Regret Having Kids

(Link): The Two Reasons Parents Regret Having Kids

Excerpts:

Aug 31, 2021
by Gail Cornwall

A small but significant proportion of mothers and fathers wish they’d never had children. The whole family can suffer as a result.

Carrie wishes that she’d never had children. She spent a few years feeling satisfied as a mother, but now locks herself in the kitchen and wonders, Who am I? What am I doing here? 

She can’t pursue paid work, because she has to shepherd her 12-year-old and 10-year-old to school as well as to therapy appointments for their disabilities.

Carrie, who lives in the U.K., told me that she often fantasizes about visiting her friend in Hawaii and never coming back. Her words felt so taboo that she asked to be referred to by only her first name. But sentiments of parental regret are less rare than one might imagine.

When American parents older than 45 were asked in a 2013 Gallup poll how many kids they would have if they could “do it over,” approximately 7 percent said zero.

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Designer Baby Revolution: Can We Outlaw Sexual Reproduction?

Designer Baby Revolution: Can We Outlaw Sexual Reproduction?

(Link): Designer Baby Revolution: Can We Outlaw Sexual Reproduction?

By Cameron English — August 30, 2021

Could governments mandate that we quit reproducing sexually for the sake of public health? It sounds outlandish, but there are prominent thinkers making that case.

Their argument is superficially plausible but ultimately absurd, both for scientific and ethical reasons.


…. However this particular dispute ends, the opposing sides and the underlying point of contention, who controls your body, aren’t going anywhere soon.

The reason is that advances in health care are enabling physicians to identify the genetic underpinnings of serious diseases and take preventative measures before their patients suffer the debilitating effects of these disorders.

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‘The Taliban Will Enjoy Killing Us’: Gay Man Trapped in Afghanistan Says Extremists ‘Are Hunting Us’

‘The Taliban Will Enjoy Killing Us’: Gay Man Trapped in Afghanistan Says Extremists ‘Are Hunting Us’

Bear in mind as you read this story below that many American liberals and leftists often…

– especially the ex-Christians, or the guys who use the “Exvie” (ex-evangelical) tags on Twitter, or some of the Facebook groups that rant about Christian spiritual abuse and in favor of leftist identity politics –

…behave as though American evangelical Christians or Republicans are the biggest threats to homosexuals.

Aside from homosexuals, the Taliban (Muslim extremists) don’t like Christians; I just heard the other day that Christians trying to flee Afghanistan say that if the Taliban catches a Christian, they will set a living Christian on fire.

I’d be a little less concerned if someone won’t use my “pronouns” or refuses to bake me a wedding cake over my sexual identity or behavior, and more concerned over being shot or burned alive by Muslim extremists for political or religions disagreements.

(Link): Gay Afghan: The Taliban Killed My Boyfriend

(Link): Men from Afghanistan’s secret gay community say they are living through a ‘nightmare’ and fear that the Taliban will execute them at any moment

(Link): LGBT in Afghanistan: ‘I could be killed on the spot’

(Link): ‘The Taliban Will Enjoy Killing Us’: Gay Man Trapped in Afghanistan Says Extremists ‘Are Hunting Us’

by Owen Holdaway, Nick Craven, David Averre

A gay man trapped in Kabul has said the Taliban ‘are hunting us’ as he gave a harrowing description of what a life under the extremists’ rule would look like for the LGBTQ+ community.

The man, whose identity has been concealed for his own safety, said the Taliban would take pleasure in hunting down and killing LGBTQ+ people in an exclusive interview with MailOnline.

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Amid Population Crisis, China Will Now Allow Three Children Per Family

Amid Population Crisis, China Will Now Allow Three Children Per Family

(Link): Amid Population Crisis, China Will Now Allow Three Children Per Family

by Jazz Shaw
August 23, 2021

Beginning back in 1980, China imposed a “one-child policy” on families in an effort to control population growth and supposedly make more resources available for every citizen.

The results of that type of state control over human biology were catastrophic on a number of levels, not least of which was the millions of forced abortions that ensued.

But there were other issues as well.

The country has been facing what the government admits is a “demographic crisis” that threatens to undermine the economy and the nation’s stability.

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